to complain to a large supermarket via social media regarding breastfeeding

[jemima1988]

in my local supermarket they have a breastfeeding room it's fab and I use it a lot..
I visited the same supermarket in a different location I didn't realise that not all branches had this facility. Whilst in there today u asked a member of staff where the breastfeeding room was he very rudely told me to use the disabled toilets! There is a cafe in the supermarket why not recommended that first ?!?
I have messaged said supermarket on twitter saying I felt upset

am i being hormonal and UR?

I loved John Lewis's parents' room when I was breastfeeding...twelve years ago!

You are being completely unreasonable. And I have breastfed all four of my children into toddlerhood, anywhere and everywhere. I'm even one of those weirdos who breastfeeds in the swimming pool. But you asked for a private room. Nobody told you you couldn't breastfeed anywhere you like.

The breastfeeding pearl clutchers are just getting fucking dull now.

It's like a rent a mob for people who are too fucking idiotic to care about something worthwhile.

If you want to breastfeed just fucking breastfeed. Why does everyone else have to fucking hear about it?

I speak as someone who breastfed for two years. Get over it already.

Well said timer.

He should not have suggested the disabled toilet because it makes it unavailable for the disabled. I would not be happy about having to wait with ds kicking off in a dirty nappy because someone is feeding a baby in there.

Don't you think it's a worthwhile thing to care about then Timer? That's a very peculiar attitude from somebody who apparently fed for 2 years.

Of course it's a fucking worthwhile thing to care about.

No, I don't think it's a worthwhile thing to go constantly looking for fights about.

Just feed your kid. If someone comes over and tries to stop you feeding your kid, then by all means know your rights and enforce them. But it seems fashionable to go about making a bloody song and dance about it at the moment, which simply makes breastfeeders look like bonkers tunnel visioned earth mothers, which does nothing to make breastfeeding either more mainstream or more acceptable.

I agree zazzie. It would be incredibly unreasonable to take up the one toilet that a person with disabilities might be able to access/use to breastfeed.

*He was put on the spot and probably has no opinion on the rights or wrongs of public breast feeding.

You asked for a special room and he suggested the one space that is big and has a chair. Nowhere in that was he using code for 'and don't you dare use the cafe to feed in'.

Get a grip*

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You asked about a breastfeeding room. The implication being, since the cafe was an obvious place, you didn't want to use the cafe and wanted a private room. He directed you to the only private place he could think of.

YABVU. As you asked for a specific breastfeeding area he reasonably assumed you were looked for somewhere a bit private, so disabled toilet is probably what he assumed would be the best bet/or has been told to suggest to ladies who want privacy.

It's a supermarket, be happy they can cater to your need to feed your baby in the first place, not whinge because they don't all have the same specific facilities.

Timer - I could kiss you. Great comments :)

Blocking the disabled toilet to BF would be very selfish, that seems the biggest issue to me.

Timer

YYY

If this was a young guy with no knowledge really when it comes to the issues/incidents re breastfeeding in public recently, he could well have just put 2+2 together and got 5 if the baby changing facilities are shared with the disabled loo. Not here for a discussion on the rights/wrongs of this, but I know my younger brother for example (24 and used to work in a supermarket) would have come up with 'the baby changing area' first and suggested the disabled loo by default.

The store and the colleague probably don't have anything against breastfeeding. I bet if you'd asked a member of staff who happened to be a mother also you may have got a few more creative suggestions. More by luck than anything else.

Would you have preferred 'sorry, we don't have one'?? Presumably staff are told to try and provide a solution rather than just say no, even if it's not necessarily the most suitable answer with 20:20 hindsight

So the OP has buggered off, then? Did we not give her the right answer?

Yy timer

Thank you timer, you worded it far better than I ever could.

Breast feed or don't, I don't care or want to hear about it all the time.

I would go to the cafe, do it those benches they often have by the tills, or just stick baby in sling and do it whilst shopping. Why don't you just do it wherever like normal people?

Go up top timer ability to bf is now a right. Just go ahead. No one cares or should care a flying fig how anyone feeds any baby.

It would be disgraceful for any able bodied person to occupy a disabled toilet. That's so so selfish.