To demand he doesn't drink drive

[Quadrophonic]

Husband goes out on a Friday night, most weeks. Every 3 weeks he works a Saturday morning and in sick of warning him that driving at 5.30am is not a good idea if you've drunk 5 pints the night before and got home at 11pm.

Last night he watched the rugby and stayed out till 12.30, came in absolutely legless and came straight to bed. I work every Saturday morning so went off to work. Spoke to son on fb who said that they were off to football at 9.20am!

Rang husband who insisted he was fine and ok to drive, he wouldn't listen at all so I spent all morning in work in between seething and worrying that he was going to be stopped and or breathalysed.

I've just got home and we've had a blazing row. I think it's completely out of the question that he should drink 8 / 9 pints like he did last night then drive this morning. He can't see the problem as he feels ok and it's an hour per pint to leave the system not the 1 hour per UNIT - 2 in a pint.

He sees his Friday nights out as his God given right and everything has to fit around it. He has no drinking off switch and cannot go out and only have a few pints. I've warned him he will blow our lives apart if he gets caught, lose his job, possibly kill someone, possibly go to prison, be banned, fined etc but I dint think he thinks it will ever happen to him.

His parting shot was that I don't have any interest in the kids hobbies and if I did I would arrange for my son to have a lift so then he doesn't have to drive!! Cheeky barsteward!!! I work every Saturday morning!! I told him that if he had any interest in his kids he wouldn't risk their lives by drink driving with them.

Apart from asking the local pcso to come and have a word with him I don't know what else will make him listen, he's 50, has always done it so can't see the problem

www.heraldscotland.com/mobile/news/home-news/drivers-clear-shelves-of-diy-breath-test-kits.114445208

The general advice is not to rely on them, morning after or not. The issue about testing at night is that you can still be absorbing alcohol and your reading go up. But whatever time you test doesn't change that an over the counter test is not calibrated like the much more expensive ones police use, so can give a false negative - and then is no defence in law to say you checked with one and it said you were okay.

Play him this song...
m.youtube.com/watch?v=1ih6bimPL3c

Sends a message to anyone who drives with alcohol in their system

(POTENTIALLY TRIGGERING song though, especially for anyone who's had a loved one killed by a drunk driver)

Someone called your dh a fuckwit - spot on.

OP, you know your DH drink drives regularly. You also allowed him to take your son in the car whilst he was over the legal limit. You KNOW you aren't bring unreasonable, so what are you going to do now?

Please show your selfish idiotic husband this thread. Especially the comments where people have lost loved ones to his kind. How would he feel if one of his loved ones were killed by a drunk driver? I'm pretty sure he'd change his ways or is he waiting for an accident to happen before realising how bad it is?

Strap him to the chair in front of the computer and make him watch this.

Good luck.

I am so sorry, LittleBrownRabbit. I lost a good friend, Candice Kim, age 21, in 1992 to a drink driver who also thought she was fine the morning after.

I am also a bereaved parent, albeit by cancer, my daughter dying of this natural cause 2 years ago, age 9. I understand the pain a family feels when a son or daughter, a brother or sister, is taken. I can only imagine how that feels when it is by the actions of a selfish fuck who puts booze ahead of someone's life.

And so I think the limit should be ZERO and the penalty very severe and for killing a person when over the limit, that person's life in prison.

I used to drink a lot, even in the US, where there was no public transport, I never drove drunk due to knowing so many who died due to drunk drivers.

I don't understand people who protect such people, because it might be someone else's child they kill.

' I can't be around people that drink a huge amount the night before then drive in the morning. '

I would grass them to the cops. Yes, I really would. And have.

I spent the night in the office with my boss (erm, not like that ) as we were too plastered to drive and needed to wait till the next morning, a Saturday, for our respective spouses to come get us as it was stupid o'clock when we stopped partying, have paid for taxis, begged lifts off friends, walked miles, anything but drive drunk.

It's not hard to avoid in the UK.

The friend I got the last link from also provided this one

a bit o/t but worth watching and remembering.

I would invest in a home breathalyser. I have one.

Its interesting because there were times where I felt I should be over the limit due to the so called guidelines, and a had zero alcohol in my blood.

The only way to really know is to test with a properly calibrated machine.

It may be that you have nothing to worry about.

It must be hard living with someone who has an alcohol problem OP.
Have you looked at getting some support for yourself?

Can you arrange for other transport for your child?

I agree with Tatty that you need to get a home breathalyser. You don't actually know that he has ever been over the limit, people clear alcohol from their systems at different rates. If you think he is driving over the limit buy a good breathalyser and make him use it before he drives. They are very widely available.