DH is older than me (58, I'm 44), we have 3 DC and are very happy overall. He has a few health problems involving medication, nothing too serious, but it's becoming increasingly clear we will never have sex again. I've tried so hard to rationalise this, try to get a sense of perspective, blah blah blah, but the reality is I'm devastated. I almost feel bereaved. He is very sweet, loving and considerate and very happy to do other things if you get my drift but it's not the same. Sorry to be crude but I want a big hard human penis inside me. Not something neon pink, plastic and battery operated. This has now been the case for about a year and I am feeling that I'll never come to terms with it. I have not been explicit about how I feel because I love him and it's not his fault but once or twice I've not been able to hold back the tears which of course makes him feel like shit.
He takes some pills, not viagra, one of the others, can't remember its name, it's the only one he can take that doesn't interfere with his other medication, but it doesn't work properly.
There appears to be no solution other than for me to learn to live with it. Any tips on how to do that? I'm only 44. I don't feel I can spend the rest of my life without sex. 