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re ruined Ugg boots

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gemandjule · 07/02/2015 13:09

Background; dd1 is 16, dd2 is 14. They usually get on very well. They are much the same clothes and shoe size and so have decided themselves to share their clothes as this doubles both their available wardrobe. The deal is they have to check with the actual owner of the item before they borrow it.

So DD2 got Uggs for Christmas last year, 14 months ago now. DD1 had an old pair of Uggs which wore out and so she threw them out. As Uggs are dear they can only get them for either Christmas or birthday present and DD1 did not want to "waste" her Christmas present on new Uggs.

This winter DD2 agreed to share the Uggs with her. This worked fine for a few months but today DD2 had a meltdown. Apparently DD1 has worn the Uggs on a number of occasions with thick fluffy socks inside them so now they are stretched and no longer fit DD2.

DD1 says this was unintentional and therefore she is not responsible for the damage. I think she should have taken more care with a valuable item she had borrowed and needs to make a contribution towards a new pair for DD2. Not the full price obviously as she would never save this up, the boots are 14 months old anyway and she didn't intentionally ruin them, but maybe £50. She gets £20/week pocket money and has to pay for her social life from this, but not clothes, shoes etc unless she wants something she really doesn't need and so has to save up. So to save up £50 will make a difference to her.

My DH just wants to buy new Uggs for DD2 and forget about it. We can afford them but never normally buy expensive luxury items for them except at birthday/christmas.

Whose right here??

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Coumarin · 07/02/2015 15:59

They stretched because two people have been wearing them so the time they've been worn has been doubled iyswim.

Even if it was the socks, it was an accident. I'd relax, pick your battles and buy them both a new pair as you can afford it.

It's good that she didn't even ask for a pair of her own. They have a good relationship. They both sound thoughtful and mature. You can afford new boots.

PrincessPilolevuofTONGA · 07/02/2015 16:00

look on branch309. it's the outlet for Schuh. tehy often have cheap uggs. they coudl perhaps be replaced for less

PrimalLass · 07/02/2015 16:01

I have also washed an Ikea sheepskin rug. I tumbled dried it for 10 minutes once it was dry, to fluff up the fur.

SistersOfPercy · 07/02/2015 16:14

Well primal my bin can testify that mine ruined AND faded. Personally I prefer to wet them and clean them with Ugg shampoo without soaking them fully and machine washing. That method has never faded nor left my other sheepskin boots shiny.

PrimalLass · 07/02/2015 16:19

I was typing that while you posted. I haven't tried washing a black pair before - but have just put my fakey tkmaxx black ones in on the back of this thread.

SistersOfPercy · 07/02/2015 16:21

They faded badly. Maybe chestnut ones would fare better but I really wouldn't recommended machine washing black ones.

holidaysarenice · 07/02/2015 16:22

They are fourteen months old, fifty quid is ridiculous!!

And really they won't be that stretched!! Put an insole in them!
Tell dd2 to stop being a princess and dd1 to buy her something nice to make her feel better and say sorry for an accident!!

afreshstartplease · 07/02/2015 16:23

Mine are in!

Delicate 30 cycle

They had been dominated as dossing about the house and Garden boots so no loss really

PrimalLass · 07/02/2015 16:23

Oh well, they are in now. I'll never waste money on fakey uggs again - £40 not well spent.

PrimalLass · 07/02/2015 16:24

Yippee afreshstartplease me too. Mine have stretched so much I can't wear them outside because I shuffle. Once these are done I'll wash the two sorry-looking chestnut pairs.

MauriceTheCat · 07/02/2015 16:27

Let DD "buy" the old pair for £50. You give DD2 a new pair

Henbur1702 · 07/02/2015 16:32

I think its lovely that they share like this and it would be a shame to cause any ill feeling, resentment that spoils this arrangement when it was unintentional and they were old(ish) boots anyway. Personally I think it's a bit unfair that one gets a new pair of uggs, (as you say they are normally a birthday or Xmas gift and when all said and done they were over a year old) whilst the other is made to contribute to them, especially when it was not malicious or careless, she just had no idea that the socks would stretch them - if indeed they did stretch them so much they are unwearable Confused. Anyways, I'd buy dd2 a new pair and let dd1 have the old ones - if it were me I'd let her just have them, but I'd certainly let her if she is to contribute!

SeeChooJimmy · 07/02/2015 16:41

www.mandmdirect.com/01/ugg?fh_view_size=96 i would buy each of them a new pair to eliminate having to share shoes, and they will both be happy theres plenty in the sales just now.

diddl · 07/02/2015 16:55

I think that 16 is old enough to take more care tbh. Also she decided not to "waste" her Christmas present on Uggs, but still got the use of a pair!

I can see why your youngest is upset.

I would try to shrink them back & if it doesn't work, I think that she deserves a new pair.

Would be nice if the eldest bought her a thank you present.

And no Ugg/shoe sharing in future!

diddl · 07/02/2015 17:01

Oops!

Meant if they shrink back eldest buys a thank you present & if they don't she contributes maybe a third?

Seems to me that with £20 a week she could have bought herself a new pair without borrowing her sisters!

samsam123 · 07/02/2015 17:04

they are ugly revolting things anyway so buy something tasteful instead

DeliciousMonster · 07/02/2015 17:07

OP.

Don't wash them .

Let them sort it out. If one discovers that they can be washed and will shrink back, then great.

Instead of leaping in every time to solve everyone else's problems every time, let them learn do solve their own.

Goodness me.

PrimalLass · 07/02/2015 17:08

OK, mine have gone through one wool wash and look ok. Have put them on for a second rinse.

afreshstartplease · 07/02/2015 17:11

Mine are still going

Seriouslyffs · 07/02/2015 17:30

If you can afford to replace them I would as a small price for having daughters who share clothes and get on!

Henbur1702 · 07/02/2015 17:58

Samsam they are 14 and 16 they make decisions based on what is fashionable / what their friends wear, not on what is tasteful.

MrsPeterQuill · 07/02/2015 18:27

Who wears Uggs anymore anyway? Haven't seen any teens in them for a few years round here, even Primark have stopped selling those cheap, crappy ones. Are you sure your DD isn't angling for something a bit more fashionable instead by saying they're ruined?

Original poster
gemandjule · 07/02/2015 19:51

Hmm. My kids are obviously completely out of touch with current fashion trends. I'll have to try and change their opinion to keep up to date with the times. Maybe you could advise them mrsquill.
Meanwhile they love them on cold winter days when they are going to town to meet friends, go to rehearsals, getting changed after hockey training on a frozen pitch etc. Silly and passé I know.

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DaygloYellowLady · 07/02/2015 20:11

This is the danger of sharing clothes.
My sister was an absolute bugger forborrowing my things and returning them in a condition that meant I couldn't use them any more. Before DD1 wore the shoes DD2 had a pair of wearable shoes, now she doesn't and they should be replaced. Although, I have to say your girls sound like they have a much better relationship than me and Dsis.