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re ruined Ugg boots

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gemandjule · 07/02/2015 13:09

Background; dd1 is 16, dd2 is 14. They usually get on very well. They are much the same clothes and shoe size and so have decided themselves to share their clothes as this doubles both their available wardrobe. The deal is they have to check with the actual owner of the item before they borrow it.

So DD2 got Uggs for Christmas last year, 14 months ago now. DD1 had an old pair of Uggs which wore out and so she threw them out. As Uggs are dear they can only get them for either Christmas or birthday present and DD1 did not want to "waste" her Christmas present on new Uggs.

This winter DD2 agreed to share the Uggs with her. This worked fine for a few months but today DD2 had a meltdown. Apparently DD1 has worn the Uggs on a number of occasions with thick fluffy socks inside them so now they are stretched and no longer fit DD2.

DD1 says this was unintentional and therefore she is not responsible for the damage. I think she should have taken more care with a valuable item she had borrowed and needs to make a contribution towards a new pair for DD2. Not the full price obviously as she would never save this up, the boots are 14 months old anyway and she didn't intentionally ruin them, but maybe £50. She gets £20/week pocket money and has to pay for her social life from this, but not clothes, shoes etc unless she wants something she really doesn't need and so has to save up. So to save up £50 will make a difference to her.

My DH just wants to buy new Uggs for DD2 and forget about it. We can afford them but never normally buy expensive luxury items for them except at birthday/christmas.

Whose right here??

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gemandjule · 07/02/2015 14:27

I hate when "tell them to get a job" is trotted out for all teenagers. First of all there aren't many weekend jobs around. Secondly, she is in school for 6+ hours a day during the week, she dances at a high level and so does 8+ hours a week with shows extra approx three times a year so needs weekends free for rehearsals. Thirdly, she used to swim competitively and is currently earning her swim coaching badge by training the smallies in her old club so she will able able to get a summer job/part time job when she is in university. She needs time to study and also to hang out with her friends. Her older brothers both have summer/part time jobs and as I have said we really don't give them expensive items at the drop of a hat.
None of them have i phones, only the oldest has a lap top and he got that going to university. They do not have TVs in their bedrooms and we have one family I pad. The older lads do not have a car. A lot of these things are standard for their friends. We can afford the pocket money. They do have a work ethic which they apply to their school work and extracurricular activities so do not have to do weekend work until they leave school. I can see they are lucky not to have to but don't think it necessarily makes them lazy or entitled, just lucky. Rant over!

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PrimalLass · 07/02/2015 14:32

As I've said above, if you wash then then there'll be no need to fork out for more.

HighwayDragon · 07/02/2015 14:34

Make her pay £40 for the boots, buy dd2 new ones, give dd1 the old ones

NeedABumChange · 07/02/2015 14:41

Well if you don't want her to get a job and pay then I think you should pay for the uggs.

MrsCakesPrecognition · 07/02/2015 14:45

Wash them. They will dry fluffy, fresh smelling and smaller.

Marshy · 07/02/2015 14:46

Just buy the boots! Your dc sound great Smile

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gemandjule · 07/02/2015 14:48

I never said she should pay for the Uggs, I said I thought she should save from her pocket money and make a contribution towards new Uggs. Obviously of she had wilfully damaged them then we would need to look at her giving up dancing and getting a job to pay for them but that is far from the case.
Thanks for that suggestion primal, definitely worth a try, also wimpy great idea re sheepskin insoles.

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lemisscared · 07/02/2015 14:49

If you can afford to buy them, then do so, maybe a pair each! seriously - don't make them share, its not fair.

NoMoreHappyMrsChicken · 07/02/2015 14:49

Your family sounds nice. It sound as though you have instilled values in your DC.

If you can afford it, I'd buy them both a pair of Uggs in return for doing something for the family, chores or something.

I think there are enough people in the world who want to stand on others, if you can do something nice for your kids, do it.

Obviously, I would only do this once good/positive behaviour is established.

I am aware I will probably get flamed for being indulgent.

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gemandjule · 07/02/2015 14:51

Thanks marshy, they are great Smile, most of the timeWink Wink

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TooHasty · 07/02/2015 14:52

Footwear molds to the wearers foot, which is teh reason you should never share or wear secondhand footwear.I would buy another pair as your penance for teachig your Dc this important truth

PrimalLass · 07/02/2015 14:58

There are loads of threads on here about washing them.

LeBearPolar · 07/02/2015 14:58

I'm with TidyDancer - tell them how lucky they are to not have to wear such ugly, shapeless boots again Grin

Even The Mirror judges people who wear Uggs!

"Harry Styles has arrived at Los Angeles International Airport showing off his chest - but it's his shoes we're interested in.

The normally-stylish One Direction star is wearing a pair of mustard-coloured boots which look suspiciously like a pair of Uggs."

trixymalixy · 07/02/2015 15:10

Seriously? Wearing s pair of socks with uggs ruins them such that your DD is demanding a new pair. Tell her to stop being ridiculous. They can't have got that stretched!

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gemandjule · 07/02/2015 15:22

Whoa trixy, where did I ever say that my DD2 demanded a new pair. To be honest it never dawned on her that she would bget a new pair. She as just upset that her pair were now too big for her, and regarding the socks, these are the big fluffy socks that are designed as bed socks, not regular socks so I can easily see how, over a number of wears they would squash down the sheepskin lining so that they no longer fit.
They are supposed to be worn without any socks and to be bought "snug fitting". I suspect also as ointment out above DD2's feet are slightly bigger and it's the combination of factors which has caused the problems.

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gemandjule · 07/02/2015 15:24

Sorry, loads of typos above. get a new pair, was upset, *as mentioned above

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MomOfTwoGirls2 · 07/02/2015 15:27

My DD2 wears her ballet shoes inside her Uggs when she's going to ballet class... I'm hoping she has stretched them enough to get an extra year out of them.

Couldn't DD2 wear them with thick socks for a while? By the time the nice weather arrives again her foot will probably have grown...

Meanwhile, MandMdirect.com has sale on Uggs at the moment.

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 07/02/2015 15:31

Forgot to add

I think DD1 making contribution towards new pair, and then gets to keep current pair, seems a fair consequence. It was an unintentional, but it was also a silly thing to do.

trappedinsuburbia · 07/02/2015 15:33

Ive washed mine as well, just with normal washing stuff (after dd puked all over me and it went inside and outside my uggs) normal cycle and they came out fine and shrunk to original size after i had stretched mine as well.

PrimalLass · 07/02/2015 15:37

I'm getting irrationally annoyed about all the suggestions to buy a new pair when myself and others have said it's not necessary. I think I need to go and do something in the real world Blush

livsmommy · 07/02/2015 15:39

Why doesn't DD1 buy the uggs from DD2, as if she's stretched them out they will still fit her, and then she is contributing to the new pair? (Though I don't see how that happens because I live in uggs through winter wear them everyday with thick fluffy socks and they don't get bigger)

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gemandjule · 07/02/2015 15:46

No, don't go primal, I'm interested bit too lazy to search old threads. Can I literally just bung them in the washing machine? What temp?

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SistersOfPercy · 07/02/2015 15:49

Uggs stretch naturally over time so the socks probably had little to do with it. Mine are bigger now than when new and only I wear them. And no, don't put them in the washing machine, you'll ruin them. Search google for Ugg cleaning and do it properly if you are going to do it.

afreshstartplease · 07/02/2015 15:56

Intrigued about washing uggs too!

I have a pair about 14 months old that have some water marks would it help these?

SistersOfPercy · 07/02/2015 15:58

I machined washed some old black ones at 30. The sheepskin went shiny and the boots faded and looked like shit. The fur inside became even lumpier. They were ready for the bin anyway but that sealed their fate.

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