So we took an au pair from Eastern Europe 3 weeks ago, in really good faith, yes they don't earn a lot but she only did 20 hours a week and half of those my DS was asleep. We agreed she'd stay until the end of April to get us through a very busy period and then I'd help her find another family as a proper nanny. Paid for all her food, moved my DS so she had a large room and bathroom, let her take DH's car to go out. Offered to pay half of her language course. My inlaws even spent last weekend driving her around where she used to work 5 hours away to pick up her stuff and store it.
In short we did everything to make her feel welcome even though she's not great and spends so much time in her room to the point its weird, on Skype loudly till 3am keeping us awake etc, and has built NO rapport with our other two kids and barely does half the agreed chores. Last week she took a long weekend so didn't even do close to her hours. But I let stuff slide as she was only here short term and its just a lot of stress to look and change and confuse my little DS. She did the minimum and it was just enough.
So last night she walks in kitchen and says 'Oh by the way I've got a new job starting a week on Monday, it pays more so Im going to go and I know you are a great family and I feel terrible…...' She couldn't understand why I was p**d off. I feel very used and am so annoyed she must have known she was leaving when she had my inlays running her around. Next week is our school holidays so when I tell my Dad what she's done he says he's coming down to help for a few days, awesome Dad :)
So today I ask her nicely if she will leave this Sunday potentially leaving her with nowhere to go. I can't hide my anger, Im uncomfortable in my own home and I want the room back for my Dad. Is this unreasonable? I figured she's 27 and canny enough to have been sorting herself out behind my back so she'll find a way, be it going to the new family earlier or going to her friends 5 hours away. I feel its not my problem.