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To be pissed off that upstairs neighbour does wishing late at night, knowing his machine is right above our bedroom?

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Mummyinamask · 02/02/2015 23:50

It's spinning now, again. No point going to bed as it is so loud (crap conversion, although previous lovely considerate neighbours improved sound proofing in kitchen).
This happens a couple of times a week.
We've explained how noisy it is and asked them to please avoid doing it.

Are we being unrespasonable or is this inconsiderate?

I get sick of texting him about telly too loud - just wrote a text but I'm pissed off so shouldn't send it now.

So venting on here. Why don't they get that they live in a flat and that means you have to think of others?!??

Not had a problem with two previous sets of neighbours. At all.

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Mummyinamask · 02/02/2015 23:51

Lol WASHING

it's me doing the wishing!

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Mummyinamask · 02/02/2015 23:52

I've cheered myself up thinking of a noisy, late night wishing machine Grin

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Fuckmath · 02/02/2015 23:53

It's annoying but he might not have a choice due to long hours at work? I don't know if that applies in his case but I get up at 6:30 and often don't get home til midnight or later, so I can't really do washing during the day time (I generally leave it to weekend and don't live in a flag above anyone else, but just saying I can see why sometimes you have to do these things on a slightly anti social timetable)

Fuckmath · 02/02/2015 23:54

Flat not flag

morningtoncrescent62 · 02/02/2015 23:55

YABVU - you've made me think about all the things I'd have/do if I had a late night wishing machine. Now I'm not going to sleep at all. Grin

AmantesSuntAmentes · 02/02/2015 23:55

How often do you text about the TV?

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Mummyinamask · 03/02/2015 00:03

He's not working crazy hours, just goes to bed late. He loves everything cranked up. We know when he's home cos the music in his car can be heard indoors above everything - visitors have commented - it's not just me being a loony, honest. Even his girlfriend agrees he has everything too loud. It's fine when she is there - but she's not there enough!

Telly usually fine now, prob only once a month or so he goes a bit nuts - I only text if we have to turn our telly up to combat it.

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MrsTawdry · 03/02/2015 00:06

Isn't it cheaper at night or something?

Bithurt · 03/02/2015 00:09

Yanbu. When I lived in my flat, the guy upstairs was in a maisonette so his kitchen was above my bedroom too. He used to do his washing at odd hours. I had to go up. Couple of times as when he went out (at least once a week) he'd come home and put the music on loud in his kitchen. It wouldn't be on in the living room, just folk talking so I presume it was so they could hear each other in the living room!

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Mummyinamask · 03/02/2015 00:10

Don't think so, I suspect he just doesn't think cos it's probably not that loud upstairs. He's perfectly pleasant btw, not a monster, but we all work full time and don't really see each other much so it feels like the only contact I have is complaining. . . Which doesn't feel great.

On the other hand, I like to go to bed early! Sad, I know.

What to do?

We have asked him when we have meetings about freehold but it obviously hasn't landed!

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Mummyinamask · 03/02/2015 00:13

I feel for your past pain, bithurt.

Have you got a house now?

We London. Houses round here start at £1m. Sad. Priced out.

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Bithurt · 03/02/2015 00:15

Yes we do. It's an end terrace so you can still hear noise but not nearly as bad. I don't miss the footsteps up above.
Definitely nowhere near £1m!

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Mummyinamask · 03/02/2015 00:16

Yay! The spin cycle has ended.

Thanks for the company MN. I'm off to zzzzzzz. It's been a long day.

Sleep well all!

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Mummyinamask · 03/02/2015 00:18

Bithurt - I'm double jealous! A house and change from a
£1m. It's the stuff of dreams! Grin

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BananaPie · 03/02/2015 02:27

Check the share of freehold doc (the lease) when we had a flat, it specified no use of washing machine after 9pm or something.

WaywardOn3 · 03/02/2015 05:19

Is it economy 7 or something that makes it cheaper to wash stuff at night? If it's cheaper it makes sense for him to do it however annoying it is for you :-(

laughingmyarseoff · 03/02/2015 09:41

It is cheaper at night under some tariffs, my DH used to do until I pointed out the noise and the clothes didn't smell so fresh in the morning. I'd just ask hi or his girlfriend to have a word with him if she's more reasonable, and run the washing a bit earlier if possible.

SaucyJack · 03/02/2015 09:45

On the fence on this one. I think the "appreciating that you live in a flat" thing works both way.

He shouldn't make excessive amounts of noise, but you also need to deal with the sound of him going about his daily business in his own home.

InfinitySeven · 03/02/2015 09:51

We've done some washing late at night. We're top floor, now. I'm fairy sure downstairs can't hear, they've not said anything.

It 's cheaper at night, though, and it means one of us is around and awake to wash and sort into dryer, or hang up, or whatever. I don't enjoy it, but it's the only time I have! I'd much rather be asleep.

RiverTam · 03/02/2015 09:52

I couldn't give a damn about people getting their leccy cheaper at night, it's fucking antisocial and inconsiderate. Why is it that the 'well, you do live in a flat so what do you expect' line always get thrown at the people who aren't making the noise? He's in a flat too, so he should know not to do this, if he was any kind of decent person at all.

I would go round and talk to him if he's an OK bloke, and then escalate to the landlord, leasing agency or whoever own the lease.

expatinscotland · 03/02/2015 09:52

Midnight too late is the machine is right above your bedroom.

ourglass · 03/02/2015 09:53

It's annoying but they may work long hours and electric is cheaper to use at night.

RoganJosh · 03/02/2015 09:56

In a flat I wouldn't have had washing running past about 9.30pm. I think midnight is awful. I would be surprised if he couldn't have put it on earlier, in the morning or at the weeknd.

Egog · 03/02/2015 10:15

I had this in my old flat. So annoying. I bought a large piece of foam from Dunelm Mill for £6, took it upstairs and presented it to the neighbour requesting that she put her washing machine on it to deaden the noise. She was a bit surprised but complied, and it did make a difference.
Worth a try?

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Mummyinamask · 03/02/2015 20:45

Oh, thanks for all the replies. Of course we live on top of each other and I do expect to hear them, they have wooden floors so we hear everything from footsteps to sneezing but that's all in the realm of what we expect.

The washing machine is loud whenever it's on but its only a problem late at night. I take the point about it possibly being cheaper but I'd be surprised if that's a consideration, I could be wrong, of course!

And thanks for the foam tip Egog - feels better to suggest a solution - meet them half way - rather than just moan!

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