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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To wonder what my neighbour was doing?

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Quantumlump · 30/01/2015 22:35

I was working from home today. About 10 a.m. I was on the phone upstairs and I saw my NDN peering through our downstairs window. She was there for a few minutes then she moved round to a bit of the house I can't see from upstairs. I finished my phone call and came down to look for her, but she'd gone. I went round to her house and said 'I saw you just came over, sorry I missed you, is everything OK?' She flatly denied that she'd been round to ours, and it was a bit awkward, so I said that I must have been mistaken, but I know it was definitely her. I figured maybe she had heard noise in our house, and was just checking for burglars, but was embarrassed in case I thought she was snooping. I mentioned it to my husband when he got home from work tonight, and he said that last week he came home at lunchtime and saw the same neighbour 'hot-footing it' over the low wall that divides our houses and rushing into her house. He thought it was a bit odd, but not worth mentioning. I'm sure it's nothing sinister, but I am just a bit baffled. We are reasonably friendly, we moved in two years ago and she's been round to ours for coffee quite a few times, so I can't see that our house would hold any great mystery to her. AIBU to think this is a bit odd?

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PassTheGinBottle · 31/01/2015 11:24

Fairy - tea with milk and one please.

OwlBeGoing · 31/01/2015 11:36

Do you have an adjoining wall?
Were you making lots of noise and she was being nosy to see what you were up to? Though that wouldn't fit with your DH seeing her as well when no one was in.
Not place marking

JoffreyBaratheon · 31/01/2015 11:39

I glanced out of my window on bin day and saw our neighbour looking in our bin. He pulled up in his car, on his own drive, walked right out of his garden, past his own bin (so wasn't checking to see if binmen had been), right into my garden and stood peering in our bin. It makes no sense. He is paranoid - we live on a street with no breaks in ever, and he spent hundreds of £s on CCTV cameras - despite being unemployed. We think he has this obsession that we have stolen something from him and he keeps looking for 'evidence'.

I'd have blinds or curtains drawn if I were you, OP. And/or tape a message to a window telling her to feck off.

Fairyfellowsmasterstroke · 31/01/2015 11:48

OP - I'm willing to organise a MN collection for one of these.

Should look good in your window!!!!!

GraysAnalogy · 31/01/2015 12:09

I really want to know whats going on haha

Toooldtobearsed · 31/01/2015 12:49

Not quite as bad (I hope), but our neighbours moved out a year ago. I live in a tiny development of 6 houses, all self build, all different.
We got on really well with them and were sad to see them go.
However, within the hour, I was peering through all the windows, having a nosey when they came back unexpectedly.
I had no excuse when caught desperately trying to scale a 6ft fence to avoid the embarrassment of being caught

ImperfectAlf · 31/01/2015 12:52

Can you go and nose around hers, too? Then flatly deny it? Take a camera......

WastingMyYoungYears · 31/01/2015 13:01

Tooold , no offence meant, but that sounds very odd to me - at most, I'd say that I'm mildly interested in what my neighbour's houses are like on the inside.

notnaice · 31/01/2015 13:08

As someone said upthread could she have a key from the previous owners?

ifgrandmahadawilly · 31/01/2015 13:27

Sounds ominious to me. Set up a webcam.

I have, on occasion climbed the wall into my neighbours garden / peaked in their windows when my ferret has gone missing, so there could be a reasonable explanation.

cozietoesie · 31/01/2015 13:34

Oh No. It's Catgate - The Return. I should never have opened this thread.

BreacaBoudica · 31/01/2015 13:51

Is this an opportunity for a comedy prank? Of the shoe polish on the eyepiece of a telescope variety - maybe a mousetrap to catch her fingers on a windowsill? Someone will have a better idea!

IsadoraQuagmire · 31/01/2015 13:57

The odd thing is not that she was there (at least twice) as there could be a reasonable explanation. It's that she denies she was there at all!

DesperatelySeekingSanity · 31/01/2015 14:22

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gamingmum · 31/01/2015 14:31

We have the same issue with a 60 yr old neighbour next door. He is often seen peering in our windows, skulking round the garden and going in our back garden when we are out. He is harmless just weird.

We just made the local PSCO aware of his strange behaviour as other neighbours had been concerned to see him looking through our windows at night and she now makes a note to stop by and have a chat to him once a week or so and checks up on him in case he is beginning to have health issues etc or just for someone else to chat to. It doesn't stop him doing it but at least someone else is aware of what he is doing.

Maybe make your local PSCO aware for your peace of mind more than anything.

FindMeAPixie · 31/01/2015 16:27

solo please be careful. It is catching!

Solo · 31/01/2015 18:13

I don't know what you mean Pixie!

fluffyraggies · 31/01/2015 19:00

It's the denying it that makes me think her reason has no 'good intentions' behind it, otherwise she'd have just said what it was surely?

She sounds like a kid caught in the act without a backup plan. 'It wasn't me!'

I read the OP to mean the neighbor had spotted DH coming home when she ran for it the 'first time'. Maybe i'm wrong.

Tiptops · 31/01/2015 19:15

YANBU. It's more than a bit odd.

Did you change the locks when you moved in? I would have to go back and confront her, the CCTV is pointless when you already know it was her.

bringmejoy2015 · 31/01/2015 20:39

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holdyourown · 31/01/2015 20:44

Is she of an anxious disposition? My guess is she heard a noise (you-working from home) and wanted to check you weren't being burgled. I thought I'd solved this case but cannot explain your husband's sighting. Unless that's a red herring and he made it up

Sprinkfest · 31/01/2015 20:53

holdyourown I like your generosity in giving the Nosy Neighbour the benefit of the doubt, but I do wonder what you think the OP does for a living if her 'working from home' would generate such a noise as to invite interest from the neighbours.

Lumberjack, perhaps?

ahbollocks · 31/01/2015 20:53

Maybe she is in love with you/your dh and is peering in to imagine your lives together [Shock]
Eurgh have managed to creep myself out with that one!

CrystalHaze · 04/02/2015 11:36

Anymore suspicious activity, OP?

AimlesslyPurposeful · 04/02/2015 12:45

Yes, I've been wondering too.

Has she been back OP and can you confirm that you are not in fact a wahm lumberjack?

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