Son's teacher gave me an article called: Ten Mistakes Modern Parents make, AIBU to be fuming?

[Plarail123]

We don't live in the UK but in a country where education is very competitive. My DS is 3 and a half and yesterday his pre school teacher called us in and gave us a huge lecture on parenting and discipline and gave me the article as a print out. I am fuming, I thought my son was doing fine at school and this teacher has only been teaching him since the beginning of this term. Am I right in thinking that this wouldn't happen in the UK? Also any advice on how to handle this would be appreciated. I am actually too embarrassed to take him to school now .

Presumably you're in Asia?

It could be that you are being way, way soft on your kid by local standards. Are you sure you are educating/handling your DS in a way considered normal by parents in the area where you are living? Education in Asia is much tougher and more discipline-oriented than in the UK/US.

If that's not what you want for your DC, you should find an international school that teaches more according to UK/US norms.

You certainly have a problem if the school thinks that you aren't parenting "correctly" 7 your husband agrees & that is why you were then called in1

why wasn't your husband given the paper at his meeting??

Need much more info op.

Thread going in circles now.

It also seemed to me that the article was at odds with what they said to you. It seemed not about discipline but instead about being aware that childhood is a time for exploration, mistakes, and learning, and not trying to do too much for your child or mold your child too much. And I couldn't see a parenting philosophy in there, either!

I'd write a list giving 10 examples of mistakes teachers make

I have to admit, if my DH had been to meetings with school about either of our children and not mentioned it to me, I'd go a tiny bit batshit. And by tiny bit I mean no-bones-bezerk (he wouldn't, because he says the head teacher at our son's school makes him feel like he's 7 again with her hens-arse mouth) but even so.

Go and ask your husband what the frig went on in the meeting. Why the frig a teacher sees fit to offer you a checklist of targets. And why the frig a three year old is under such ridiculous scrutiny. It's a 3 year old child! Unless there are issues with speech and language, possible early signs of ASD or something they felt genuinely concerned over, what reason can they have for being so dramatic?

Oh no, what's going on with your dh? That sounds not good...

So, she makes 'mistake' number 2, but what can you say without falling into mistake number 9?

And, you need to speak to your 'D'H.