To think my work should have sent a bunch of flowers

[Mammanat222]

Had a baby last week.

I know it sounds really grabby but when colleague had baby in September I was tasked with ordering her flowers. Literally the moment colleagues email announcing her new arrival I was handed the co. credit card and asked to order flowers (given budget of £50)

It's my 2nd baby / ML, but I have been with co. for almost 15 years.

I wouldn't expect a collection but I would expect the same as my colleague?

AIBU to be a little disappointed?

Yanbu

First babies only was the policy at my last workplace but there was usually a collection amongs colleagues.

New workplace presents are just organised by us and no employer involvement.

YANBU I would feel the same. Congratulations on the new arrival! I'll send you some flowers instead- bollocks to your work

Miserable sods. I remember one place where on leaving for mat leave I got a small plant and £15 MCare vouchers. Worked out people must only have put a quid in! They really were a rotten lot though.

The next place I left I got a ton of vouchers and baby stuff. Was lovely. No flowers though. I didn't really expect them as it wasn't what we did but the present for start of mat leave sufficed.

Congratulations on the new arrival!

I don't think you are being unreasonable. My work you get a card and gift vouchers usually for about £50 to spend in Mothercare or similar.

I wouldn't take it personally, sometimes people forget. I'm usually the one in work who remembers to arrange flowers of congratulations but recently I forgot until a month after the birth. It wasn't intentional.

Congratulations!

Have they at least acknowledged - call/email/text - your new arrival?

i don't like flowers, and found it annoying to keep having them arrive when a baby was born

Caronaim you old misery.

Congratulations! YANBU. I have had two operations in 9 years of being at my job, not even a phonecall from them to ask if I was ok. Yet other members of staff have had cards, flowers etc for all sorts of reasons such as birthdays, babies and ops. I know how you feel.

i don't like flowers, and found it annoying to keep having them arrive when a baby was born

What's that got to do with this OP, who may very well garden for England for all we know?

I got nothing from work, not even a card, but then I didn't realise until this thread that it was the norm.

It's only a week!
Give them time.

I got a balloon when I left and that was it! YANBU it annoyed me, especially because they did give to other colleague who had baby 3 months before me!

I work for a big company and our policy is no flowers. Bizarre. They are very generous in other ways eg a £200 / night hotel wouldn't raise many eyebrows.

virtual! Sorry.

The trouble with getting something from work is that ordering stuff like this isn't usually anyone's "job" so it requires someone to take it upon themselves. And often people assume that someone else will do it, so no one does.

We've been sent flowers from my husbands work as well as my own.

YANBU.

YANBU, we got flowers and a present from DH's work.

First baby I got a baby gym and sleepsuits, second baby (same company, different department) I got a small token present (toy for baby, chocolates for me) and vouchers - both times presented when I went on leave. Obviously both were collections from the teams I worked in. Second baby once I made the announcement I got a massive bunch of flowers, clearly organised by the dept manager's PA and on the company card. I think collections are always likely to vary between teams, but if flowers are sent by the company then this should be standard.

If people tell you it sounds grabby - you have a week old baby. You are perfectly entitled to get upset over pretty much anything.

Going against the grain here, I think you are being a little bit unreasonable. Not sure how big your organisation is but for larger companies there is always a sponsored run, cake sale, someone leaving, someone retiring, weddings, new borns and all manner of other events that seem to demand a brown envelope of money, gifts or flowers and to be hones,t harsh as it sounds, a certain amount of goodwill fatigue can set in when you are being tapped up again and again to throw a fiver into the hat to buy a gift for some person on the 3rd floor who you have never met or being emotionally blackmailed to by some raffle tickets by the every so jolly in your face PA.

You have a beautiful new baby in your arms and you are worrying about not getting flowers from the office. Some perspective maybe?

yanbu at all. I had worked at the same place for 6 years and the same depth for over a year. when a colleague was diagnosed with cancer I was the one who arranged flowers etc, when another's mum died I did the same again.

when I had dd I didn't even get a text or email to say congratulations.

Cutbacks?

£50 on flowers! sheesh!

Did you get anything when you had your first?

Congratulations

YANBU but then I'm still bitter because after working for the same company for 18 years and organising countless collections and bunches of flowers for pregnant colleagues, and wives of male colleagues,after the birth of a baby, I got nothing when I left for my adoption leave ( adopted DS when he was 10 months)

I thought I may at least get a bunch of flowers from DH's colleagues ( same company different department) but no apparently adopting a baby does not warrant a bunch of flowers!

(You'd think that I'd be over this after 8 years wouldn't you.)