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AIBU?

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AIBU to put 3mo in cot while I make lunch?

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QueenGeraldine · 27/01/2015 13:08

I'm not being silly, this is a genuine question. I'm a first time mum and I'm not really sure what I'm doing! Until my LO was about 6wks I generally just had a biscuit about 3pm cos I couldn't get away from her, but since then she has been amazing at napping and I have been able to look after myself and get things done. However, this week it all seems to have gone to pot, she won't nap and is overtired. I put her in the cot while I took 15mins to make my lunch, meaning to get her out if she hadn't dozed off by the time it was on the table but she was grizzling straight away and got onto full blown screaming after 5 mins. So she thinks IABU! I know she isn't hungry or wet btw, and she didn't want to take her dummy.

(I've got her out and she is next to me in her bouncy chair now, in case you think I have left her to scream!)

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Woodifer · 27/01/2015 13:09

Why not let her sit/nap in bouncy chair?

NotYouNaanBread · 27/01/2015 13:11

I would pop her in the pram and go for a little walk with her to knock her out, and then go straight home, leave her asleep in the pram and eat then.

Will she sleep for that?

Cantbelievethisishappening · 27/01/2015 13:15

Until my LO was about 6wks I generally just had a biscuit about 3pm cos I couldn't get away from her

DeweyDecibelle · 27/01/2015 13:16

Have you got a sling, it was the only way I ever managed to get anything to eat or drink in the early days! Although if she conks out then you have to eat with her attached to you.

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QueenGeraldine · 27/01/2015 13:16

Woodifer I could do this, she is good at nodding off in her bouncy chair but she always looks really uncomfortable and scrunched up. I might worry too much...

NaanBread That is a great idea, she does love the pram, but unfortunately we have steps up to the front of our house so I always have to get her out of the pram to get her inside and then she wakes up - grr! It might put her in a better mood though.

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WorraLiberty · 27/01/2015 13:16

I never slept any of my 3 in their cots during the day.

They preferred their prams or bouncy chairs.

The only annoying thing about the pram at this time of year, was that I would end up waking them up, trying to gently slip their coats and hats off so they didn't overheat when we got back from a walk.

meglet · 27/01/2015 13:17

yanbu. you need to eat.

PrimalLass · 27/01/2015 13:17

Does she have a mobile over the cot? DS would lie and watch that for a while from about 6 weeks onwards.

Ncbecauseiambulging · 27/01/2015 13:18

Put bouncy chair in the kitchen whilst you make lunch. She will probably find it very interesting to watch you

NotYouNaanBread · 27/01/2015 13:18

I used to carry the whole pram up the stairs when they were little (Oxford cafes never seem to be straightforward to get into) - it seems awkward, but I bet you can manage - just get the front door open first. A big pram like a Phil & Teds can be cumbersome, but most prams are liftable up a flight of steps with a baby in place. Give it a shot!

bubalou · 27/01/2015 13:22

DS used to go in his bouncy chair or crib whilst he napped.

You need to eat. Does this mean you spend all of the time during the day holding her?

Theboodythatrocked · 27/01/2015 13:22

Bless you. Do what you need to do to get by.

If she was uncomfortable sleeping in the chair she wouldn't be sleeping.

Of course you need to eat!!

Babies are tough kiddo. Pram, seat, pushchair whatever suits you.

Heels99 · 27/01/2015 13:23

Bouncy chair in kitchen or make a sandwich night before and leave in fridge. Or Moses basket. Or get lunch while they are asleep

BMO · 27/01/2015 13:24

I wouldn't leave a 3 month old in a cot if they cried. Bouncy chair is fine, or swing, sling, pram next to you, give her a dummy.

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QueenGeraldine · 27/01/2015 13:25

Thank you for all your replies! I just wondered how other people managed it.

Cantbelievethis is happening ok maybe I exaggerated slightly. It was a good way to lose the baby weight though

Deweydecibelle I have got a sling but I never seem to get her in it right. I did try it again this morning and then tried to do a bit of washing up and she was like "argh Mummy's grown big yellow hands BWAAAH!" (marigolds)

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ElsaMoFoQueen · 27/01/2015 13:26

You could always lie a blanket over her pram and just rock her, that way you don't have to get her all bundled up and then risk waking her afterwards?

Rosieliveson · 27/01/2015 13:27

I still have days like this and my boy is almost 18 months! Sometimes the bouncer is the best bet just to give your arms a break. My boy always looked a bit scrunched up too but slept happily so must have been fine :)

GingerCuddleMonster · 27/01/2015 13:27

you must eat! Just leave her sleep in the bouncy chair, my DS takes all his naps in the bouncy chair or on the floor (ooops not so pfb)

if she wasn't comfy she wouldmt sleep, DS only sleeps in his cot at night other than that I think he thinks it's a prison and bangs the bars .

imyourhuckleberry · 27/01/2015 13:28

My DS loved his bouncy chair to nap in. Give that a go, or maybe a sling as others have suggested.

Metalguru · 27/01/2015 13:30

It's survival of the fittest in this business. You sound like a lovely caring mum so do whatever works best for you while you're making your food, bouncer, cot, pushchair, whatever but yanbu, you need to eat :) At lunch I used to sit lengthways on the sofa, legs up, feet circling dd who was propped up by cushions, it meant I could eat, look at her and she at me, no crying because she felt like she was being held.

Pastamancer · 27/01/2015 13:32

DD used to fuss if I went to the toilet/had a shower/went to get something to eat but she had to put up with it. Nothing bad is going to happen in a few minutes and I would be of no use to her if I wet myself, stank from no shower, fainted from lack of food. At least if the crying stayed consistent I knew she was ok, it was if it suddenly stopped that I would have worried :o

She is now a very happy 2 year old so it clearly didn't do any harm.

Caronaim · 27/01/2015 13:33

I agree, do what ever you need to to eat. Your baby is in a safe place, and you are getting food, no problem! All sorts of bad things are going to happen if you don't eat properly, don't feel guilty for looking after your self so you can look after your baby.xx

glasgowlass · 27/01/2015 13:34

With DS1 i would stick him in his pram and rock it back & forth with my foot as I ate. He usually always fell asleep. DS2 was a great napper so I didn't have to do this, just sat him in his bouncy chair.
Do what you have to do but make sure you look after yourself as well as your DD.

katsnmouse · 27/01/2015 13:44

My dd would not sleep well during the 'newborn phase' unless she was on me. She cluster fed ALOT, and I did have the problem of constantly feeling like i was attached to her. Get a sling/wrap and you can have your hands free. I also resorted to putting her in the car seat and rocking it. You need to eat something more than a biscuit, otherwise how is your body supposed to heal after giving birth, never mind anything else? Don't feel guilty, you are doing it so you can be the best you can for your child x

WorraLiberty · 27/01/2015 13:46

glasgowlass the foot/pram rock brings back memories!

I swear my right foot grew muscles in places I never knew it had

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