Aibu to by upset about this ?

[indyindie]

Long boring backstory so I will trim it.

My parent's live 10 minutes away , they see me and my dcs 5 time's a year at most (and only when we go to them).
They don't call , or show any interest in our lives, they sent my dds birthday present last year instead of coming over.

I have tried my upmost to forge some sort of relationship with them , I have invited them over , call them regularly etc. Nothing has worked .
My dsis has the same issues and has done for 12 years since her ds was born.

But my other dsis, they have her dd 5 days a week while she is at work (and have done since she was 4 months old) , they babysit any time she wants and visit her all the time. They couldn't even babysit for me when my dhs mother died.
They are off on holiday next month and taking dsis dd of course , I haven't even heard from them in 2 months .

I realise I should just get over it , but it breaks my heart my kids will grow up feeling 2nd best. Do I just completely cut contact now ? Or try again and again.

Perhaps the question you need to ask yourself is "what do they bring to our lives?"

Relationships are two way streets. You can't be the one giving all the time - that's not a relationship, that's being used. And what's more is that you are demonstrating to your dc that it is acceptable to be treated this way.

Stop putting the effort in, or at least reduce the effort you put in. It's doing nothing but causing hurt, which I am sure is something you can live without.

Your parents are out of order but why did you miss your mils funeral, why couldn't you take your 4 month old with you?

NotOnMyWatchOhNo Should really have added that part . dd had croup she was near enough over it but she still terrible cough and grumpy.
Im not to concerned about missing mils funeral she was lovely lady and I got my chance to say my goodbyes before she passed , it's the fact they couldn't even watch dd for an hour while I attended it .

Ok I see, and yes under those circumstances they definitely should have helped.

OP our children, when little, almost called their grandparents sister and brother-in-law (ie great aunt and great uncle) granny and grandad in front of her once - out of the mouth of babes they say!