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To think commenting on unborn babies is cruel?

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GlitzAndGigglesx · 26/01/2015 16:23

My sisters two faced friend has been commenting on how my twins will look. My dp has full lips and an underbite so his bottom lip sticks out a bit. My sister said this bitch woman was sat calling my dp "fucking awful looking" and saying the twins will be ugly with lips like this and pulling her bottom lip out and squashing it. I was fuming when I found out and want to confront her this will no doubt lead to more bitching about my family. When she found out I was pregnant she said it was unfair because she had been trying for longer and because I work pt I'm never with my dd apparently. She has also said behind my back of course how she hates my dd's name. Fine not everyone will like every name they hear but surely you shouldn't comment on how nice it is if you think the opposite. She's pregnant herself and I wouldn't dream of commenting on the appearance of her baby. Surely people should be supportive of pregnant women or is that just a minority of us? She's always fake and acts nice when she sees me or dp but I now know to keep my distance. My sister said she didn't want to say anything back with kids around but I'm sure a lot worse has been said about us

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rubyslippers · 26/01/2015 16:25

She sounds like an utter bitch

But why does your sister tell you?! And more to the point tell her to piss off

Vile

browneyedgirl86 · 26/01/2015 16:27

She sounds awful. But why on earth is your sister sharing that with you?

Theboodythatrocked · 26/01/2015 16:28

Jesus how old is she?

Why didn't your sister tell her to fuck off and never speak to her again.

Why have this bitch in your lives?

And she made these horrible remarks in front of children?

End of relationship.

IndridCold · 26/01/2015 16:30

I don't think it's cruel, as such. However, the woman you describe sounds utterly vile and horrible. Why is your DSIS friends with such a nasty person?

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 26/01/2015 16:30

She sounds horrific but

  1. why does your sister continue to be friends with her?

And

  1. why is your sister telling you this stuff? Is she pulling her up on it at the time?
Willferrellisactuallykindahot · 26/01/2015 16:30

Your sister's 'friend' sounds like a total cunt. Why on earth is your sister friends with her?

christmaspies · 26/01/2015 16:31

she sounds jealous

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 26/01/2015 16:31

Sorry just read that your sister didn't say anything. I wouldn't be impressed with my sister continuing to be friends with someone who was so vile about me and my family.

PtolemysNeedle · 26/01/2015 16:31

It's not cruel, it's bitchy. And your sister is a shit stirrer.

Only1scoop · 26/01/2015 16:31

The friend of your sister is vile and your sister not much better for telling you.

WestEast · 26/01/2015 16:32

She sounds like a dick.
For what it's worth my DP has a big bottom lip and not much chin never shuts his mouth either so he looks gormless as fuck sometimes and his DD is utterly gorgeous.

MrsTawdry · 26/01/2015 16:33

Is your sister still friends with this creature? If so then your issue is with HER.

Iggly · 26/01/2015 16:34

Er and your sister seems a bitch for just passing this on. She should stop shit stirring and not spend time with this vile woman.

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GlitzAndGigglesx · 26/01/2015 16:35

The woman is 27 and slags off loads of others and their parenting. I don't know these people so don't respond but she's had ss involved a shit load of times in the past year. My sister pulled her up on it in front of me once and she went bright red and said she was joking about me being stuck up. My sister feels she has to be nice to her as she helped her out when she lost her last home. They had met up for coffee this morning and my sis told me after. I felt all choked at the time it's disgusting. I've told her to stop seeing her as she's obviously doing the exact same when she's not around

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Notgoodwithwords · 26/01/2015 16:35

Like I tell my dd.. Bullies are jealous twisted people!!! They make themselves feel better by making fun of other people... Just a shame she didn't grow out if it when she left the playground.

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GlitzAndGigglesx · 26/01/2015 16:36

West our first born has perfectly fine lips too!

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morethanpotatoprints · 26/01/2015 16:40

I'm wondering why your sister is telling you this stuff.
There is no way I'd relate this kind of vile talk to a sister of mine.

As she hasn't told this friend to sling her hook i'd have a problem with your dsis tbh.
Ok she helped her out I'm sure your dsis appreciated it and thanked her.
Time to move on.

tell your dsis you don't want to hear anymore and stay away from the poisoned jealous cow.

Permanentlyexhausted · 26/01/2015 16:48

I'm not sure cruel is the right word, but it is unpleasant.

That said, I think you have to question your sister's motives in telling you. Unless she is telling you as an explanation for dumping this friend, then she shouldn't have said anything. Why say something that she knows will upset you if she has no intention to do anything about it? Your sister is enabling this woman to hurt your feelings. Not very sisterly is it?!

kwerty · 26/01/2015 16:49

Why bother with these people? Sounds as though you need to choose some new friends/people to chat to.

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GlitzAndGigglesx · 26/01/2015 16:55

I know it's bitchy of my sister to sit there allowing it. I certainly wouldn't do the same if stuff was being said about her kids or dp!

kwerty unfortunately I have to see her most days as our dc go to the same school. I've avoided her before and got slagged off for that. Can't win!

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kissmethere · 26/01/2015 17:01

I knew a woman like this. Utter twisted bitch, I mean Thought nothing of putting people down and was cruel. Think Katie Hopkins!
Cut her loose she's cruisin for a bruisin

kissmethere · 26/01/2015 17:03

Oh and you can win...she's not the fucking boss of you, stand up to her!

ouryve · 26/01/2015 17:10

The woman sounds an utter peach.

I think you need to explain to your DSis that she might mean well by relating this to you (it might be burning her to hear hit said but she daren't say anything back, herself) but you really don't need to hear any more and want as little to do with this woman as possible, from now on because she's beyond tedious.

ohbollocks2u · 26/01/2015 17:13

GlitzAndGiggles she sounds extremely jealous of you tbh

If she approaches you just say you've heard what she said about your unborn twins and tell her never to speak to you again

Nice clear loud voice , in the playground preferably so others can hear you

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 26/01/2015 17:16

What this horrendous name you gave your first born?

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