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Or is OH overthinking this? re middle name for new baby

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Mammanat222 · 26/01/2015 09:21

I have my heart set on a middle name and OH won't agree to it as it will make her initials BJ (surname C)

Does he have a point? Or is he just being silly?

His initials are also BJ and he said its been picked up on over the years when he was secondary school age?

What do we think?

OP posts:
LittleMiss77 · 26/01/2015 13:15

I would say don't do it.

Our surname begins with O, so any first names beginning with B are off the table as far as we're concerned.

Thisvehicleisreversing · 26/01/2015 13:44

I knew of a woman who named her daughter Beatrice Jane, but actually chose to call her BJ as her everyday name!

She was rather a loud woman too so was regularly turning heads when shouting after precious little BJ. Grin

Waitingonasunnyday · 26/01/2015 13:47

I think the extra middle name is the perfect solution. PSML @ precious little BJ!

Totally irrelevant but in my head your DD name is Billie Jean and I have got that stuck in my head now.

OsMalleytheCat · 26/01/2015 13:52

I'm not sure, it's all about the person I had a friend who's nickname was Big John and we in turn shortened that to BJ but not in a nasty or bullying sense but he's the sort of person who could carry it off! Could be a risk factor, I'd suggest like pps B middle name J surname

Lonelynessie · 26/01/2015 13:53

Well I know a woman who's first name is actually Beejay, pronounced B.J, and yes she does use it and has never used a nick name. She's never really mentioned any trouble (but I wouldn't know as she is a distant friend of a friend). But I have been around when she's met new people and there have been some raised eyebrows.

Personally, I wouldn't do it.

Bettercallsaul1 · 26/01/2015 14:05

Being very innocent, I wouldn't have attached any such meaning to BJ! (But then I was the only one who, working as a teenager in a holiday job, couldn't understand (until someone kindly pointed out to me) why everyone was sniggering at the new girl, Veronica Davis. (first name changed in case she's now a fellow MNer!)

Theboodythatrocked · 26/01/2015 14:10

Absolutley not on your life.

Your poor dd.

trufflesnout · 26/01/2015 14:11

Ugh. As someone who went to UK schools with a forrin name, I find it really hard to understand when it's seen as an invite for future bullies to pounce on your child because of what you named them.

NO ONE CARES. Or no one should care, anyway.

Bullies are little shits and they will pick on someone for whatever reason they can find. Who is to say they will even know you daughters initials are BJ unless she tells them? And who cares if she does tell them?

I don't understand why you would let something that isn't even a certain possibility in the not-at-all-near future influence what you call your child. My parents would have had to rule out all native names for me.

It's ridiculous. Name her what you like. Deal with bullies IF it happens, when it happens.

mummymeister · 26/01/2015 14:19

so what if at some time in the future there is another acronym for something rude and your child has either that name or initials? sorry but it just nonsense. call your child what you want and who cares about the initials. if she does then don't use the middle name. you don't have to.

Charlotte3333 · 26/01/2015 14:23

When we were expecting the 4 year old, I loved the names Samuel Thomas. Our surname begins with a D, and DH flatly refused to allow me to give him the initials STD. I said nobody would know because aside from when I'm cross and full-name-shouting, who would ever use the middle name, but he stuck by it and we settled on another first name. I regret giving it up, if I'm honest. I still think he'd have been a lovely Samuel.

StrawberryTot · 26/01/2015 14:27

My DS's initials are BJK and we call him BJ, you get the odd look but my motto fuck em. If they want to turn my child's name into something crude then they are the ones with a problem not me.
I also have an auntie who is a BJ and a friend :)

JohnFarleysRuskin · 26/01/2015 14:29

Really? Do people even know other peoples middle names? Sounds bizarre to me.

Topseyt · 26/01/2015 14:44

Those of you known by your middle names have my full sympathy.

I am known by mine too and there have been so many occasions when I have really wished my names were the other way round. The reason my parents did it (some old fashioned abbreviation it spelled, and not even a rude one either) turned out to be such a non-issue. They now realise this and also what a PITA it has been for me. They have admitted that with hindsight they were wrong to do it.

The PITA is constantly having to explain to people, constant confusion over when to answer to which name etc.

I have thought about trying to get it changed by deed poll or whatever the procedure is, but am put off by the sheer number of official documents I would then have to get amended and the cost of some of them.

Glad to see the OP is not doing this. Sounds like the right decision has been reached.

fredfredgeorgejnr · 26/01/2015 15:55

StrawberryTot I hope you bought your DS a pet monkey called Bear and a big truck

SilentCharisma · 26/01/2015 15:55

Don't do it.

My brother's initials were PDON.

Think about it, and you'll see it...

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