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Original poster

Or is OH overthinking this? re middle name for new baby

65 replies

Mammanat222 · 26/01/2015 09:21

I have my heart set on a middle name and OH won't agree to it as it will make her initials BJ (surname C)

Does he have a point? Or is he just being silly?

His initials are also BJ and he said its been picked up on over the years when he was secondary school age?

What do we think?

OP posts:
Disastronaut · 26/01/2015 09:46

I'm going against the majority here but I don't think it's such a big deal. Middle names don't really matter that much, and it's not like her 1st name & surname are BJ.

If I heard of a, say, Belinda Jane Collins, I wouldn't think 'BJ'.

MrsDeckTheHallWithBoughsOLeary · 26/01/2015 09:47

I unintentionally gave my DD the initials DS. I sometimes get confused on MN threads.

engeika · 26/01/2015 09:49

My ds is BJ and as it is not an expression I ever used at the time it never crossed my mind.
He has been bullied but as far as I know not for that.

fredfredgeorgejnr · 26/01/2015 09:49

Disastronaut you don't need to make up a name, Belinda Carlisle's middle name is Jo.

Clarabell33 · 26/01/2015 10:03

We are doing what Dory suggested - adding an extra name to split up the B (name of our choosing) & J (family name = must be used). It means a longer name but there was no chance of switching the order as neither of us are that keen on the J name and we love the B name...

waithorse · 26/01/2015 11:13

I agree with your husband I'm afraid, though it is ridiculous.

knittingirl · 26/01/2015 11:19

Having read this thread I have just realised that my husbands initials are BJ. He's never suffered with it, it never occurred to me or as far as I know any friends/relatives. Just saying that it's not automatically an issue, although I was bullied for my surname somewhat and wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 26/01/2015 11:29

Another one saying please don't do JBC - known as B. it's the bane of my husband's life!

00100001 · 26/01/2015 11:31

I don't think any of my friends knew my middle name growing up. I can't see how it would be a problem.

Original poster
Mammanat222 · 26/01/2015 11:31

Thanks for the opinions.

Middle name is my mum's name and I had my heart set on it so I think we'll give her 2 middle names.

Thanks

OP posts:
skinoncustard · 26/01/2015 11:33

I loved a name till DH pointed out it would give my DD the initials VD .

We picked an other name Smile

InfinitySeven · 26/01/2015 11:34

I went to school with three people with BJ as their initial. No bullying at all. I'm pretty surprised that so many people think it would be a problem!

Nolim · 26/01/2015 11:35

I think your oh has a point.

TedAndLola · 26/01/2015 12:13

Only my closest family and friends know my middle name. Likewise, I only know the middle names of people very close to me. I wouldn't think twice about giving a child a middle name that gives them funny initials.

Stinkle · 26/01/2015 12:19

I agree with your husband too.

We'd planned on giving DD2 my grandmother's name as her middle name, until my mum pointed out her initials would've be been GIT

chillybits · 26/01/2015 12:21

We had this exact issue with one of our DC and added another middle name in between. I think your DH has a point and it would be a bit unfair to not to listen to someone who doesn't want their own child teased as they were.

Speaking from another point of view, you have no idea how sensitive your DC will be as they get older....why bother just for a middle name.

CarlaVeloso · 26/01/2015 12:21

A friend of mine has just done this. Two beautiful names but together, my first thought was...oh, BJ Blush

turningvioletviolet · 26/01/2015 12:24

Our original name for DS had to be changed when we realised the initials were GBH (first name and 2 middle names) - the G and B were after my dad who died while i was pregnant so i was loathe not to use them, so changed the middle names round so he's now GHB. It doesn't quite roll off the tongue so easily when said in full but avoids all possibility of mick taking.

PrettyLittleMitty · 26/01/2015 12:26

Please don't do this. Can you switch the names so that her name is J B? You still use both of the names you like but in a different order.

Thumbwitch · 26/01/2015 12:32

Excellent decision, Mamman Smile - gets round all points neatly.

MaelstromOfLunacy · 26/01/2015 12:34

My brother's initials are BJ, not once has anyone ever even commented on them, let alone bullied him!

CoolCat2014 · 26/01/2015 12:48

Could you add another middle name so that the child is Eg BAJC?

muminhants · 26/01/2015 12:51

For what it's worth if I saw BJ Smith or BJ Williams or BJ Murphy it would never occur to me that there was something funny about it.

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 26/01/2015 12:51

Can the middle name be spelt different.

beachysandy75 · 26/01/2015 12:59

People generally don't even know if people have middle names or not. At school they normally just have first and last name on the register so the initials of the first and middle name together wouldn't make a difference. The only time a middle name seems to be used is in church at your own christening or wedding and even then I doubt people would be working out the initials!

However, like someone said you could just add another name you like and have 2 middle names.

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