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To of dumped new neighbors rubbish are their back gate?

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Homepride1 · 25/01/2015 21:21

So running along the side of my house is a small walkway that is a dead end as it's my back gate and garden, along this walk way 2 other houses on the main village road also have back gate access leading onto this walkway!

I have a large drive and keep my own bins/recycle boxes on my drive at the start of this walkway!

Yeasterday new people moving in and lots of activity up and down walkway! I was in kitchen and saw the new people put a sack of rubbish in my bin.... Little miffed as I have plenty of my own rubbish but thought hey oh not the end of the world!

Today I pop out in car for max 15 mind to drop dd at party and come home to find my bin so full that the lid is open and cardboard boxes (labeled lounge/kitchen etc) just thrown on top of my recycling, checked the boxes in the bin and it's for a patio set and gazebo, quick look out of upstairs window and guess what the new neighbors had in there garden

I removed the rubbish and put it all piled up at there back gate and have removed my bins into my back garden!

had it of only been the odd bag I wouldn't have cared but to fill the bin up when it's over a week until c

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Cretaceous · 26/01/2015 08:31

It might turn out they had a relative helping them move in, who mistook the bins. Or DC who thought they were helping. It's probably just a misunderstanding. Be careful it doesn't escalate.

Misspickle1 · 26/01/2015 08:37

My bin. Not your bin. Get your crap out of it and THEN you can have cake

rainyevening · 26/01/2015 08:39

Maybe their bin was too full of your exclamation marks.

Misspickle1 · 26/01/2015 08:40

There is nothing rude about asking someone to remove THEIR rubbish out of YOUR bin op.
There is something very rude about them filling it up in the first place though!
Shit they'll be parking their car on your drive next!
Yanbu.

Misspickle1 · 26/01/2015 08:41

Lol rainy. That did make me chuckle

ChinaTeaSet · 26/01/2015 09:10

I was in kitchen and saw the new people put a sack of rubbish in my bin

THIS was when you should have popped out and said Hi and then explained that this is your bin and where their bin is.

Itsgoingtoreindeer · 26/01/2015 09:16

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Mintyy · 26/01/2015 09:17

Pmsl at Mumsnetland! "Pop round with a cake!" .

If op's bins are on her drive at the front of her property labelled with the house name then I just don't understand how the neighbours could have made a mistake?

FamilyAdventure · 26/01/2015 09:21

Of course new neighbours might have made a mistake, they might have known exactly what they were doing but made a bad decision on a stressful day or they might be thoroughly unpleasant people who will take every opportunity to take advantage of OP, but behaving like OP will ensure that the entire relationship is rubbish.

Pocketsfullofpoobags · 26/01/2015 09:21

When we lived in London, the council collected Christmas trees with the first bin collection of January - you just left your dead tree by the bins as usual.

When we moved to our new house, we did the same (totally our fault - we just assumed, hadn't met any neighbours to ask at this point).

We left our little Christmas tree by our bin, only to find it the next morning leaning against our front door (approx. 10 metres away)

A neighbour (we know who, as he was the only one about over Christmas) actually dragged a dead tree up our drive in the middle of the night (cowardly) and leant it against our front door, rather than saying "Hi new neighbours, Merry Christmas! Just FYI, the council don't collect xmas trees round here"

Instantly disliked the smarmy git. He has since made many passive aggressive comments about our new car, other neighbours etc... and we now avoid him like the plague.

I think directness isn't confrontational - a pointed gesture or little note is way more antagonistic in my book :-)

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Homepride1 · 26/01/2015 09:22

Oh I do intend to pop my head over and welcome them, I'm not a bitch but I do believe if you let people take advantage once then they will repeatedly do it, so start as you mean to go on. They aren't there yet already looked on way home from school this morning and wasn't in last night so nothing else I could do at the time, they must be getting the garden up to standard before they move in.

I actually get on with all my neighbours and never have any issues....but my bin space is needed, I have 4 children and fortnightly collections, if I have extra rubbish I do a tip run not fill up the streets bins when there out and seeing as it was on my drive with clearly labeled house name on just takes the piss

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Misspickle1 · 26/01/2015 09:23

That is gross reindeer. Just put me off my toast

GormlessNormTheGardenGnome · 26/01/2015 09:28

But if OP had gone round and politely explained that they had made a mistake and told them which bins were theirs, the new neighbours could have denied all knowledge ("who, us? No, our bins are right by our front door, must have been someone else ") and then op would have be faced with either blatantly calling the new neighbours liars and chucking their trash back (resulting in big row), or having no where to put her own rubbish for the next fortnight, and new neighbours possibly thinking she's a pushover and taking the piss again (resulting in lots of tension and probably a big row too).

Maybe better would have been to take the rubbish and put it in their bins or next to them and then knock on the door, welcome them to the neighbourhood and politely explain that they'd made a mistake etc. A bit passive aggressive, op would still go away thinking new neighbours are twats, new neighbours would know that op thinks they're twats, but on the surface, everyone is happy.

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Homepride1 · 26/01/2015 09:29

Oh they know where their bin is, overflowing in there own front garden!

miss pickle if they park on my drive they will have a fight on their hands with the funny old lady who lives behind those ten foot fences opposite, she knocked on my door and told me I wasn't to park on my drive because she needs to drive onto it to reverse her huge motor home into her own drive on a daily basis as she uses it everyday for shopping and getting to the doctors etc

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jellyhead · 26/01/2015 09:31

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sebsmummy1 · 26/01/2015 09:54

This reminds me of the thread where the OP's Mother had a young homeless person living in her shed. The amount of Mumsnetters who were on their way down there with cake and blankets was priceless

sliceofsoup · 26/01/2015 10:08

If the new neighbours cared at all about having good neighbourly relations perhaps they shouldn't have left all their shit in someone else's bin. From OPs description of the set up its very clear they knew fine rightly that it wasn't their bin.

Misspickle1 · 26/01/2015 10:08

Oh Christ op lol what did you say to the old lady? That's funny . I presume you told her to sod off?

aderynlas · 26/01/2015 10:11

When we moved into our house our neighbour brought us a flask of tea, a plate of bread and butter and a sponge cake. He said that will keep you going and my wife will pop some soup round tonight. Brilliant neighbours.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 26/01/2015 10:16

Perhaps pop a print out showing the location of the nearest tip through their letterbox! YANBU as they clearly know which is their bin and yours is well marked.

sebsmummy1 · 26/01/2015 10:19

When we moved in our neighbours very helpfully left us the fuck alone. I've always appreciated that

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Homepride1 · 26/01/2015 10:22

miss pickle I smiled sweetly and told her that as it was my drive I would continue to park on it, she then asked if I would park to the left and keep the right side clear for her so I just kindly said that while my drive was empty then go ahead and use it if you need to, but my drive (both spaces) would be in use a lot due to family/friends visiting etc!

That was 18 months ago often I see her huffing and puffing about when she comes home and can't access my drive but never heard another word about it

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RedSoloCup · 26/01/2015 10:26

Totally not unreasonable and they sound lazy, too much rubbish especially boxes should go to the dump / recycling facilities!

Misspickle1 · 26/01/2015 10:52

God the cheek of her home pride! I bet you were go smacked. I honestly think I'd have laughed.

I'm with you sebsmum. Fk off and leave me alooooone lol. I'm so unsociable. They all want to chat and be nice noooo stop it! Go away!
I'm too soft though, I got roped into dog sitting free of charge over Xmas. I wouldn't mind but I didn't know them from adam! Who the fuck are you? Oh the neighbours? That's all right then! Yeah I will mind your neurotic mutt and walk it three times a day (which I dutifully did) and share my bed with it and have it waking me up at 5 A.M every morning. Never again though

LL12 · 26/01/2015 10:53

In my road, if someone new moves in they introduce themselves to the other neighbours not the other way round.
Works very well.

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