Do and I have been invited to my friend from uni's wedding next weekend. He gets paid (a small amount, not full time job) to play a sport and is part of a team. At the time of RSVPing he had said he might need to play as they are in a cup, but give the time of the year and the weather we have it would likely be called off, so RSVP yes.
3 months later, it has been confirmed that they have an indoor venue so the game will go ahead. Dp is adamant he needs to play and his coach/boss has said everyone needs to be there.
Aibu to think that as he has given notice, he doesn't need to play and should go to the wedding? He assumed it wouldn't be an issue as it would be off, told his boss he had a wedding at the time. Now it's on he is all 'I need to play, can't let them down, I get paid to do it so have to' etc. My friend has paid quite a lot per head for her wedfing and as far as I'm concerned he made a commitment to going, and should.
He is currently trying to 'compromise'- he would play, miss the ceremony, the canapés etc while the photos take place but would be able to be there in time for the speeches and wedding dinner. He has only met my friend once, so he said she won't even notice he isn't there and at least that way her money isn't wasted. I think it's rude to miss the ceremony and just turn up part way through the day.
So should he
A. Miss the game and go to the wedding all day
B. Come to the wedding asap (ie his plan of miss the ceremony but make the speeches and dinner.
C. Come to the evening reception