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To not "like" these types of post on FB?

51 replies

MrsTawdry · 23/01/2015 16:50

You know...the ones with a pic of rain coming down a window pane and the words

"Sometimes, the people who laugh and smile the most are the ones crying silent tears of desolation behind closed doors."

I find them embarrassing and awful.

My sister just posted one. I know why....I've supported her regarding the issue...but why be so...OPEN about her difficult time?

All of her friends know and are supportive...it's not THAT bad a thing...just one of those things which happen from time to time really. AIBU not to like her post?

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mrscumberbatch · 23/01/2015 16:53

No they make me cringe as well.

It's a bit attention seeky. If you feel it resonates with you by all means copy it onto your computer and take a print out etc but don't spread your issues for all to see.
I wouldn't want everyone prying over what it was about.

AngusAndElspethsThistleWhistle · 23/01/2015 16:54

I HATE these. They're attention,seeking, at best.

My friend used to post stuff like this and I ignored them. Was then accused of not caring. She conveniently forgot the hours I'd spent dishing out tissues in person. People are odd on FB.

YANBU.

MehsMum · 23/01/2015 16:55

YANBU.
I'm also not good with the ones which urge me to 'Like' some soppy pic complete with platitude about the task ahead never being more than you can cope with. (Is that so? Really? Then please explain PTSD...)

But it does sound as if your sister might need a bit more sympathy and compassion - but is asking for it in a way which winds you up.

duckbilled · 23/01/2015 16:55

Yanbu, they are completely cringe!

anchoviesontoast · 23/01/2015 16:55

I just ignore all those.

I also ignore then ones asking to report if you love your : mum, sister, dog, neighbour etc.

Tosh.

SwedishEdith · 23/01/2015 16:56

I just ignore all that shit. Sometimes they're done by people who seem normal as well. Don't get it.

weeblueberry · 23/01/2015 16:57

I've noticed the sorts of people who post this on my FB are generally quite attention seeking IRL too. Ignore.

FreakinScaryCaaw · 23/01/2015 17:00

They're awful.

And yes, some people seem so with it in RL but post such crap on FB, mind boggles??

Aeroflotgirl · 23/01/2015 17:04

Yes I know somebody like that, and he is a massive drama queen. Every day there are at least 5 similar posts on his Facebook. If you don't phone him regularly, he will put up one of those pictures with the words 'real friends phone contact each other regularly, fake friends stay silent' kind of rubbish.

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MrsTawdry · 23/01/2015 17:04

Someone yesterday put one that said "I'll know who my REAL friends are if they put one word in the comments here...or how we met. All those who don't will be culled"

Shock

I am waiting to be culled...hasn't happened yet.

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Aeroflotgirl · 23/01/2015 17:10

I know MrsT, I was deleted by him, because I had not contacted him in 2 months Shock, I was going through a lot, dd has Autism and ds has speech delay and is receiving Speech Therapy, and we had house renovations so I was rushed off my feet. I messaged him to see how he was, and he told me that he deleted me because I did not contact him regularly and no I will be put back on Hmm. I told him what I was going through, he did not realise. Some people have lives outside Facebook doh. I have know this guy since uni some 16 years.

Only1scoop · 23/01/2015 17:12

Utterly cringe worthy....Confused

BackforGood · 23/01/2015 17:16

Everyone's entitled to the odd bit of self wallowing occasionally, but I felt I had to unfriend someone who posted these every blinking day!!! (sometimes multiple ones).

FightOrFlight · 23/01/2015 17:18

I hate the really emotive ones that have a picture of an abused child/animal or battered woman and say "share if you care, scroll past if you are a total bastard don't"

I take pleasure in scrolling past, hitting the Home button and scrolling past a second just to prove to myself what an insensitive PoS I clearly am Grin

FightOrFlight · 23/01/2015 17:19

second time*

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 23/01/2015 17:19

Hate them. Whenever I see the posts that state the ones who do such and such and are the strongest women are the ones who need the hugs the most, I sit thinking 'given your plastering this all over facebook you can't be one of those strong one' and they are ALWAYS total whingebags who constantly post how much they need a hug,have had the worlds most awful day,claiming their life is harder than everyone elses.Not sure why they think or get out of trying to convince themselves they are the strongest women and need a hug more than anyone else

Velocitractor · 23/01/2015 17:23

OP - agree. It makes no sense either, surely they just invalidated the whole statement about suffering in silence when they posted it on Facebook?

DoJo · 23/01/2015 17:40

Shouldn't there be an 'and vaguebooking' on the end of that statement?

shovetheholly · 23/01/2015 17:43

I don't think that there's anything wrong with being open about the fact that you are suffering. But I really, REALLY hate the air of 'grand mystery' that some of those things have - they are just begging for someone to respond and show care, whereas I think it is kind of more open and honest to say 'I'm struggling because X and Y are shit at the moment'. But that's just me - I'm quite wordy!! Smile I think they are often a way for people who perhaps aren't that articulate to reach out for very important social support at a difficult time.

My cousin constantly posts passive-aggressive ones and it drives my whole family kind of crazy, but the bottom line is that she is struggling and can't really express it another way.

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis · 23/01/2015 17:46

We have one at work, "life affirming" bolleaux every bloody day. I was tempted to put one of those fake ones up that this type of thread threw up last time. They were hilarious, (but she quite a nice woman and I don't want to get dm sad faced)

HesterShaw · 23/01/2015 17:47

Wow MrsTawdry! Just .....wow! Shock

Say no one reposts it at all? Presumably said friend will have to close his FB account.

80sMum · 23/01/2015 17:49

There is an awful lot of cringeworthy crap posted on FB by people who in RL seem quite normal!

Theboodythatrocked · 23/01/2015 17:50

Fight me too Grin

Summerisle1 · 23/01/2015 17:51

I hate these posts. As indeed I do "inspirational" shit and the passive-aggressive "I shall know who my real friends are..." messages. In fact, I'm not the only one of my friends to have really cut back on Facebook lately and culled the worst offenders. As my bf said only this week "Surely it wasn't invented for all this nonsense?" and she was right. Likewise, although you can tinker with all the settings and restrict, unfollow, block and the like, it's ridiculously hard work for something as trivial as FB.

I still have a FB account because it is genuinely useful at times but I rarely post anything personal on it.

Frozenchipsareawful · 23/01/2015 17:54

Fb didnt used to have all this bollocks on it, its getting worse lately. I hate the ' share this for good luck..' I never share, didnt win the lotto pre facebook, certainly wont now! ( some are funny, saw one with 'share this goat for no reason' with picture. That made me giggle) but the serious ones i tend to scroll on down. May God strike me down.

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