Just that really. Fed up with another Mum turning everything into a competition!
DD (2) has been plodding along at her own pace quite happily, hitting all the milestones with no problems, but I wouldn't say she is above average. Her DD is a couple of months older than DD, and while very advanced with some things, isn't the perfect child her DM makes her out to be, in fact she is rather naughty and dare I say spiteful.
If I even hint at an achievement for my DD however it is ALWAYS countered with 'Oh well has been doing that for aaaages, and can also do all of this too....'
Or if my DD dares to do something ahead of her DD I get a bundle of excuses as to why her DD isn't doing it too, even when I haven't said a word about it...
I've gotten to the point where I have been avoiding her because I am going to end up being quite rude to her soon.
One example is my DD was ready for potty training, all the signs were there, but she just didn't want to sit on the potty, her DD was also ready, but would sit on the potty etc. As it turned out DD just wanted to use the toilet, not a potty, and now that we've worked that out she is flying ahead of the other lass in terms of being in knickers all day (including school runs with no accidents at all for two weeks)
And other Mum is constantly saying 'Oh well was doing it first don't forget' and then giving an excuse as to why DD is in a nappy for the day. I don't care, I didn't even tell her DD was doing well, she's just noticed that I've been carrying a bag with a potty and change of clothes in (just in case) and started with it all.
Am I right in thinking she's not as secure in what her DD is doing after all. She doesn't seem to like it if DD who is younger, and tends to plod along at her own pace manages to do something first?
I'm also being asked if DD has done such and such yet, before leading into a * has discussion. But, the thing with my DD, is she's really quite smart, and she won't do/say anything until she has it completely sussed out first. For example she won't 'parrot' words, she learns what they mean and where to use them, THEN she will speak a full sentence, instead of small two word sentences. She uses all her 'joining words' which I've been told is really good at her age.
I feel like I can't mention DDs good points because it turns into the above and it's frustrating. I don't get this reaction from anyone else?
It's hard because I'm even more chuffed with DDs progress as my DTSs had speech delays and other issues which meant that they didn't hit the same milestones as DD is when they 'should' have (They made up for it in other ways though, and are absolutely fine now) But I feel like I can't talk about it with this Mum, and it's a shame because in every other way she is lovely and we are friends. It seems to be a more recent thing, or maybe I've just not noticed it before?
AIBU to just want to say 'look how brilliant my DD is' just once with out other Mum being like this? Just once would be fine.