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to think putting salt on your food before you taste it is rude?

399 replies

KirjavaTheCat · 20/01/2015 09:51

FIL comes to stay every couple of months and this is a habit of his. I cook, I place the meal in front of everyone at the table and before we've all picked up our knives and forks he's shaking salt onto his food.

He hasn't tasted it, he doesn't know if the seasoning is to his taste or not, he just goes ahead and does it.

On Saturday I made everyone cheese and pepperoni omelettes for breakfast. As he went to pick up the salt I stopped him and said, 'you should try it first, pepperoni tends to be quite salty' so he tried it, and lo and behold he didn't want any.

He's wasted food before, declaring he couldn't eat anymore because it was a bit salty. After he'd shaken a load on before tasting it Angry

AIBU to find this really rude?

OP posts:
ChocolateOranges · 20/01/2015 13:30

OH will put salt in his hand and lick that.

Daughter eats mayonnaise with everything savoury. Confused

QueenVick · 20/01/2015 13:39

After reading this thread I really fancy some lovely salted chippy chips with lashings of vinegar Grin

YABU it's up to the person who is eating the food how and when they season it.

limitedperiodonly · 20/01/2015 13:55

AliceLidl I'm with your dad. I can't imagine not putting vinegar and oil on lettuce and other salad stuff.

I grew up with a lovely mum who was a really good cook, but very plain.

She had very strict rules on what was acceptable with her food and what wasn't.

She thought any kind of condiment was an insult to her cooking and would sulk a bit if you transgressed.

She allowed salt but banned pepper and any fruit with meat - so no apple sauce with pork or cranberry on turkey.

We were later allowed apple sauce because I learned to make it school and my teacher raved about it at a parents' evening - especially my experiments with cloves and cinnamon.

That was okay with my mum because it had been endorsed by an educational expert.

She allowed mint sauce from an ancient jar because my dad insisted on it. I can't face mint sauce because she used to just top the jar up with vinegar. It looked like tea leaves with vinegar.

I'm willing to believe that mint sauce with lamb is lovely. But not vinegar with roast lamb, so I can't get over it.

Mustard was WRONG as was red sauce because it was made from tomatoes which are WRONG.

Brown sauce was okay. Mainly because my brother ignored her and ate it with everything.

Salt and vinegar was just about okay on your own fish and chips from the shop but you could tell by the look in her eyes that it wasn't really. As was anything other than cod.

I always tried to get her to try a McDonald's Filet-O-Fish. It had all the things she liked: sweetish yet bland bun, breaded fish and a slice of bland, processed cheese.

Yes, there was some tartare sauce, which was obviously WRONG but we could have asked for a sachet on the side and she could have experimented.

She was implacable. I really think she died without experiencing a taste sensation. But you can take a horse to water...

I have never eaten bread sauce. It was also on my mum's long list of WRONG THINGS.

limitedperiodonly · 20/01/2015 14:04

Horseradish sauce was also WRONG.

My dad found some wild horseradish and carefully cooked it for Sunday lunch.

My mum looked at it. And then at him. He scraped it into the bin.

I think we know who was in charge here.

DelGirl · 20/01/2015 14:12

Yabu though I wouldn't say rude. But I know people who do this and if I've cooked it does piss me off. I think, why don't you taste it first? It may taste perfect. It may not require extra seasoning. Gah! Thankfully it rarely happens

WillBeatJanuaryBlues · 20/01/2015 14:14

Bread sorce and pheasant - delicious. ( add own cloves)

Funny the little quirks people have, I am sure I would even notice if someone got out a condiment when eating what I had cooked.

WillBeatJanuaryBlues · 20/01/2015 14:14

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DelGirl · 20/01/2015 14:14

It wouldn't bother if they then decided to add seasoning but at least try it first

WillBeatJanuaryBlues · 20/01/2015 14:16

I was in restaurant in Paris year ago and had a baked Camembert. I asked for cranberry source to go with it, a new combo I had tried and LOVED.

The next thing I knew instead of receiving cranberry, Chef was out - demanding to know why the Camembert needed extras and I had I tried it and so on...I was shamed into eating it - sans Cranberry source, however I still believe it needed it.

ShadowSpiral · 20/01/2015 14:20

I don't think it's rude to add salt to food before tasting it. I do think it's a bit daft because the food may already have enough salt in it for the person to find it tasty. And I think it's definitely rude to add loads of salt before tasting, and then complain that the food's too salty to eat.

As for salt in sweet foods - I've recently discovered the Co-op's Ghanaian milk chocolate with toffee and sea salt. It's divine. I've hidden mine from DH so I don't have to share it. And I'm not normally a salt lover.

limitedperiodonly · 20/01/2015 14:34

We were served raw seafood in a Parisian restaurant WillBeatJanuaryBlues

I said nothing. I can tell you that raw whelks are disgusting, but not quite as disgusting as they sound, and that clams are the front-runner in the disgusting raw seafood stakes. That's both the little palourde clams and raw razor clams which are just like rubber bands coated in slime.

I'm quite robust about complaining but Princess Diana had just been murdered in their city by journalists, of which I am one. I'd been berated for three hours at a so-called welcoming dinner the night before so was feeling a bit fragile.

We just miserably picked through the tiers and then tipped.

There was red and green Tabasco. Don't remember about the salt. It was one of the most miserable experiences of my life. Right up there with discussions about my mother's funeral.

WillBeatJanuaryBlues · 20/01/2015 14:39

We were served raw seafood in a Parisian restaurant Shock

never heard of this before, never, what a shame!

bigbluestars · 20/01/2015 14:45

I too have had the raw seafood in Paris. At massive cost- I joined OH for a business trip and he knows I love seafood so took me in to a fancy place as a treat.

It wasn't until it was served that we realised it was all raw, stacked on a tiered platter on ice.

It was like eating cold snot.

limitedperiodonly · 20/01/2015 14:46

It was a tier of fruits de mer WillBeatJanuaryBlues. I'd ordered it before and expected it to be steamed but thought that maybe I'd got it wrong.

limitedperiodonly · 20/01/2015 14:46

It was like eating cold snot

Exactly

WillBeatJanuaryBlues · 20/01/2015 15:02

Yes I have had fruits de mer - in France, are they supposed to be raw? Have I eaten them raw?

I am confused I think oysters are raw? But the rest like Mussels cooked in some way?

Goodness... well if I can ever afford such luxury again I shall make sure I ask if they come cooked, would be massive let down if not.

I know they like their steaks blue.

BTW limited my comment about "quirks" on re reading sounded judgmental and was not supposed to be I am genuinely interested in the things some people take on as it were. My own DP had millions of quirks too. I have also lost mother and would not want you to think I was in away being judgmental.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 20/01/2015 15:04

Italians are not that into salt though are they? Italian bread is mostly salt less, and definitely suffers for it.

SunnyBaudelaire · 20/01/2015 15:06

I remember my Italian lodger being really bemused about salted butter, he said it was a terrible sin like putting salt in milk.
I rushed out and bought him some salt lassi. haha.

limitedperiodonly · 20/01/2015 15:13

I have also lost mother and would not want you to think I was in away being judgmental

No, no, no WillBeatJanuaryBlues . Even if you hadn't lost your mum and had an annoying husband you could say what you liked.

I'm in the same boat, with the mum and the annoying DH btw, so that is definitely not what I'm about Grin

Sometimes it is very hard to put things over on here. I could probably try a bit harder than others Wink but there's no need for you to apologise.

NobodyLivesHere · 20/01/2015 15:14

Listen, for all the posters with the 'how do you know its not salty enough?' I know cos I cant see salt. If I can't see grains, it ain't gonna be enough. Years of feeding myself have made me a bit of an expert on my own tastebuds. Trust me when I say, it's not enough. Ok? Lol

SilverHawk · 20/01/2015 15:16

Salt should go on the side of the plate. That's what I was told, anyway Confused. So you're all wrong......just saying.

WillBeatJanuaryBlues · 20/01/2015 15:18
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StarsOfTrackAndField · 20/01/2015 15:19

My Dad told me this story about how Henry Ford would interview candidates

But then Henry ford was a virulently anti-Semitic and a Nazi sympathiser, so I wouldn't put much credence on his character judgements.

confused79 · 20/01/2015 15:20

I don't see why it's rude. I love love love salt, and know that whoever's served me food wouldn't have put the amount I like on. Nothing to do with that persons cooking, it's just how I like my food.

limitedperiodonly · 20/01/2015 15:23

TinklyLittleLaugh Yes, I'm going to add bread to the things that Italians can't do along with crisps. It's like cake without salt. Except for those crispy things that are a bit like poppadoms. They're nice.

But they did give us the aqueduct. And wine.

Though the French and Spanish are a bit better at that. And the South Africans, and Chileans, and Californians and Oreganons, and Australians and New Zealanders Wink.

But the Italians are definitely better than the British at making wine. And dressing. And football.

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