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To be glad I've given up facebook....

172 replies

ssd · 18/01/2015 19:08

..no more people being blessed, no more married couples talking lovey dovey bollocks to each other online when they are probably at home on the same couch ignoring each other, no more kids in front of their 3 million birthday presents showing off, no more selfies, no more shite and boasts and and and....bloody facebook!!!

Grin and breathe....

its great, forget dry January, no FB January is much better for my health!!

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Baddz · 19/01/2015 17:23

Ssd....I was on it for 6 months.
I hated it.
My sister spends all her time looking at her phone and posting equally vapid posts.
No one wants to know how many holidays you go on.
No one wants to see your new kitchen.
No one wants to see your new TV.
Everyone knows you and your Dh are miserable together and you spend money to try and make things ok.

Olbasaddict · 19/01/2015 18:01

I absolutely love and value my privacy, so never joined FB and never will. Plus I don't care what other people are up to...if they want me to know they will tell me. But what I don't get is why so many people who use FB seem to get so defensive when other people say they don't like it. It is almost like they feel embarrassed to like it and don't like people pointing out that it is not for them and they have better things to do.

fromparistoberlin73 · 19/01/2015 18:13

I am with you on ' blessed ' makes my fxxxxx teeth hurt!

I did a mass delete of friends ( ie not friends) , removed from my phone and bows it's manageable

Yanbu

fromparistoberlin73 · 19/01/2015 18:14

Claudette , yes !!! That's so funny about your bil

Pollywallywinkles · 19/01/2015 18:18

I have a very small, select group of friends on Facebook and find it an invaluable way of staying in touch with those who are scattered elsewhere in the country.

Well done to those of you that have enhanced your lives by deleting facebook.

MadeMan · 19/01/2015 18:28

I think the reason why a lot of people always seem to be uploading things and changing their statuses is just to make things happen on there and get responses. When I was on Facebook nothing ever seemed to happen unless you forced it by updating your profile status ( "MadeMan is feeling bored today..." ), or changing your profile picture to try to get people to respond in some way.

PuppyMonkey · 19/01/2015 18:31

As Greg Lake once (never) said: "the Facebook you get, you deserve." Wink

Bambambini · 19/01/2015 18:45

It's great for staying in touch with folk spread far and wide on a casual basis with little updates that you would usually miss, makes you feel less far away and isolated from them. I can have a laugh and a conversation with several different friends in different countries and time zones all at the same time. Some of my friends are bloody funny. Some share really interesting local articles from their countries.

It is what you want it to be.

Lovesonnet17 · 19/01/2015 18:46

I cam off Facebook a couple of weeks ago. I thought I'd really miss it as I've formed some fantastic friendships through it and I was worried they'd be affected. I found so far that I'm enjoying not having the constantly analysis and not having to really think about whether a post will perhaps offend or create any jealousy. I myself I have always been a positive friend to others on FB but found that hasn't always been reciprocated. I do miss the connection with some but overall it's been great for me. High fives to all giving it up. I've also given up alcohol in January so it's all happening for me!

Jackieharris · 19/01/2015 18:53

I wish I could give it up.

But I'm just to dependent on it for keeping in touch with people and networking.

It has literally shaped my life over the last few years.

Whatalotofcrap · 19/01/2015 19:03

Bravo! 2 types of people on FB - those who use it to keep in touch -applause- those who use it crow about how happy they are, how wonderful their life is, how talented their kids are. Pathetic people. If they're so busy having such a good time, where do they possibly get time to post absolutely everything they're doing, and do they really think all of us are that interested in their lives !

Whatalotofcrap · 19/01/2015 19:11

Sorry and a 3rd type of people - nosey buggers who just like to laugh at what the sad buggers are posting !

Tinkerball · 19/01/2015 19:16

Olbas I don't see anyone defensive here about using FB at all, it's just another form of entertainment , say similar to being on Mumsnet eh?! I do however see people keen to show they're somehow "above it" such as, oh say you by saying "better" things to do rather than just "other" things to do.

TooManyMochas · 19/01/2015 19:16

Damnit my FB friends are monotonously sane and sensible. I kind of envy other MNers their FB craziness. Must have some entertainment value surely?

funnyperson · 19/01/2015 20:23

I like facebook. Of course I put a jammy picture of myself up, from about 20 years ago but hey!
I'm hopeless with stamps and the post office so finally I can wish my friends happy birthday on the right day with no hassle.I love seeing all the new baby and celebration pictures from relatives and family halfway across the world
I enjoy the updates from people like old school class mates who I would never otherwise have been in touch with-and its good for me to get a glimpse of lives so different from my own.
I deleted all the requests to play candy crush saga and also the four times a day motivating photos from a very very blessed cousin (OK I know she is successful, but really: motivating quotes four times a day? How optimistic does one have to be?)
I never accept a friend request from someone I don't actually know already.
I check it at the weekends: I haven't got time in the normal day.
I could stalk the DC and their friends when they were on my friend list but they both defriended me so I cant anymore and its a great relief.
A rich aquaintance puts up photos of very expensive luncheons almost daily and this totally astonishes me. I wouldn't miss it for the world! I had no idea real people did this.

Tinkerball · 19/01/2015 20:29

Funny person me to, as well as keeping in touch I love it for the sheer entertainment value at times!

wobblyweebles · 19/01/2015 20:31

I love seeing people's new kitchens and holiday photos.

Maybe I need to work in being more insecure...

autumnleaves123 · 19/01/2015 20:40

If I were single and in my twenties, I could see the point of having FB and enjoying it. But I'm early forties with children and tbh, I don't have the time or energy to put up with so much juvenile activity on that site. Each to their own. I prefer having one friend and seeing them regularly over a cup of coffee, than thousands on FB sharing so much virtual inanity.

If I had a sister, I would much rather talk on the phone or e-mail. If I don't have time to keep a relationship that way, then what's the point?

There's so much bragging about relationships on FB, but very little real human connection. Not for me but good for all those who like it and get something positive out of it.

Postchildrenpregranny · 19/01/2015 20:42

I joined FB just before I retired . After a couple of years and with some reluctance, as it felt a bit weird, I accepted my DDs as 'friends' (they don't live at home) but it has proved a good way of keeping abreast with what they are up to (we do text, phone and email too !) I do draw the line at DH though, given that we live together .
The best thing has been 'finding' people with whom I'd lost touch (have moved around quite a lot) and getting in touch again . Have also kept in touch with lots of younger work colleagues, some of whom I used to manage . I do sometimes envy their carefree lifestyles though .

Postchildrenpregranny · 19/01/2015 20:43

PS I have 32 'friends' (and they are all people I know )

Everythingsgonegreen · 19/01/2015 20:52

Don't have a facepuke account.

Love twitter though .

MN has seen me through some sticky times too .

Vickisuli · 19/01/2015 20:54

I love Facebook but make sure I am only friends with people I am actually friends with. The only things that p me off on there are the "Share this if ..." ones, and religious ones which only my MIL posts, and I just click "I don't want to see this" as I can't unfriend her :-)

Otherwise, I like it as a way of sharing pics of my constantly growing and changing kids with family and friends who live far away, and also I really like my local mums group as we actually share local knowledge and info eg ideas for party venues, good plumbers etc, I don't think I have ever seen bitching on there.

Suzietwo · 19/01/2015 22:12

The only people who annoy me on Facebook are the ones who are actually quite good friends but post unbearable guff about their children on a daily basis. I tend to unfollow them. Periodically I feel guilty and brace myself to see heat they've been posting. I then "like" or comment on a few pics to disguise the fact I'm not following them and run back for cover again. It's a weird waste of time but works for me.

Horsepower9 · 19/01/2015 22:21

Never had an account on facebook but I have seen the damage it can do. What I don't understand is why people share so much with total strangers??

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 19/01/2015 22:22

The irony of MN posting this on facebook