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To be glad I've given up facebook....

172 replies

ssd · 18/01/2015 19:08

..no more people being blessed, no more married couples talking lovey dovey bollocks to each other online when they are probably at home on the same couch ignoring each other, no more kids in front of their 3 million birthday presents showing off, no more selfies, no more shite and boasts and and and....bloody facebook!!!

and breathe....

its great, forget dry January, no FB January is much better for my health!!

OP posts:

MrsMcColl · 19/01/2015 11:19

So mrsfuzzy the problem is with the crap people put on there, not fb itself.

Sallystyle · 19/01/2015 11:38

I love Facebook.

But I only add people I really like and care about and actually interested in what they are up to.

If you have crap fb experiences then look at who you are adding.

peggyundercrackers · 19/01/2015 11:50

i really don't get facebook - all it does is make other people rich on the back of your freely given information - why would you give all your personal details away - why would you let them track what you do?. there is no privacy at all.

mrsfuzzy · 19/01/2015 11:51

yep, you're right mrsm it is people who write it but sadly fb is a means for them to air it, one of my sdd read.on her db fb all the gory details of his marriage break up even the personal stuff that you wouldn't share with your family it was a wtf moment, does he really want the world to know he's crap in bed ??? maybe some people get carried away with it and forget they are going on the web !

AmeliaPeabody · 19/01/2015 12:00

I only use it for groups and event news. I've never typed a status update, I don't 'get' all of that, and could happily give it up.

judydoes · 19/01/2015 12:35

I often wish to delete fb. But it would make my life much more difficult if I did!

Most of my friends and some of my family, It's their main method of communication. Phone is secondary, they don't often look at their text messages but they're on fb at work, at home... I like the 'chat' aspect of it, that I can 'talk' to people whilst I do whatever else, can't really go about my day and break off every few mins for a 10 second phone call.

So I don't delete it.

What I don't like about it is, the lack of privacy. People adding you who you don't want to add and them getting upset if you don't. Having to hide status or pictures from certain people. The fact that I sometimes feel like authorities are 'spying' on me!

VeganCow · 19/01/2015 13:11

I gave it up, only regretted it from the nosiness perspective

sugarhoops · 19/01/2015 13:33

I started a thread about this last year - and literally EVERYONE said I was mad / weird / had crap friends because I frikkin' hated FB and had deleted my account!! I'm glad a few of you MN's feel similar to me!

I've not been on FB for nearly 2 years now, and I actually think it sounds really, well, immature, when I hear mums in the playground say "oh did you see so-and-so's status update on FB' blah blah blah - its for bloody kids, not grown adults who know perfectly well how to converse with other adults without reverting to tapping crap into a status update!

Its also about self-validation - put something on there and wait for everyone to comment / congratulate.

Sorry, rant over. I just think FB is crap, even if you only have good friends on there, they begin to irritate. Who wants to know the minutiae of everyone's lives?

(plus, its addictive, and I confess I was forever logging on and checking / double checking / triple checking what everyone was up to). I feel 'free' since I hit delete.

Perhaps FB is also about the person holding the account...not right for me (the nosy-parker who can't help but check every 5mins), but fine for others

LividofLondon · 19/01/2015 13:35

FB is what you make it though. Consequently I've hidden most of my friends so I don't have to suffer their drivel (they're nice in real life but so ugh on FB), and only follow pages of interest to me, eg science and charities. My news feed is much better for it

Rosalie43 · 19/01/2015 13:37

Never done FB, never wanted to - it seems to create so much angst.

Would rather stare at the wall than read people's tiresome, distorted-to-create-an-effect-on-fellow-readers self-glorifying...

Can't believe the number of conversations I have had to endure between supposedly intelligent people which revolve entirely around who said what on FB.

Tinkerball · 19/01/2015 13:40

sugarhoops you sound a prime example of the smug judginess I was talking about.

Wailywailywaily · 19/01/2015 13:48

I love FB and I hate it at the same time. I feel so conflicted

I am a member of several groups on FB that I would miss too much to actually quit though. And I have liked so many pages that my news feed is too clogged up with their spam to fit any of my actual friends smug posts in.

sugarhoops · 19/01/2015 13:52

Ha! I don't really give a damn tinkerball, no offence!

Since deleting my account, I can completely see how petty, immature, childish and ridiculous some facebook users are. Not all, but definitely some.

hazeyjane · 19/01/2015 14:06

even if you only have good friends on there, they begin to irritate.

really, not at all!

hmc · 19/01/2015 14:14

I'd like to give it up but something is stopping from making that final leap....

Kaekae · 19/01/2015 14:17

I deleted the app from my phone. But I still log in occasionally. I have a few couples who insist on telling one another on FB how great and how in love they are with one another. Makes me wonder whether they are trying to convince their Facebook friends or themselves about how much they love each other. The first sign of a failing relationship is when you have to communicate with your partner on their Facebook page! Cringe!

Paisleychick · 19/01/2015 14:49

Why don't you just delete or block the people that make you feel this way. I don't have the perfect life, whatever that is, but I am very happy with my lot. I don't think anyone has a perfect life. I love seeing what people are up to and finding out the gossip. And all of those things that you have listed apart from the lovey dovey talk, I haven't really come across.

But do delete it if you want, what I'm saying is not everyone has the same experience of facebook as you do.

CanToCandle · 19/01/2015 15:21

Just really use it for work stuff

x2boys · 19/01/2015 16:05

As others have said fb what you make it I rarely if ever post status,s I don't take to much notice notice of what people post about having their tea etc but I have lots of cousins who I,m not close.enough too to phone or email but.I like to keep in touch with via fb same with old school friends etc plus the various groups I belong too on fb have been hugely supportive when you have a disabled child with a rare disorder your oldest friends don't usually understand but I have met others on fb with children with the same or similar disorders who completley understand !

BoredChurch · 19/01/2015 16:22

I don't have Facebook as I gave it up years ago for much the same reasons as the OP. It kept annoying me.

I occasionally miss having a nosy but I don't feel I'm missing anything. I'm not that interested in other people's lives apart from the juicy stuff I read on Mumsnet

I had Facebook not that long after it first started so it's not as though I didn't give it a good try.

BloodyTwitter · 19/01/2015 16:27

I've recently deactivated mine after nearly 7 years of addiction.

It was starting to make me anxious - I'd accumulated people on there that I didn't really want but it was too time consuming/political to restrict posts or defriend them. I was constantly checking it, and wasting sooooo much time and energy on there, but worst I realised that I have all these friends who I used to actually call up and speak to in real life, but it got to the point where I rarely spoke to friends because we'd messaged on FB.

I came off thinking that I'd probably just take a week off, but it's been like a weight off my shoulders. (Nothing to do with anyone else on there, just because of where I am at the moment emotionally and because it was rapidly becoming another source of stress.)

Obvs am still on here and find other ways to waste time, but it's less mentally consuming...

magicpixie · 19/01/2015 16:36

never been on it, I don't think it would suit me

Tinkerball · 19/01/2015 17:04

There's nothing wrong with not liking or being on FB but I do think there is something wrong with people who have to be smug about it, the implication is they are somehow superior people over people who do like it. I've seen all sorts directed towards it and it's users here.

lostlalaloopsy · 19/01/2015 17:16

I deactivated my account about 2 weeks ago and it feels great!

ClaudetteWyms · 19/01/2015 17:18

YANBU. I am on facebook but lie about it when asked by people I see every day as it does annoy me and I don't use it much and don't want to use it more than I do already!

I only have 10 "friends" on it - all friends and family with children that I don't get to see much and who don't live nearby. But even they piss me off on FB - a lot of it is so fake.

I remember one time when BIL was here with his kids, he was a grumpy sod all day, kids never stopped tantrumming, he forced the whinging kids to have their photo taken, then later it was on facebook - "Fun day at wonderful Aunt Claudette's"... Just...why?!

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