to think it's really quite offensive to call someone "unhinged" or "deranged"?

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I keep seeing it on Mumsnet, if someone's behaviour is a bit odd then they are "unhinged" or if they've gotten something wrong then they're "deranged".
For a site that got its knickers in such a twist about Asda's mental patient halloween costume (which I agreed was wrong) it seems very out of sorts.
AIBU?

Everyone is different though.

the minute I come out as cod I get loads of shit like that. I might reveal before I change my name again.

loads of shite fish things
har blooody har been on here too long emoticon

'do you mean to be so rude'

GENERALLY YES.

I lolled at work today as I raised my voice. Colleague said she had NEVER EVER heard that in 5 plus years.
I am a calm person normally, just this site makes me MANIC

Opinions are like arseholes

Lets agree to disagree. (you are wrong ,you twat)

With respect

I'm a bugger for 'I understand'. Yes I understand what you're saying but it's a load of shite

I was deleted for referring to a bunch of loons on a thread.

Or lovely? you sound lovely, OP.

Yeah, had that one the other night. I thanked them for the compliment.

It's the MN martyrdom that really gets me:

'How dare you be ungrateful that your millionaire mother only gave you a packet of Wrigley's Doublemint for Christmas. My billionaire mother only gave me an empty kit-kat wrapper for Christmas but she loves me and that's all that matters'

I saw that flight, I wish there was a 'like' button.

I like bonkers too. And mental. And nuts. And batshit.

Zammo I hear ya there..

A patient at work once tried to claim I was aggressive. My colleagues laughed about this for years

Here gives me the red rage though

Stop shouting about pc gorn mad and concentrate on telling the arseholes who want to laugh at my son and his peers to shut up. Then we could use whatever words we like. and But if you use retard that does make you a cunt and I will tell you

Sadly, arseholes like that, who laugh at your DS, pagwatch, are people who wouldn't give a toss about someone going up to them, probably gives it 'oxygen', a badge of honour. They will say those spiteful mocking things, because they have that warped attitude. I'm not saying we shouldn't 'call' those scrotes on it - just saying that it may not get the message through. They don't get boundaries.

Maybe it's like drink-driving, someone might have boasted about D-D years ago, now those peole are vilified by their peer-group. D-D is stigmatised.

Likewise, if offensive words to mock mental illness are not given air-time, over time, they will become vilified like D-D was (in society). Using words whenever we want, presupposes we always know who's listening, and that those people always know 'where we're coming from'. Words can be loaded with associations.

I remember when the expression "are you on glue?" started on a MN thread. Because a few people found it 'clever' and 'funny' it perpetuated. If more people had said "hey, enough of laughing at people who sniff solvents, it isn't a laughing matter" it wouldn't have lasted, self-policing would have kicked in. As it it, lots of threads since then end up with the 'Gluezilla' 'are you on glue?' comments. Having seen a programme about young boys dying from glue-sniffing, how is that ever funny?

The Spastic Society changed its name, because the word Spastic had been hi-jacked and used to taunt people with. They moved with the times. Good for them.

Well yes, I understand all of that daisychain. I've been dealing with it for 18 years so I have figured that out.

My point was more that some people seem to get far more upset and exasperated about being asked to maybe consider their use of language than the fact that people with special needs regularly have abuse shouted in the street.
It's the priorities of the staggeringly self absorbed.

Indeed and I haven't had to deal with what you have. So in the interests of brevity I guess I didn't (but could have) started by saying " sorry I don't mean to tell you something you know more about than me" etc . Probably why I rarely post on these type of threads, they are difficult topics, ones I have learned are better discuss with people f2f not on an Internet site!

Sure daisychain.

And equally I could have posted 'I do understand what you are trying to say because I genuinely do recognise the difference between someone using a word in a certain situation or context without any deliberate intent to offend or upset any individual, and the kind of people who will regard it as acceptable to shout things in the street with the intent of upsetting the person in front of them, and that this latter group are broadly disinterested in social norms because they enjoy being thuggish or aggressive as a lifestyle choice or a declaration of their weird and warped view of masculinity or toughness. '

So I was also choosing brevity too. Probably to the eternal gratitude of everyone else on the thread.