Dp is the most laid back person, encourages me to do what I like, see friends, doesn't bat an eyelid if I want to go away for a weekend with friends, very encouraging of my work and bends over backwards to support me in anything I do.
I've been really wanting to save for a car and have been taking lessons as it's so tough through the winter getting DD to playschool then walking 40mins to work etc and DP has to leave for work earlier to commute and works long days so I have to do all drop offs and collections on my own as I'm part time.
The other night he surprised me with a lovely little car and I was absolutely over the moon!! Though one friend in particular is really putting a dampner on it for me. I happened to mention that I'm more determined to learn now because I'd hate him to see the car he so thoughtfully bought for me just sitting there wasted (which did happen with a car I bought myself a couple of years ago 
) and my friend has been saying things like "that's a bit controlling though don't you think?", "you have to learn for yourself not for him" and "I think it's a bit unfair putting that pressure on you"
He hasn't put any pressure on me at all, I was under more pressure doing lessons and having nothing to practice in!
Surely none of this is in any way controlling but I seem to get tongue tied when she spouts this stuff 