folding down the corners of a borrowed book

[Thatsnotmypiglet]

I lent a recipe book to a friend and she had it for about two weeks. When I got it back I put it in the cupboard and thought no more about it. I just got it out to bake muffins for ds and several pages have their corners turned down. I don't turn the corners on any of my books and I wouldn't think to do it on a borrowed book. I know it's really not important but AIBU to be a tiny bit peed off?

Well now...I'm a librarian and don't get too bothered about my own personal books as I think that books should look as though they have been read! BUT woe betide the person that defaces my library books - especially if they are exam revision books - how does that help the next borrower if have answered all the questions!!!?

Pantone, that woman was a twat! Way to shame a child in front of other people I would allow you to borrow any of my books and bend, fold and mutilate to you heart's desire..

Wrong on so many levels! I would never fold a corner on any book and certainly not one that did not belong to me. I only give books now. No lending of any I want to keep in my life. I once loaned a book, against all my instincts, to a friend of a friend who was staying in our flat. She begged. I told her how important it was to me, it was a gift and I really wanted to keep it/have it returned. Many promises followed. Well, reader, I never saw that book again. This was 20 years ago and it still rankles. Sigh.

As Gunther Grass (I think) once said: even bad books are books, and therefore sacred.

Kill the bitch. That is all.

I would always use a bookmark for any book. However I borrowed a paperback book from a friend recently. It was well used but I managed to break the spine apart! I was so concerned I bought her a new copy!

DEfinetly don't turn the corners I find it realy annoying and I only lend books to people I think are going to give them back, If I don't get one back, I ask for it but some people are so blanantly rude and ignore it or say oh Yea ok and I still don't get it back, B......s. My friend husband and I swop books when we've read them but signed ones I ask to be returned. I am I suppose very funny about books in some peples opinion, but I believe they should be treasured, even paper backs as they're not cheap either.

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I love a well-thumbed book with turned-down corners, especially a cookbook. I wouldn't be upset. I wouldn't even mind if it had a tomato stain or something in it.

Having said that, if I borrowed someone else's cookbook I'd be very careful with it.

A cookery book... I don't think I'd mind so much as mine are filthy well used.

But many people genuinely don't understand why some people like their books, eg when sil said, "Why have you got all those old books on your shelves? I'd never touch something second hand ."

Dsis lent a set of Penguins (angry young men) to a friend. After asking after them a few times friend breezily said that her mother had been tidying her room and had given them to a jumble sale.

Turning down corners! Cut this person out of your life immediately. I wouldn't turn down a corner in my own book never mind a borrowed one!

No one has mentioned crumbs. Where do people stand on the matter of crumbs being found in the pages of books.

I have a friend who refuses to read library books due to a fear of Stranger's Crumbs. I think she's bonkers.

I have a few absolute favourite paperbacks that are in less than pristine condition from being read 100+ times - but that amounts to a crease in the spine only, I would never turn down page corners! I'll only ever lend books to my DM and she is they only person I trust to take care of them!

I'll admit, I am a bit precious with books. I take the dust jacket off hardbacks when I read them so they (the dust jacket) doesn't get damaged in any way and I have a few books where I have multiple copies of the same one, so I can have one 'usable' one that I actually read, and another 'display' copy that is pristine and untouched and I can admire it on my shelf.

Dsis lent a set of Penguins (angry young men) to a friend. After asking after them a few times friend breezily said that her mother had been tidying her room and had given them to a jumble sale.

I don't do this after realising that some people find it heinous. I still don't get it though and a lot of people's reactions are completely OTT.

If you lent a friend a jumper and it came back torn and stained I'd imagine you might be a little miffed.

I don't think turning the down the corner of a page is comparable to that.

I have never broken the spine of a book but I regularly put creases along the spine of it. When I read a book I want to enjoy it without being anal worrying about not opening the book wide enough to read comfortably.

Just to clarify, I never borrow books and I refuse anyone's offers to lend the book to me. People can't seem to understand why I don't want to borrow their books. In future I shall just redirect them to this thread.

me too Fight, someone offered me the lend of a nice book the other day, and I said thanks but no, I would have a look at it when I was round at his only.

Worst was when I lent a friend a book recently,and she "Ooh,this looks good" and started flicking through it, licking her thumb each time she turned a page....