to think that telephoning someone you don't really know at 10pm is a bit off?

[LarrytheCucumber]

Someone rang me last night to ask if my DH (who is away) had read an email sent by his wife . Apart from the fact that I couldn't possibly tell whether DH had read it I was annoyed that he rang at 10pm, having always believed that 9.30pm was the cut off for calls unless you know the person really well. AIBU? Or old fashioned?

If it's a friend ok, a random or someone who you wouldn't consider close not on.

Just a thought, did he actually use your husband's name or just say "has your husband read my wife's email yet?"

Could have been a wrong number which would make this thread far less exciting for us nosy gits

9am to 9pm is acceptable for social phonecalls.
8-9am for work and school related stuff.
Anything else panics me.

No-one ever rings us after 8pm. If the phone rang after this hour, I'd wonder if it was an emergency/accident. We're in bed by 10pm.

Very strange call too. Why should an email be so urgent? And why didn't the man's wife call your number herself? Intriguing.

Another vote for 9pm from me, unless it's family or a very close friend.

I'd definitely want to find out about the email!

You answered ? I only answer around thirty percent of my calls to be honest

The wife works for a charity and is overseas. She is also a bit stressy/ highly strung. When DH got home it turned out to be about something she thought needed to be done for Thursday evening. However a few phone calls to other people and he got it sorted out with no drama.
I would imagine her DH felt the need to placate her. Don't worry, my DH is definitely not her type (or she his).
I think from my tone of voice he may have got the idea that I wasn't pleased .

I don't understand why people don't answer the phone. If you don't want to answer it just get rid of it.

We are old enough for the landline to be our default phone for us, family and friends, so most phone calls are from people we know and like and not "the enemy"

99 out of 100 calls we get are cold callers for someone who previously had our number.

I only answer the phone if the children are at school as it could be an emergency, or if I'm standing right next to it. I'm certainly not going to bother rushing to pick up if I'm in the middle of something, in the garden, ip a ladder etc.

We have to have the landline though as we're in a mobile dead spot.

Why aren't you TPS registered then?

TPS means nothing these days as most of the cold calls come from overseas.

Frustratingly you are right, but we do still receiver fewer cold calls being registered with them.

I don't understand why people don't answer the phone. If you don't want to answer it just get rid of it.

I had a no fault car accident over two years ago, the compensation was banked in 12 weeks. I still get calls telling me that the compensation is sat waiting for me. Hence I don't answer anything that I don't recognise.

And yes, TPS registered. Home and mobile. Doesn't stop them as 'I am on their database'.

HTH.

We are TPs registered. It doesn't stop the calls from overseas.

9pm would be the cut-off for me. Later than that is an emergency. Equally nobody should call before 9am (although occasionally my mum will call earlier if she is on her way out to somewhere).

But nobody calls me anyway, I do everything via email, FB etc.

I have a landline for the free calls out (to my dad, e.g., which we arrange first by text!)

I am TPS registered. All the incoming landline calls are just sales and scam bollocks.

I was always taught 8.30pm was the cutoff, and that was because the movies on tv started then and people didn't want to be disturbed. Old habits die hard. Most of my friends would send me a facebook message before they ring later at night, because if I respond to that, then I'm awake and happy to take a call.

9pm is the cut-off here and anyone who exceeds it without good reason gets very short shrift. Unfortunately having the manners to know this is becoming less uncommon as the years roll by, as is knowing that it's not on to knock on someone's door without invitation beyond a certain hour.

I've recently had the same teen phone the landline at 10.30pm and a few days later knock on the door at 11 at night. She was told not to do it the first time. If it transpires that she doesn't take the second warning and it happens again I'll really let rip.

I was stupid to answer the phone, I agree, especially as we have caller display, but if someone rings at 10pm you imagine it will be urgent.

Contact between 9pm and 9am is on an emergency only basis in my mind. Unless you're good friends and know that it won't disturb them.

I have to make some work related calls during the evening because many of our clients prefer it that way. Some are not home from work until pretty late, but in general I like to say that 8.30pm or 9.00pm at the latest are my cut-off points.

In general I do think that 10.00pm is getting a little late, but would happily speak to close family members at that time (hoping that it wasn't an emergency of any kind).

I have been known to speak to my 19 year old daughter at that time, but as she is at university she would consider the night still young at that point. I wouldn't call my parents that late, as they would probably be on their way to bed. The last time I spoke to them very late at night was when I had just given birth to my eldest at nearly 11.00pm

I must say that I too would be wondering what the email could be about and why it is so important!!

Yanbu. Phoning early is just as bad! I would never ring anyone before 9am. My mum's colleague rang at 7.20 am this morning...on her day off!

9pm definite cut off for any phone calls, unless its an emergency or something that needs to be sorted out straight away. I get so cross when the phone goes after 9pm just as I've sat down to have a relax. My MIL (generally OK!) likes to call at 10pm on Sunday evening, as she 'knows we'll be in..' WTF!!! Yes we're in trying to have a relaxing Sunday evening before the start of another busy week.

I think YAB a bit U. 10pm isn't that late.