My daughter wants Botox for her birthday!

[CLJ52]

DD1 is 25 in a few weeks and has asked for Botox (or contribution towards it) for her birthday. It's £100 for the treatment although the price isn't relevant to the dilemma.

Since birth, she has had a habit of frowning. It's odd, because she is a very upbeat and positive person. She frowns when she reads, watches TV, drives - it seems to be a very entrenched habit. The result is that she has furrows between her brows which are getting deeper. Her father, uncles and my exMIL all have exactly the same (constantly frowning family!)

I'm not keen on cosmetic surgery anyway but try not to judge others. However, I'm horrified at the thought of injecting poison into your skin, especially for someone so young. She had it before and says it made a difference, but wears off after six months.

AIBU to say no?

I'm quite happy to admit that I care what I look like. We all care to some extent, to say otherwise is misguided and possibly quite disingenuous.

My point is, most of the time I am not angry, stressed or tired. So I'd rather not look that way. Self esteem is about something else altogether.

Anyway this is all beside the point.

I agree- I care what I look like too.

But the one person who truly doesn't care what I look like is my mum!

Sorry - that was really in answer to what icebeing said.

But I'm not going to argue over it, it's all subjective after all

I pay £150 for 2 areas administered by a GP - I have never had a problem, don't look frozen and it's my little secret indulgence

CLJ, your daughter sounds sensible and appears to have fully researched it, and planned it down to the timing. I'd let her go for it. It is such a simple, discrete and relatively inexpensive procedure which I think will lead to a good result.

I had deep furrows across my brow and got Botox in my late 30's, I'm in my late 40's now and they've never come back fully.

My eldest DD had Botox in the same area, when she was 28, hers also haven't returned and she looks more relaxed/happier.

She also had a frowning issue. She hasn't needed a top up for a year and will be spending her Christmas money on that.

I've had fillers as well, but have made the decision not to spend my money on them.

There is no ethical issue with what she wants, she has capacity, so why posters think at 25 she isn't entitled to body autonomy, I don't understand.

Fillers, face peels and Botox aren't in the same category as surgery and I view them similar to hair colouring.

But it is irrelevant, what I think, if your DD is competent, then it's what she thinks and wants that matters.