to believe that some babies are just better sleepers than others?

[CheerfulYank]

I have two very good friends.

One has children. She started putting them in the crib in their own room from day 1. One slept through from two or three weeks, the other is three months or so now and wakes up once.

I have two children. The first slept through from about four months (I think....he's seven and a half now and I can't remember back that far!). My DD is 19 months and honestly did not sleep for more than three or four hours and a time no matter what I did til she was almost a year. I started cosleeping with her when she was a few months and that helped somewhat. I just wasn't comfortable leaving her to scream and that is what she would do if left alone. She's been a solid sleeper since about a year; she never sleeps with us anymore. She will occasionally wake in the night (maybe every few weeks) but will settle when given a drink and go back to sleep.

I'm pregnant with #3 now and am just planning to cosleep from the get go. We enjoyed it last time and it worked well. Plus the baby will eventually have to share a room with either DS or DD and it might work best (room arrangement wise) to move the baby when he/she is ready for a big bed.

Plus I do feel that cosleeping is best...in the way that breastfeeding is "best". That is, best if you can/don't mind it but obviously not best if it stresses you out OE you find it awful etc.

Every time this comes up with Friend 1 (the one with kids) she insists that putting her DD in her own room from birth "made" her a good sleeper and that I am making a mistake in not planning to "make" my DC3 a good sleeper.

Friend 2 (without kids but planning on TTC soon) has told me today that she will definitely not be cosleeping because "look at Friend 1, her DD slept right away and I just don't function without sleep.". I told her I don't either and that is why I coslept...it was the only way for us to get any sleep at all!

She clearly didn't believe me and (it's probably hormones) it is irritating the crap out of me. I feel like some babies are just naturally good sleepers and some aren't, no matter their sleeping arrangements.

AIBU? And hormonal? :o

Mumin I don't know about dormice :o But DH, DS, and I all sleep like the dead and DH and I could sleep anywhere, any time. We're both night owls but once we go to sleep we could stay that way for twelve hours or so (of course we never get the chance, but :))

But DD is just a lighter sleeper. She will sleep very late if you don't disturb her, but if you open her door or go into his room she's up. With DS I routinely go in his room and rummage around in his drawers, straighten his covers, scooch him back from the edge of the bed, etc. He doesn't even stir!

I think its a bit of both. DS1 was a horror sleeper (still not consistently sleeping through as a 3yo). To some extent he's just like that, to some extent we didn't help. In hindsight I honestly wish we'd bit the bullet and sleep trained in the first year, but there you go...

SIL is the only person I know in real life whose DCs all sleep very well, and she achieved this by cheerfully ignoring most of the SIDs advice - her three DCs slept on their stomachs in their own rooms from birth and were ruthlessly sleep trained very early on. Although we put DS three nights in because he was such a loud fidgety 'sleeper' we were both going slowly insane, so I can't talk .

YANBU at all. Tell your "friends" to wind their necks in - they're being rather rude. Can forgive currently childless friend for being naive, but still. The only right sleeping arrangements are those that work best for you and your family. Co-sleeping was never for me, but I know lots of people who've done it and got on perfectly well with it. And yes, I think there's a lot more to "sleeping through" then rigid, early sleep training.