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AIBU to expect the neighbors to bloody turn it down?!

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Blackout234 · 06/01/2015 23:14

its 23:12 PM (In case not everyone is in UK), Just settled down for bed, have no DC's but am 21wks pregnant. As I was falling asleep there was a loud crashing and banging sound followed by dubstep music, Me and DP are currently sat up in bed wide awake contemplating going around there guns blazing.
The people living there have been there for 4 days, and in 4 days....
2 teenage daughters of theres (I saw through window) were knocking on my door then running away laughing and screaming nonsense.
One of the youngest children told me I was a stupid fat idiot and the mother just laughed (As opposed to going "Im so sorry, Jim that was a nasty thing to say please apologise!" Like I hope any sane being would) I'm not offended but surely a child should have something said to them when they say these things? As opposed to said child finding it hilarious O.o
One of the daughters screamed that I was an "Alky bitch" Upon me picking up a bottle of shloer in the local shop, Schloer (Sp?) is like a fake wine sort of thing XD, Talk about extreme rudeness.
Also DP pulled up yesterday in the car and found one of the children smearing poop All over our outside window sill.
Feel I'm at my wits end but what can I do really? I dont know who I can complain to (Barr police and I feel i'd just be wasting time when someone could be in real danger) I'm a private tenant but this area is a mix of both private and council so i really dont know whom they are renting from.

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CadleCrap · 06/01/2015 23:19

All that in 4 days? Shock Was it human or animal poo?

CadleCrap · 06/01/2015 23:20

I am assuming you had to clean up the poo , so surely that is a time-social behaviour, a quick call to non-emergency police I think.

26Point2Miles · 06/01/2015 23:20

Oh dear op, hold on tight for the rocky ride ahead, it's going to be miserable

Ask the council if it's their property

shadowfax07 · 06/01/2015 23:21

Start keeping a diary of all the behaviour that's unacceptable. I'd be reporting the poo smearing to environmental health at the very least - they should be able to find out who owns your neighbours' house. You have my utmost sympathy, in the end we moved to get away from our neighbours from hell

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Blackout234 · 06/01/2015 23:22

I have no idea CC! Bare in mind this is the same child that said I was a stupid fat idiot, He looks about 4-5 at most so pretty disgraceful behavior! Yes all that behavior in just 4 days! Oh and one of the teenage girls kicked my poor cat under a car (non moving but still) its terrible.

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CadleCrap · 06/01/2015 23:22

Time-social?.. Anti-social

shadowfax07 · 06/01/2015 23:23

Blackout, do you own or rent?

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Blackout234 · 06/01/2015 23:25

Shadowfax i've been keeping note Im thinking of calling council tomorrow but not sure if they will tell me anything hopefully they will and help me file some form of complaint. Also our car alarm (Which isn't faulty) has been set off loads in the last 3/4 days so think they may be playing with that aswell.

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Blackout234 · 06/01/2015 23:26

we rent, private tenant, lived here for coming up to 3 months now was considering being here long term (Although this house was found in a rush due to being kicked out by in laws, long story)

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Blackout234 · 06/01/2015 23:28

Not sure we will follow through long term as im pregnant (Not 100% I mentioned that!) and would hate to have to deal with this sort of noise AND a newborn not sleeping!

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RandomNPC · 06/01/2015 23:30

Ugh, they sound like a right load of scrotes. Tell their landlord, the council if it's a local authority property. 101 too if there's any harassment/criminal damage.

expatinscotland · 06/01/2015 23:30

I would move.

DontWorrryBaldrickHasACunningP · 06/01/2015 23:34

How long is your tenancy for? I would be tempted to just move given that you have only been there three months and your being PG, you don't want these yobs blighting your pregnancy and enjoyment of your new born.

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Blackout234 · 06/01/2015 23:35

Moving isn't the best option right now, more like a last ditch option as we really cant afford another move, may come to that tho :( Just needed to vent/Ask for advice from others who've been through the same. music still blaring. ugh. my partner works a 40 min drive away so has to leave for work at half 7 to put fuel in the car (adds 15min onto his journey) and get to work for 8:30 so I really hope it stops soon as we both need sleep.

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Blackout234 · 06/01/2015 23:39

6 month lease, However it'll be really really tough to move at 33 weeks pregnant (can't afford to lose deposit and we will and probably have to pay for the months we wont be here so will have to leave when lease is up) It'll be incredibly hard with moving costs and another deposit to shell out for with a months rent in advance, cancellation costs of our subscriptions such as internet then setting them up again (Need internet and landline for my work)

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Bellerina2 · 06/01/2015 23:44

There's no quick fix I'm afraid. The council will probably be able to do something but you're looking at at least a few weeks of recording their behaviour. You should ring the council asap though so that they are aware of it, and can assign you a case number etc. They may also send you a noise diary to keep. Make sure you nite EVERYTHING down in this, and take a copy of it before you send it back to the council. If you've got other neighbours who are also having problems with these people then it's a good idea for the, to contact the council too.

INickedAName · 06/01/2015 23:49

I'd be reluctant to go round, as from what you've said of them so far I'd not be surprised if they just think it's funny and make even more noise.

We had new neighbours move over the road and there's been some anti social stuff but nothing as bad as what you're dealing with.

Could environmental health help? I think I've seen them mentioned on those neighbours from hell type programmes.

Keep a log of everything and use your phone to record stuff if you can. Hope you get some help.

WinterShivers · 06/01/2015 23:51

How disgusting! I am sorry that you have to go through all of this, although you have said moving isn't the best option right now I would consider it.

It sounds like your neighbours aren't going to stop causing you grief anytime soon, what I have just read reminded me of that television program "nightmare neighbours from hell"

HeyheyheyGoodbye · 06/01/2015 23:54

Move. People like that can't be reasoned with and it'll only get worse. Save yourself the distress.

RandomNPC · 06/01/2015 23:57

They should build a big walled town, a bit like Escape From New York, and put all these scrotes inside. They can fight it out inside for Top Scrote then.
Oooh, I think I've come over a bit Daily Mail in my old age.

musicposy · 07/01/2015 00:02

I wonder if they fancy a little holiday down on the south Coast? We could house swap with them and give you a break for a few weeks.

Our neighbours complain at everything. If our dog gives one bark they're round complaining. They sent a letter saying our (perfectly good and virtually new) fence was not up to their standards and if we didn't replace it they would go to solicitors. We sometimes look after my baby nephew and they wrote a nasty letter about "screeching noises". They've sworn at us, threatened us, you name it.

Possibly the most bizarre was when they told DH the pebbles between our drives were not lined up enough on our side and he was to straighten them. They followed this with a very abusive unsigned letter. They are making our lives a misery.

Putting neighbours like yours next door to them for a bit would give me huge pleasure Grin. A bit of poo on their windows would stop them worrying about pebbles in straight lines. Teens constantly setting off their car alarm would stop them shouting abuse at anyone who parks on the road outside their house. It would also give your neighbours someone worth taunting.

Seriously, I would a) try to get them out through the council/ letting agent and if that fails, I would consider a move. It's horrible being forced out of your home but it really isn't worth the stress - particularly with a baby on the way. You can't underestimate the impact that this kind of stress has on you Sad.

With any luck the letting agency will chuck them out as quickly as they can. Good luck with it Flowers

musicposy · 07/01/2015 00:05

I would second the diary, btw. We are keeping one and though it's a pain to remember, after a little while you'll have plenty of evidence. It's also strangely cathartic writing it down.

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Blackout234 · 07/01/2015 01:45

20 to 2 in the morning, music still going strong, people out the front fighting now aswell. Considering calling the police but dp doesn't want to as he doesn't want to start trouble. Had a bloke banging on the door asking for "Julie" (next door, not really named julie) an hour or so ago. Stressed isn't the world

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Blackout234 · 07/01/2015 01:46

Isn't the word. Sorry, Collapsing from exhaustion here haven't slept in 2 days due to HG and SPD.

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TotallySociallyInep · 07/01/2015 02:12

Flowers Brew
Wow this sounds really bad. Sorry I'm no help. Hope you are atleast asleep now