AIBU to their their are a lot of people playing at being a sw

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I noticed a lot of threads about people being witness to a snap shot what the "deem" abuse ffs

This often included snap shots of bevahiour displayed while in public when the context is not know viewed through t he prism of their own parenting style

You get a lot of these posters saying well I would never parent,speak to my child like that forgetting that all people have parenting. Styles and the harshness of any parent is very subjective

you get told by some you must report this incidents though you have no clue what's happend as you only viewed a snap shot less a child get abused and many children are abused because people do nothing

Yes but that is in a environment were the child is known to the adult and it's very clear what is happening over a period of time.
Eg a child attending school or adult who's child plays with a local child regularly who notices things or has disclosures made but dose nothing VERY different.

those who actually know anything about abuse of child protection no that ss do not make sweeping judgements based on one off incident they as they no people have bad days and all my not be as it seems at first glance and deeming something as abuse simply because it offends your guardian sences and you wouldn't dream of doing that with your children is dangerous and often let's real abusers go un noticed the whole point is that child abusers are often VERY controlled and don't often loose it their charming and will have every one believe they are the prefect parent and very seldom loose in in public somone mentioned poor baby p on one of the threads and the hole point to that was she was very controlled an manuliputive and didn't ever loose it in front of any one just like abusive men are not usually the ones having the row with their wife in tesco their usually the ones that have never so muched raised their voice in public hence people finding it even harder to believe and more easily dismissed*

So if you really think a child is being abused then call ss if you no the context and your shore your not viewing the incident the though the prism of your own parenting style because their is a big diffrence between labeling somone a child abuser and just being judgey about perceived poor parenting

OP child protection is more like a jigsaw, social workers try to create a picture of a child's home life based on pieces of the puzzle. The pieces are snippets of information given to teachers, doctors, health workers, social workers, neighbours, friends, family. A story about a family's behaviour on the street is another part of that jigsaw and will help SW give the help that is needed.

Social services cases are all about building up a picture so yes reporting one of issues is a good thing. If more and more evidence builds up a similar picture then ss will look in greater detail at the case if nothing else happens they won't. On that basis I don't agree with the OP. If something screams at you that there is something really wrong in a situation and if you have details of who the people are report them to social services.

If people had called about the children I am now friends with as adults they would not be the wonderful but very damaged people they are.

Child abuse is devastating on par with murder because it kills the potential person that child was to become!

That's not to say they won't become fantastic individuals.

People will say that sounds dramatic but it's not. children who have been abused in many cases will forge a life for themselves and can become productive members of society but they live with and carry the abuse from their past forever and the person they are has been forever changed.

I could write an essay about it but words will never convey the damage abuse does and actually the other dimension of looking back as adults and realising that adults around them (not the abusers) didn't call help is another level added but not unnoticed.

if the op is genuinely concerned for childrens' welfare, like In the recent one of a friends 5 year old hating step dad, step sad liking the sister and not him, then she should phone NSPCC for advice, that's what they are there for.