"We would love to come to your wedding (a 4.5hr drive away) but it will largely depend on whether dd2, who will then be 7mths and is a staunch ebf'd bottle refuser who wakes every 2.5 hours from 7pm-7am, sleeps better and will take a bottle by then"....
It's likely that dd1 (3yo) will stay over at my parents and then dd2 will stay with PIL. Currently dd2 can only be consoled by me, not even DH. I think she's teething which obv isn't helping the clingyness but I can't imagine she'll be easy to leave in another 6-7 weeks from now.
I find it hard to leave my dc with people anyway and am generally a bit like a lioness when breast feeding so this is worrying me.
The wedding is someone in my extended family who I'm not specially close to. I'd feel lame saying now that we couldn't go but I don't want to spend the next 6 weeks worrying about this. I'm happy to keep trying a bottle but don't have a huge amount of time to do so, and I'm not inclined to try any kind of sleep training yet, and certainly not just for this wedding.
PIL are capable I'm sure but they both work full time, are in their early 60s and haven't even babysat for an evening for us since dd2 was born. As things stand I think it would be horrific and exhausting for them and for dd2.
We'd need to leave around 8am then be back the following day at lunchtime.