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Original poster

To be annoyed that the workman left the toilet seat up?

40 replies

Cubee · 03/01/2015 11:36

I had an internet engineer type person round. When he was finished he asked to use the bathroom. No problem. Only when I went up later the toilet seat was up. I think that is so disrespectful and rude. Leave it how you find it ffs. My 5 year old knows the put the seat and lid back down. Why a middle aged grown man seems incapable is beyond me.

My friend told me it was no big deal (well, of course it's not in the scheme of things but it still pissed me off), and that "that's what men do". Well no man I've ever lived with.

I'm not about to complain or anything Grin but AIBU to think it's disrespectful to leave the toilet seat up, especially in someone else's house, and especially if that someone is a paying client?

OP posts:
TheSpottedZebra · 03/01/2015 11:37

It's not that much of an issue, really, is it?

So - YANBU to be annoyed for a bit, but not for long.

Sparklingbrook · 03/01/2015 11:44

Get a sign.

To be annoyed that the workman left the toilet seat up?
Original poster
Cubee · 03/01/2015 11:49

Haha. Long enough to moan to a friend then MN about it?

I'm over it now. Grin

OP posts:
MissBattleaxe · 03/01/2015 11:52

an internet engineer type person round Goodness Lady Cubee, did you actually allow him in the hice?

YABU but you sort of know that. Smile

Icimoi · 03/01/2015 11:53

YABU. I've never got what is the big deal about putting the seat down; why is it necessary for men to put the seat down for women but not vice versa? And how does it hurt women to put the seat down for themselves? I've lived in predominantly male households all my life and it's never bothered me how I find the seat.

And I certainly disagree with putting the lid down every time - not only is it utterly pointless, it's potentially disastrous in a stomach bug emergency.

Topseyt · 03/01/2015 11:54

My husband sometimes quite regularly forgets to put it back down.

Not worth making an issue out of it IMHO. WinkGrin

Humansatnav · 03/01/2015 11:54

Here, have a grip from me. Grin

DropYourSword · 03/01/2015 11:56

Ahhh, it's more effort to be annoyed than to just put it down. Count yourself lucky that all the men you've ever lived with has always put it down, if only I were that lucky!

BananaLeaf · 03/01/2015 11:59

It annoys me but I'd rather DH put it up and leave it up than piss on the seat like he used to.

Spartak · 03/01/2015 12:00

Surely if you are a polite host, you go in ahead of male bathroom users and lift the seat up for them? He has come out to fix your problem at a time when most people are still off work from the festive period after all.

Hatespiders · 03/01/2015 12:44

My dh had never seen a toilet in his whole life (up until his early thirties) just a stinking hole in the ground. He was so thrilled with our 'chaise anglaise' and the flushing mechanism, he was in the bathroom for ages just gazing at it and giving it an extra flush just for pleasure! He always carefully puts the seat and lid down. He really adores that toilet!

YABU op. It isn't important, as the man doesn't live with you. If he was a house guest I suppose, but even then I wouldn't say anything. It's only family that need to be shown to put the seat and lid down.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 03/01/2015 12:47

You are over reacting massively.

So what if he left the lid up, it takes a nano second to put it down and forget about it.

especially if that someone is a paying client?, you're sounding rather snooty too with that comment.

vienna1981 · 03/01/2015 13:01

Surely not something to get annoyed about. Just put the seat down again. It never fails to amaze me how some women get their pants in a pickle over something so trivialShock.

Azquilith · 03/01/2015 13:04

Really?

Pancakeflipper · 03/01/2015 13:06

Oooh just soooooo many issues here.

You let a workman use your loo?
You didn't give him the laminated wipeable sheet for loo etiquette?
Well you need to pop out this afternoon and buy a new one.

Milmingebag · 03/01/2015 13:09

Really?

Did he sprinkle when he tinkled too?

Another first world problem to grip your shit.

TakeMeUpTheNorthMountain · 03/01/2015 13:11

I dont sit on the loo seat, I dont even notice if its up or down.. is this a real issue? I always thought this was a cliched thing

squoosh · 03/01/2015 13:23

Oh such savagery OP!

Be grateful he didn't pop you and your family members into a big cauldron and turn you into a stew.

IsadoraQuagmire · 03/01/2015 13:25

YANBU at all!

HouseBaelish · 03/01/2015 13:37

What. A. Monster.

ilovesooty · 03/01/2015 14:32

Well, I imagine you were happy enough to avail yourself of hisexpertise to sort your internet out as well as being happy enough to sneer here afterwards. Hmm

I'm sure you expect these pesky tradespeople to know their place.

WhereIsMySantaHat · 03/01/2015 14:34

What's the problem. I don't get the issue?

GlitzAndGigglesx · 03/01/2015 14:39

Wow

uglyswan · 03/01/2015 14:55

Not in the least relevant, but hatespiders, your description of your dh's toilet love is delightful and really made my day. Flowers

DropYourSword · 03/01/2015 15:00

NorthMountain you don't sit on the loo seat?

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