AIBU - MIL feeding DS (11mo) out of date food

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We are staying with MIL and FIL. MIL made the kids (3 and 11mo) cheese on toast for tea. I noticed the cheese was 1 month out of date and decided to take it off DS (11mo) as I didn't want him to get ill - he had a stay in hospital 2 weeks ago so I'm a bit protective of him atm. Was happy to let 3yo eat it, made DS marmite on toast instead. MIL seems offended now.

Was that unreasonable? I am quite careful about food hygiene having 2 young children, and in my opinion they are generally too relaxed about it - food left out all day when it should be in the fridge, that kind of thing.

No not unreasonable - my dad would have done the same as your mil though! Drives me mad!

1 month out of date, why did you let your 3 yo eat it?!

Sorry but YAB a bit U....it's cheese!

Out of date does not actually mean the food 'expires' on that date. Most out of date food is perfectly ok to eat. It's just using common sense to look, smell and taste the food in question.

But I would err on the side of caution with children so YANBU

Best before date or eat before? Best before is just guidance that the cheese will be at its premium at that time.

Why is it OK for your ds but not the 11 month old? its either OK or not

My XP was a chef. If it looks okay, smells okay and tastes okay it's safe. But I don't think YABU. He's your son, if it makes you feel uncomfortable don't give it to him.

Yanbu. I wouldn't have let the 3yo eat it either though.

Disgusting to expect either child out of date food, or anyone.

Yuck!

Cheese improves with age and as long as it's not mouldy - unless it's blue cheese! - then it's perfectly alright. YABU I'm afraid - nobody's going to die from the cheese.

I would have stopped anyone eating very mouldy cheese. Slightly mouldy cheese, I might just pare it off. Out of date but just a bit rubbery, perfect for grilling.

I think cheese is a bit different to an out of date pork chop or piece of chicken, so YABU

And 1 month out of date?

Unless it was mouldy I wouldn't have a problem. I don't know the date of cheese in our house as it goes in a container

1 month out of date? YABU for not taking it off both of them

My reasoning was the 3yo is tougher and generally more used to a very varied diet, it was the recent hospitalisation (not stomach related) that made me more concerned it might upset his tummy. I admit, possibly flawed logic, and also didn't want to face the todo of trying to take it off the 3yo who was eating it happily

Hospitalisation of 11mo, not 3yo

Why were you "happy to let" your 3 year old eat it?

With cheese I would be saying YABabitU unless it was obviously mouldy/smelled/tasted off. Best Before is indeed a very different thing to Use By when looking at perishable foods.
If you were happy for 3 yr old then really should be ok with 11 month old. I can understand you being extra cautious following a hospital trip and I can understand PIL being a little offended. In the grand scheme of things though hardly worth stressing over.
Perhaps explain that you were just being extra sensitive due to the hospital stay and apologise for any offence as it wasn't meant as a slur on their hospitality?

X posted. Cheese should be one of the safest foods re. Food poisoning, though.

I would eat cheese well past the best before date but would not necessarily give it to DD. I would also cook/grill it too (even for me) as old cheese can become really strong!!

Depends on the type of cheese - something like cheddar if it wasn't mouldy I would expect to be perfectly edible. Soft cheese I might be more suspicious.

It would have been fine but as LO is only 11mo and recently hospitalised I can understand why you did what you did.

YABU if it was as I'm guessing cheddar? Less U if it was Philadelphia/Boursin etc.

Cut mould off and eat if it's hard cheese. Don't waste food and money by throwing it away.