I feel guilty but I don't..should I?

[GingerCuddleMonster]

I was scheduled to work 8am till 4pm was offered the chance to cash in some holiday hours and finish early so I jumped at the chance, thought I would clean the house and sort my washing out whilst 20week old DS is in nursery, well....I've done none of it...I'm sat in my house eating chocolate fingers relaxing. I've done no house work or washing I'm just bumming about. I need to pick DS up at 4pm but I'm loving the silence and peace, I've managed to drink a cup of tea whilst it's still hot and eating my bodyweight in chocolate, I'm a bad person aren't I?

Of course you shouldn't feel guilt and of course you are not a bad person, your son would have been in nursery if you were at work, why is it suddenly a terrible place for him if yu are at home? How does that change anything? You deserve some you time, your son is being well cared for and his day is no different than if you had to work your normal hours.

Ignore the haters! It's fine to be away from your baby and -shock!- do something for YOURSELF!!!

Do it whenever I can.
I am not guilty or anything.
But if I have the chance to have the house to myself while the dc's are in childcare/education them I am taking it and doing nothing all day. I go months of doing everything, with an hour or 2 of peace on a night, so get several hours is like a holiday.
The haters don't like it, their problem.

YANBU.
Enjoy.
I hope another nice break like this comes along soon for you.

Chipping, I agree. I would pay over the odds for a couple of nights boarding nursery at times. Especially currently as DD (4) is refusing to poo...

Enjoy your time without having to do cleaning or the kids.

I used to feel guilty if I left my kids in nursery if I had a half day or finished work early, felt I should have them or do something constructive. Absolute nonsense, we get tired and need a break.

I have done hardly any cleaning over Xmas, only dishwasher and washing machine.

If we are not happy and rested then it all falls apart.

Your still paying for his nursery place even if you don't use it. So why not have I'm sure some well earned peace and quiet!

Yanbu. At all.
Make it your New Year's resolution to do it more often... lovely relaxed mummy = happy baby!

I used to put my ds in nursery on nye even though I was off and have a big tidy and lots of tea!

Enjoying x

YANBU - It will do you a power of good & thus your baby.

There really are some cat's arse types around atm.

Yanbu. At all.

Hope you've enjoyed the relaxing afternoon you weren't expecting.

Yanbu. Having a break makes you a better parent! I send mine when I have a day off!

YANBU I miss those days.

Totally unreasonable.
I've not been able to drink a cup of tea all day because of miss clingy teether.
And every time I sneak in the kitchen for chocolate miss 'what are you eating mummy ' follows me.
Why should you have what I don't

Ps enjoy and post a picture of the tea and choc so I can live vicariously through you.
Hope you enjoyed your break

You DO realise don't cha that you need to do all the washing today because it's very unlucky to clean on NYD (you'll clean away the Good Luck )

My mother (who is fab) used to offer to babysit so DH and I could go out, but she would always say "don't just go out in the evening as the DC are usually quiet in bed then anyway, go out for the day too to really get value of the child free time".

God that was a horrific stealth boast wasn't it, good sleeping DC, family babysitting and a lovely mum! Sorry

You are definitely not being unreasonable to have left your son in nursery.

I got home from work earlier than usual with it being NYE. I was praying that my DH would be out with my 2 dd's and he was!! I could have done any amount of things that need doing - hovering, washing clothes, putting things away to name but a few but instead of that I done absolute nothing! I came home had a cup of coffee and a flake and sat and watched tv for a couple of hours. I jumped up when my dh came home and pretended that I had only got home too!

Enjoy it everyone needs a break sometimes.

just an update it got worse I had a nap it was the beat nap I've ever had though I think!!

DS returned from nursery with glitter under his finger nails and handprints on a card that read happy new year. Not going to lie, cuteness overload

I took a half day last week to do "housework"..kids at grannys. I spent 4hrs watching say yes to the dress and randys wedding rescues...bliss!

House is still a shit tip but I now know a trumpet from a mermaid!

You maybe a bad person, I don't know you well enough to comment ;)

To have an hour or so to yourself with a 5 month old does not make you bad, your baby is in a routine and is getting a grasp on the daily flow. If you were desperate to get an extra hour with your baby,they would be happy. If you kept them in nursery to the usual time they would think of it as a normal day.

No one would think twice if you handed your 5 month old over to a relative, friend , or other known person for a couple of hours break.

If you are anything like me when I had my first, this is probably the first me-time you have have since your son was born! Make the most of it!

Yes you should feel guilty.
He should only be in daycare if you are earning money or doing woman's work chores.
Obviously he will know what you have been up to.
And a nap?!!?
Fucking hell! How do you look yourself in the mirror?