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I feel guilty but I don't..should I?

72 replies

GingerCuddleMonster · 31/12/2014 12:09

I was scheduled to work 8am till 4pm was offered the chance to cash in some holiday hours and finish early so I jumped at the chance, thought I would clean the house and sort my washing out whilst 20week old DS is in nursery, well....I've done none of it...I'm sat in my house eating chocolate fingers relaxing. I've done no house work or washing I'm just bumming about. I need to pick DS up at 4pm but I'm loving the silence and peace, I've managed to drink a cup of tea whilst it's still hot and eating my bodyweight in chocolate, I'm a bad person aren't I?

OP posts:
amigababy · 31/12/2014 12:26

these breaks are few and far between, enjoy! ( Did you know darts is on soon?! )

You'll be all bouncy and full of energy when you pick ds up later.

MinnieM1 · 31/12/2014 12:28

charlie0123 - she did ask!

NobodyLivesHere · 31/12/2014 12:29

I used to do this. EVERY WEEK. I win the shit mother competition, I'm afraid. Must try harder OP!

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GingerCuddleMonster · 31/12/2014 12:33

I've chucked a load in the washing machine, and cleaned the breakfast dishes...yeah productive haha!!

btw all who are concerned about DS he loves nursery that's why I'm prepared to leave him, he's the only baby between 2 workers he's spoilt rotten all day, does painting somehow Hmm came home with green toes the other day and flour in his hair haha

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BiscuitsAreMyDownfall · 31/12/2014 12:33

How dare you leave your young child in a place where he will be looked after and cared for? It doesn't matter that you have paid for it and will not be entitled to a refund. You should have your child with you at all times. You are a very selfish person to not be at work and not have your child with you. I am disgusted. Wink

WiseKneeHair · 31/12/2014 12:33

Ginger enjoy your rest and chocolate fingers and DON'T FEEL GUILTY.
I would tell Minnie to fuck off, but MNHQ won't like it.
As mothers, we have other people and the media trying to make us feel guilty all the time, often for things fathers do as a routine.

Here's another Brew

ChocolateBubbleBarsmakemefat · 31/12/2014 12:34

Can't believe posters on here who either have small children or have been there at some point have made comments as to make the OP feel bad that her child is in nursery while she is at home having some well deserved 'me' time.

I think its important for you to get some time to yourself. Your child is safe. Enjoy your mini break and most certainly do not feel guilty.

I am very jealous re the mini fingers btw

Number3cometome · 31/12/2014 12:41

Ignore the haters, they probably have screaming babies who don't go to nursery.

I went back to work when my kids were 2 months old, sneaky days to yourself won't cause them any harm.

YABU if you do not make yourself sick from a chocolate overdose Grin

Enjoy!

PollyParrotsCrackers · 31/12/2014 12:42

Very jealous!
Chocolate fingers AND time to yourself!!
Baby will be just fine, if it makes you feel better tell him what you have been doing on the way home, im sure it won't cause an argument Wink

iklboo · 31/12/2014 12:43

I see some folk got judgey pants & matching hoiky bosom bras for Christmas Hmm

Bulbasaur · 31/12/2014 12:43

He's a baby. He will never remember the time he spent a few extra hours as nursery. That's what you pay them for, to watch your child. He's in a quality environment not a Romanian orphanage. Hmm

Enjoy your chocolate fingers. I would.

ToffeeCaramel · 31/12/2014 12:44

I don't really understand the point of this thread though. Op is at home enjoying some free time and doesn't feel guilty about it and asking if she should feel guilty. Lots of people replying that she shouldn't feel guilty, which I agree with, but anyone who disagrees with that is being rounded on and sneered at, so what's the point of op asking then if the only viewpoint permitted is that the op is right not to feel guilty?

Number3cometome · 31/12/2014 12:44

I see some folk got judgey pants & matching hoiky bosom bras for Christmas hmm

hahahahaha

Number3cometome · 31/12/2014 12:45

I don't really understand the point of this thread though. Op is at home enjoying some free time and doesn't feel guilty about it and asking if she should feel guilty. Lots of people replying that she shouldn't feel guilty, which I agree with, but anyone who disagrees with that is being rounded on and sneered at, so what's the point of op asking then if the only viewpoint permitted is that the op is right not to feel guilty?

Because all new Mums feel guilty about everything! Geez, I felt guilty for taking a shit some days.

Enjoy OP!

wigglesrock · 31/12/2014 12:45

I used to do it every Friday, when dd1 was a baby I finished work at 1.30pm and didn't pick her up until 4pm. Tbh I've never and did never give it a second thought. Sometimes I did shopping, cleaning, most of the time I went for a cup of coffee and flicked through a magazine completely on my own. I went back to work when she was just short of five months.

MrsPepperMintonCandyCane · 31/12/2014 12:45

Enjoy your peace!!!

I'm a dreadful mom...when my DS was a six month old baby I used to have a reading week from uni and he could still attend nursery. I used to take him and go home and SLEEP!!! There. I'm evil. Every mom is entitled to a rest and you enjoy it.

HappyGoLuckyGirl · 31/12/2014 12:47

She meant deelimf guilty about relaxing instead of cleaning.

OP - enjoy your relaxing. couldn't chuck me chocolate finger, could you?

HappyGoLuckyGirl · 31/12/2014 12:47

*feeling obviously Hmm

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GingerCuddleMonster · 31/12/2014 12:49

ha cheers all, I think the well advised one load in the washing machine has helped lift the guilt.

I have 4 boxes of chocolate fingers here, come and get some, I also ate 6 ferrero Roche sweets Shock. yeah I think I'll pack my jeans away till February haha Grin

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trilbydoll · 31/12/2014 12:59

Washing machine and dishwasher are perfect 'easy' chores to alleviate guilt but not take up valuable chocolate time.

I had 5 days off during Dec. DD went to nursery and I had a rest. It has been a long year!

Rabbitcar · 31/12/2014 13:04

Enjoy your break!! It's well deserved! Happy New Year OP!

SwingingBalls · 31/12/2014 13:08

Mn never fails to amaze me.

Op enjoy your day, eat more chocolate and put 2 fingers up to the haters.

gamerwidow · 31/12/2014 13:10

If it makes you feel better ive been off since the 23rd and I've done no housework at all barring a bit of washing. I'm also sending dd age 4 to my mums tonight for a sleepover with her cousins while I loaf about at home. She will love the company I will love the quiet Grin i feel no guilt at any of this and neither should you.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 31/12/2014 13:14

Just enjoy it! You could see if one of them fancies having him for a sleep over Xmas Grin

I think there's a trick being missed that there aren't any boarding nursery's!

princessconsuelobananahammock · 31/12/2014 13:17

Absolutely not unreasonable... Enjoy!!

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