AIBU. I have been with my Fiance for a couple of years . To begin with his mother was lovely to me but when we started getting closer she started becoming more difficult. Last christmas I received a christmas present from her husband but not her. I was quite upset by this but she told my partner that it was just her family tradition and my gift had been allocated to her husband to buy. My partner bought this even though it was painfully obvious that this was not true.
When we announced our engagement she said ' Why are you bothering?' and then took DH for a long chat to try to talk him out of marrying me including factors such as she hates my father ( who she knows socially) and I am too old ( there is a moderate age gap). We have weathered this storm with several straight talking conversations between me and her and she has learnt to hold her tongue. However, she and her husband are millionaires but are refusing to contribute towards our wedding . My fiance was shocked when he asked them as they can easily afford it and he felt they would definately contribute. Now, I have no interest in their money and am happy for us and my parents to pick up the tab as is traditional. The issue I have is that MIL keeps offering my husband money to go on holiday by himself or other miscellanious things.
Their reason for not paying towards the wedding was that they could not afford it , which was a bit embarrassing as they have just spent the last four months traveling the world and own several London Properties. If they had said that were traditional and expected the brides family to pay or they did not think it their place to contribute then I would not have minded in the least . Its just that it feels like a deliberate snub. Before I am accused of being grabby its really not about the money its about still feeling as if I am no approved of.