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To ask family and dp to stop calling me lucifer?

53 replies

LPJax · 27/12/2014 20:48

My name is Lucy and dp called me lucifer a few months back in front of family. They all found it hilarious and carried it on and now it's my 'standard' name. When I ask them to not call me it they say I'm being precious and dp laughs at me. It's fucking awful, even my grandma calls me it and dp told the neighbours it's my preferred name so they put it in our Christmas card. It's way beyond a joke and I'm so sick of it it's actually making me quite upset.

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Patrickstarxx · 27/12/2014 20:49

My family call me devil child.

Aeroflotgirl · 27/12/2014 20:51

I would pull your dp up on this, it's quite hurtful it's boarding on bullying. I would correct people.

NobodyLivesHere · 27/12/2014 20:52

Yanbu if it upsets you to ask them to stop. But why does it upset you so badly?
I call my youngest daughter Satan all the time.

AlwaysHoldingOnToStars · 27/12/2014 20:52

I'm sure you can think of some nicknames for them. Starting with Prick for your dp.

CoolCat2014 · 27/12/2014 20:53

Hit them all on the nose with a rolled up newspaper. meanies.

Feelingworriednow · 27/12/2014 20:55

The fact it is making you upset should be enough for them not to want to do it. You may have to make a bit of a stand though, they might not realise how much it is upsetting you - although hey bloody well should! As a child I had one uncle who insisted on calling me shrimp, which I know doesn't sound bad, but I was really sensitive about being the smallest in the family. He kept saying I was being sensitive when I said it upset me and minimising it. Eventually I decided to just call him "idiot" as his name and said I would continue as long as he did. Stopped quite quickly after that!

hashtagwhatever · 27/12/2014 20:56

I have been called this by my d sisters since I was a baby. Our dm hates them calling me it.

AryaUnderfoot · 27/12/2014 20:57

MIL referred to DD as 'sproglet' for almost a year until I told DH, in no uncertain terms, that it either had to stop.

YANBU. These things can get to you like fingernails being dragged down a blackboard.

meandjulio · 27/12/2014 20:57

Stop reacting. At all. Stop answering to it. Make sure that you introduce yourself as Lucy.

DontWorrryBaldrickHasACunningP · 27/12/2014 20:57

In regards to your family ask them seriously to stop explain you really don't like it and from then on refuse to respond to it.

Ditch the "D"P.

livegoldrings · 27/12/2014 20:58

Well this is annoying to be called a nickname you dont like, and it does have those connotations of evil which I wouldn't like. Just keep telling to stop and they eventually will.

knewnana · 27/12/2014 21:04

If they want to behave like children, then treat them like children. If someone calls you Lucifer just don't respond and if they persist, just say "I can see your mouth moving but I just can't understand what you're saying if you don't call me by my proper name". Then ignore them until they get the message.

Hope it resolves soon.

TheBatteriesHaveRunOut · 27/12/2014 21:06

I say live up to it and set fire to the fuckers [extreme]

TheReluctantCountess · 27/12/2014 21:06

That's bad and hurtful of them. My mum calls me a pet name (which is an actual name, just not mine, and not something as offensive as Lucifer) and it really pissed me off. I ended up snapping at her to stop calling me it. She was hurt but hasn't called me it since.
So, my advice would be to keep asking them not to call you it.

nilbyname · 27/12/2014 21:08

I know you are but what am I?!

Said repeatedly in a whinge voice until they all stop.

expatinscotland · 27/12/2014 21:11

I'd dump your partner. What a prick.

As for your family, I'd not answer when they used that and keep repeating, 'That's not my name. You keep callling me that, and you can say it to thin air.' I'd actually limit contact with them.

LennyCrabsticks · 27/12/2014 21:13

Just answer 'yes, Cockwomble?' every single time. They'll get the hint.

Idontseeanysontarans · 27/12/2014 21:15

Bore the shit out of them on it's meaning - Latin for 'bringing light (Lux, Furre) the name for the planet Venus as the morning star, the chief angel to rebel against god (Isiah 14:12). There's loads online wrt the actual meaning of the word - it's only a lot later that it became associated with satan. Carry on until they're sick of hearing the word then refuse to engage with them on the subject again.

TattyDevine · 27/12/2014 22:15

YANBU. Shit sticks so nip it in the bud. Its not fair to say you are being precious with something like your name.

TattyDevine · 27/12/2014 22:15

And this is from someone who refers to her mother as Joan of Nark (but only when I'm talking to my brother and she can't hear)

JuxaSnogUndertheMistletoe · 27/12/2014 22:53

Does his name lend itself to an annoying nickname, one he would hate, like, say, Timmy Wimmy? Everytime he calls you Lucifer, call him whatever it is.

Chiggers · 28/12/2014 00:37

I'd totally ignore them until they called me by my proper name. Either that or I'd start calling them names like FuckFace or summat similar.

spiritofthetime · 28/12/2014 01:32

Start calling him Tiny Todger in front of them.

Isabeller · 28/12/2014 01:43

YANBU

YAB bullied. Everyone here thinks you would be very reasonable to stand up for yourself in whatever way you think appropriate.

GarlicDrankTheChristmasSpirit · 28/12/2014 02:05

Your 'd'p is a prat. He told the neighbours to call you a name you dislike? He's not good enough.

Take your pick from the above advice, it's all sound. Or take it all!