To ask what is the rudest thing a friend or relative has ever done at a meal out?

[BallsforEarings]

When out at a meal with a bunch of friends, my ex-friend (never popular -known for rudeness!) once asked if she could taste my chilli con carne, I said 'of course' and she proceeded to take a huge forkful and then pronounce loudly 'UGGHHH!! That is SHIT'.

I was left to 'enjoy' the rest of my chilli after that!

Anyone got/had a friend/relative with worse manners?

This isn't something AT a restaurant but afterward.

(This will also out me but I have nc for a thread about them anyway!)

We went out for my 21st meal. A few friends, parents, and close relatives. Parents had travelled up to Sydney (where I lived) and were staying at relatives just for this birthday which was lovely.

Friends and I decided to go clubbing and the 'oldies' went home. Mum had made me a birthday cake and while happy birthday was sung, none of the cake was eaten. I was due to catch up with relatives and parents the next day so we decided to eat it then.

Except I called the next day and the cheeky sods had eaten all of my cake! It was my favourite as well and I still get annoyed about it over ten years later!

Mum took us out to KFC for my birthday meal (dirt poor so massive treat). My Dad tried to jump behind the counter and get the servers to give us table service or something. He wasn't very mentally well at the time but I was hideously embarrassed and upset as it was my 16th.

Surprisingly we didn't get chucked out, but I walked out instead, sans chicken!

My uncle visited from Canada in August and suggested we go out as a family. My mum took our DC, my two sisters and their husband and older DC, 10 in total.

When the bill arrived it was for £250. My uncle paid £40, more than his share, and then no one paid for anything. It went on and got more awkward, so as dh and I had been planning to pay by card, we paid the whole bill, plus tip.

Then my sister asked for £20 from the money my uncle had given in for her taxi home. She promised to pay me back and has totally forgotten, my other sister and her family didn't even offer to pay and expected someone else to foot the bill.

My uncle is coming back in 2016 and if we go out again dh and I will put down our share plus tip and fuck off. I know it's rude but we are not rich enough to take the hit for that again!

At a pub with my parents and grandparents, a nice pub but certainly not a posh restaurant. My mum ordered a specific bottle of red wine - the waitress brought it over for her to check, but it was wrong and my mum told her so quite rudely. She came back with another wrong bottle of wine, and my mum was so rude to her I wanted the ground to swallow me up. I was about 17 or 18, the waitress was probably only a couple of years older than me. She scuttled off back to the kitchen and was gone for ages.

In the end she got the manager to come and explain that they had actually run out of that wine and that's why she'd not been able to find it - the poor girl was obviously to scared to come and tell my mum herself. I can just imagine if you're not too in to your wine and someone garbles something at you that you don't understand, and then the bloody thing isn't even there for you to find. Poor girl.

After the manager had gone my dad told my mum there had been no reason to be rude and she went ballistic. She leapt up from the table and stormed out of the restaurant, leaving my poor (very polite) grandparents looking absolutely mortified. In the end she came back and we did finish dinner but it wasn't the most relaxing evening and I sort of hoped the waitress had taken some kind of revenge on my mum's dinner. I would have done.

That was 16 or 17 years ago and I can still see the looks on peoples faces.

My SIL's husband brought a broadsheet newspaper to our wedding reception, unfolded it as big as it would go then sat and read it.

More embarrassing than rude this one. My late grandmother, although pretty well off was part of the "make do and mend" generation and couldn't bear to waste anything. Whenever we went out for a meal she'd bring a couple of little plastic bags with her and anything that wasn't eaten she would scrape into a bag to take home with her. Half a potato, meat covered with gravy, packs of butter and rolls would all go in, then she'd phone me that evening to tell me about the lovely sandwich she had made from the contents of her bags. Once fearing for her health my DM and me stopped her from putting salmon and prawns into her bag, and she sulked for the rest of the meal.

I have a friend who cannot hold her drink-she drinks too much, too quickly and doesn't pace herself.
Out for a meal with a large group of friends for a posh meal, she was necking red wine on an empty stomach.Suffice to say, she was drunk before the food came-and puked all over the table,onto the girl sitting opposite her and all down herself. Classy.

At a work Christmas dinner in a local pub a couple of years ago, we all sat down at the table which hadn't been cleared from the last people yet (fair enough, busy pub at Christmas), one of the lads then proceeded to eat left over food from one of the plates. He must've seen my expression as he just said "what? Can't waste perfectly good food!"

My friend likes to tell the story of her family taking her to an Indian restaurant for her 18th birthday. She got far too pissed and puked on the table. Her mother expertly wrapped the vomit in a napkin and they all carried on eating. Her Mam is a legend.

I didn't know my exh when his dsis got married but apparently her new fil at the reception asked if he could take home leftover buffet food.. My ex mil said yes & he went & got a black sack & proceeded to throw it all in plate by plate all mixed up together & according to ex sil it all got ate back at his house!!

Tbh he is a slob & very un-coof so I wasn't surprised!

Not me but my dad and DSM were there - DSM's family had a big birthday do at a Chinese restaurant for her brother. A cousin and his new gf who the rest hadn't met yet came too. All meal she kept addressing the waiter as "Jackie Chan" and talking in a supposedly Chinese accent. Apparently no one said anything and my Dad and DSM were sat there open-mouthed in horror. Just as they were about to say something she reached the point of realising she was pissed to the point of illness so left. Dad and DSM apologised to the staff and left a massive tip on behalf of the whole party.

Offensive woman and cousin did leave their fair share of the bill before leaving though!

I went on a date aged about 18 with a friend of a friend - he was older (about 33, 34) and worked in a good job in IT. He suggested a lovely Italian restaurant in our local city which does a real range of foods and prices. I was on a gap year and working all hours of the day and night to save for uni and had been honest about the incredible amount of scrimping I was doing! First of all, he was 40 minutes late and caught me walking out to go get my train and amazingly managed to talk me back to go get food. I had bruschetta, the house seafood pasta and a glass of house wine (and enjoyed it!). He ordered scallops, followed by their surf and turf dish, then a dessert and a bottle of pricey red wine (I don't drink red). After scarfing down, we asked for the bill. My food and drink came to about £20. I made the mistake of being polite and asking if he wanted to go halves, to which he said "Oh, I assumed we were anyway. Your share is £42.50". He didn't get a second date. I've never been so mortified - I actually said I'd have to go to the cash point as I hadn't brought that much and he told me he'd already asked if they could split it across two cards as he didn't think I carried cash!

Not at a restaurant but at a friends wedding. Her MIL was sat beside the Brides Dad at the top table and I heard her say to Brides Dad "God this food is weird, I cant eat this crap"

It was a bespoke type venue where there are no menus - you tell them what you want. Bride and Groom had chosen it and the very many who she was complaining to was picking up the whole tab.

a relative of mine once swiped the contents of the dish we had all left a tip in

MrsHathaway at Aunty Knobhead. Think I might pinch that if that's ok

We were at a works dinner and one of the colleagues, one of the best paid, was notoriously tight. He ordered tap water and a salad and then he and his wife pulled out a BAG with sandwiches and ate them at the table! Then when it came time to pay, he produced a chequebook. His boss had the measure of him and told him, as he began to write, 'Don't forget to add in more for the tip.'

At a meal for MiL's birthday last January, so almost here again, oh joy my ILs ran the gamut of rude behaviour.

We had two under threes with us and the restaurant had told us when booking that their liquor licence only allowed them to stay as late as 8pm. No problem, meal booked at 6pm, DS (then 1) would be awful and overtired by then anyway.

BiL refused to order until 7pm, saying he wasn't hungry and wouldn't be dictated to by the waiting staff.

MiL was horribly rude to the waiter, pulling her face at him when he spoke and shrinking away when he leaned in to hear her better.

She took DS, who was quietly gnawing on a piece of bread,out of his highchair and placed him outside the outward-opening kitchen door on some steps to play. She kicked up a stink when asked to move him and Dp had to take him from her.

She started sucking bits of vegetables from her minestrone and putting them in DS' mouth . He had all of his teeth and was perfectly capable of chewing for himself.

It was an utterly mortifying night.

'She didn't talk to me for months because I refused to split.'

Good for you! People who do this are counting on the other parties not to kick up a fuss so they get a subsidised meal.

Same friend my original post was referring to once came to my house of an evening and declared herself 'starving'. I had nothing much in so suggested we order a chinese, 'I have no money' she replied sadly, I said 'oh go on I'll treat you, you ring it through'

I nearly actually threw up when she ordered 'a starter, a v expensive main, two side orders (for her kids who were at her's over the road) and a bottle of pop for the kids, then she ordered my very basic main course as that's all I'd had in mind for each of us and now had to use all the money I'd had for the next few days to pay for her feast!

I wouldn't have split that bill either. Good for you.

The rudest time we ever had with friends/relatives at a meal which we paid for was when a friend of my father's and her sister were visiting along with my least favourite aunt. There were eight of us in all, including our two children. My husband and I thought long and hard about where to take them so we could have as nice a time as possible and finally booked a table at local restaurant, known for its good traditional food and elegant setting. When we got there, I checked the menu and noted with relief that there were some nice, not-too-fancy dishes which would appeal to my aunt and the other two elderly ladies. The food arrived: mine was delicious and the children cleared their plates without any prompting. But as soon as the three ladies had eaten every scrap of their roast beef and all the trimmings, my aunt said "Well, I don't know about you, but I've definitely tasted better beef than that!" I was literally speechless with shock but no reaction from me was required as the other two guests chimed in with "Yes, and those vegetables were definitely frozen" and "What a long time we had to wait, too!" as my husband and I weren't there! The bitching continued all through pudding -which they ate enthusiastically - through coffee and petits fours, and right up until my husband paid the (very large) bill and we left. I have never heard so much moaning over a free lunch! Quite extinguished my enthusiasm for the role of mine host for quite a while...

Why did you not tell her to go sling her hook, Balls?

A large group of friends went out for a meal and everyone paid cash, leaving a substantial tip. As most of the group were on their way out, one of the women (girlfriend of friend of friend) put her hand in the tips bowl, scooped out a handful of pound coins, and announced that it would pay for her taxi home.

Because in those days I was EXTREMELY naive and somehow assumed there had been a misunderstanding! (Yeah I know - I could slap my old self too!)