to give my honest opinion when asked for it?

[mommy2ash]

I know a lot of people think it's a cop out to say I was just being honest but I am a very honest person and make a point of not offering my opinion unless specifically asked for it. anyone who knows me know if you really want the truth you will get it off Me if you just want someone to agree with you im not the person.

well my sister asked my opinion on sending my niece to preschool in September. my sister and my mom were talking about how advanced my niece is and how she really needs to be taught. she will be two and five months come September.

my opinion is she is too young. the preschool in question is very strict and expects a lot from young kids. my dd went there so I know first hand. she needs to be completely toilet trained, have normal sized toilets with plastic step and are not supervised while in the toilet only someone outside the door. my niece doesn't really have many words yet just mama dada and baby so unless she comes on leaps and bounds which is of course possible she won't be able to participate at the level they expect.

the reality as I see it they will send her home within the first week and say she isn't ready and she might not get a place the following year as it is very much in demand. she already goes to a creche that caters for her age and I think she is better there. the preschool is really to get them ready to attend primary school.

my sister then asked if I thought her child was not advanced enough to attend and my answer is no, she c lovely wonderful child and I love her to bits but she isn't advanced and there is nothing wrong with that.

now she won't speak to me until I take it back and agree her dd is very advanced for her age.

the whole thing seems really ridiculous to me. why can't kids just be kids without having some sort of special talent.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

Seriously?

they all enable this craziness?

Your sister is in for a shock and your poor nice in for a shock when she's thrown into situations she's incapable of handling and your sister carries on just so not to be out done by others.

[Lweji]

No low self esteem the opposite in fact.

You may think, but people like that do have low self esteem. She wouldn't need to big herself up if she hadn't.

[Lweji]

i was cruel to say in front of my niece she wasn't ready for the preschool
No, you weren't.

You'd have been cruel if you had called her stupid or something along those lines.
Babies develop at different rates. What you said was just a fact.
Although she could be in 9 months, who knows?
If anything you may have underestimated her, but it's not cruel at all.