To think a lot of (nice) people will treat people like me like crap sometimes...

[PalaverParty]

Basically Im a person who is extremely shy. I have social anxiety and also low self esteem and low self confidence too. So, Im a person who doesn't really like confrontation. i don't really speak up for myself either.

I mind my own business and I'm not really bothered about other people get up to as its nothing to do with me.

I don't think Im a horrible person- well I don't intend to be that way intentionally to anyone at least. But I find that people who are otherwise quite nice people, actually say not so nice things every now and again. Not all the time nasty or anything, but every now and again they will say something that a bit hurtful to me or embarrass me or something.

Now Im thinking they definitely wouldn't do that to someone who say, was confident and would stand their ground.
So, why are they doing it to people like me?

Am I reasonable in thinking that if you are "weak" so to speak, people at some point will truly show their true self and probably say/do something not very nice because they can get away with it?

I think it just highlights how the majority of people probably dont really quite understand the complexities of brain psychology.

No- it highlights that you havent explained exactly the behaviours you mean and people are understandably unable to give you proper answers.

Also that comment makes you sound silly.

I used to attract bullies like flies on shit, because I was quiet and reserved. I was actually pretty confident in many ways, just not loud about it and liked to think things through before offering an opinion.

To the less observant bully, I looked weak, like a perfect victim. They'd try it on, I'd bite their head off, and they'd be horribly shocked. Some of the thicker ones would come back several times because they couldn't quite believe it.

I think there are two patterns of behaviour here: 1) bullies home in on perceived weakness (usually when nobody else is watching) and 2) people being more abrupt/impatient with "shy, anxious" people. If you've never been the focus of 1, you are very very unlikely to be aware of it, so you're likely to assume 2 is the only possible pattern.