Is daughter being unreasonable or her friend.

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I'll try to make this as short as possible. Dd at uni, has friend not at uni but lives in home town and they go out socialising when dd is home. Dh owed friend £30 which had been agreed to pay back before certain date. In the meantime daughter had a night out with friend who had brought another friend along who dd didn't know. At the beginning of night out dds friend lost her purse so therefore no money. Friend she brought along had no money at all so therefore my dd bought all their drinks for the night which cost her about £40.(This was separate from the cost of her own drinks) Dds friend hadn't wanted the £30 my dd owed her back at this time as she wanted it in a week or so when she knew she needed it.
The thing is now dds friend keeps reminding dd about £30 due next week, but is this right, bearing in mind dd spent £40 on drinks for friend and friends friend. Dd is torn, she owes it but at the same time she thinks friend owes her. It would really have been better if dd had lent friend drinks money.
Who is being unreasonable here?

One brought no money (?really?) and the other lost her purse (?really?). I'd be wary that your dd wasn't being taken for a ride.
Eyes wide open for next time, IF they remain friends after paying back £10 having explained that she'd covered £20 of drinks and wouldn't be making her friend pay back on behalf of her friend. Complicated!

Springcleanish "Presumably the forty quid was drinks for all three of them."

Doesn't sound like it to me - from the OP "cost her about £40. (This was separate from the cost of her own drinks )"

I do, however, quite like this idea "when will you be able to pay me,"

I'm not sure that asking about a night out "on you" is such a good idea, as the chances are the friend would either (a) worry about OP's daughter drinking her under the table or (b) it would just go wrong some other way (blazing argument, who knows)...

Also, if someone is getting more than half-way smashed (20 quid on booze sounds plenty to me) then the odds are it may be awkward to keep track (!)

OK, am out of touch as to silly prices in clubs and some pubs, but also can think of far better things to spend 20, 40, whatever quid on.... The last 25 quid I spent on booze was for 2 dozen bottles of Stella cidre, and a bottle of Irish cream, a fraction the price of Baileys, and the more appealing because of the lower cost {something like 5 instead of 15 quid} :)

Life lesson learnt I think. DD should have said 'here's the £30 I owe you' when the declaration of no money was made - if she hadn't got it on her then say 'oh we ll have to go home then I can't afford to buy everyone's drinks all night'.

Sounds planned to me - if I lost my purse with enough money to pay for drinks like that for two people then if be looking for it or going to the police station to see if a Good Samaritan had handed it in.

No wonder students have never got any money! Also if your daughter is borrowing £30 one week she really hasn't for £60 plus for drinks the next. I'm only saying this as someone who got into a lot of debt at uni (through paying tuition fees and petrol and food etc) and someone who sees spending large amount of money on drink is a waste (each to their own).

Now as someone with a good job I would pay for my best friends drinks (who would no doubt be around in the morning forcing money on me) but I certainly wouldn't spend £20 on someone I didn't know - how could she not be completely embarrassed at having a stranger buy her drinks all night?

I would text back - 'ok what are we doing about the £40+ I spent on yours and friends drinks the other night?'. I bet she gets a reply back saying 'ooh forgot about that - shall we call it quits?'. I also think that if friend took another friend on the basis she was buying her drinks all night she is also responsible for that debt .