I think DH has bought me a Hoover for xmas?

[Topsycurvy]

Aibu to think I might actually cry?

We have a perfectly good Henry though I may have remarked recently that it was bulky and a pain to get in and out of the cupboard.

I am practising my 'oh wow, just what I wanted' face......

I think that tops my wooden marmite jar with little cheese knives AND a miniature pack of marmite which was my gift from DH last year. I was speechless.

I can see that you could make a case for a gadget but not a Hoover!

This isn't on. It's massively disrespectful.

Buy a bucket and a bunch of household cleaning products as per a previous poster, and wrap it up nicely. Keep back his proper present. When he gives you the hoover, give him the bucket. When he gives you your actual gift (whether on Xmas day or a few days later) you can give him his.

do not pretend to be pleased. This is your dh. If you can't be honest about your feelings then you have serious problems.

Oh arse. I have bought my parents a Roomba and my husband an Actifry. Am I a terrible present giver?

Oh dear! I've got one of those cordless Dyson thingys for DH because he complains (loudly) about my Henry being too bulky and 'out of the 1970s'. Oops!

Giving your parents a roomba is ok if it's a joint present. A roomba is cool. If you were giving it to your mum only, and giving your dad something unrelated to housework would be wrong as it says loud and clear that housework is woman's work and your mum's function is to be a cleaner.

Giving your dh an actifry isn't great unless it will be only him using it for his own food and you and kids would never want to use it or eat food from it. If it would be as much for the whole family then re-label it as a prezzy for the whole family from Santa and get dh something for him.

He had other stuff that's just for him, related to his hobbies or off his list, of greater value than the Actifry (which is, as you correctly observe, more of a family present which is coincidentally entering the household at Christmas in a box). Roomba is for both parents. I absolutely adore my Roomba. If they don't like it, I shall keep it and have one for upstairs and one for downstairs any they can work in a team

To be fair my OH has been threatening to buy me a steam cleaner but don't think he'd dare! Honestly though if there are other presents I wouldn't worry too much. My step dad winds my mum up all the time by buying her a new iron or ironing board cover and saying its for Xmas/ anniversary. We think it's bloody hilarious! He just gets a belt (not the type that holds your pants up) off my mum!

OK, so there's a few people who would like this type of present from their other half, but most wouldn't. I think then the key is if it's been requested and it's what they genuinely want, ok get it. Otherwise it's a no-no.

I also think that there's a big difference between household appliance that benefits everyone, and practical gift/gadget for the benefit for that person. A practical gift related to a hobby, such as a new sewing machine, or a neat coffee gadget for a coffee-mad person is completely different to being given a hoover.

And I don't mind household gifts from other people if it's to both of us. DP's parents bought us some lovely quite expensive saucepans last year, someone else bought us some wine glasses, and we were pleased with those. They were practical gifts for both of us, not something that says 'this boring household chore equipment is for you as the job is your responsibility'. And not living here, it's not for their own benefit. From your spouse or partner the same gift would be awful. It's something that's as much for them as you, and there's nothing personal about it.

Agree with lovereading I wouldn't mind getting a roomba or posh hoover from a family member who didn't live in our house that would be different (and very generous) but a gift from a DH or someone living in the house should be something fun for the recipient, a luxury they will enjoy. I must admit it can be difficult with some people like my DH who has very set tastes and doesn't like things that are not the exact kind he chooses for himself. So he ends up with what he asks for and no surprises.

But even if it is for the house it can still be a present for someone ...so eg broadbabe giving her husband a Dyson cordless (animal?) because he complains about the Henry...
They have a working perfectly good vacuum cleaner, she doesn't care if they get the Dyson or not but her husband wants one...so what she might get to use it too (although I am a bit precious about others using my toys gadgets) and it is 'for the house' - whether he has one or not it is still a job he (they) need to do... and every time he uses it and (hopefully) feels it makes a horrible job easier, more practical he will get pleasure...

I agree with loveareading.

My dad bought my mum a wheel Barrow for Christmas a few years ago.

I would be gutted.
I would ask him if he thought he say you as the cleaner.

Tell him you are not happy.

So what happened in the end? Update please?

Yes, update OP!

NEWS FLASH

Woman arrested for hitting husband over the head with Hoover. Charges expected to be dropped as it appeared the husband thought a Hoover was a suitable present to buy his beloved. Statements and apologies due soon.

I would love a Hoover for Xmas. I have a Posh Hoover fetish and get a new one every year. Sad