I think DH has bought me a Hoover for xmas?

[Topsycurvy]

Aibu to think I might actually cry?

We have a perfectly good Henry though I may have remarked recently that it was bulky and a pain to get in and out of the cupboard.

I am practising my 'oh wow, just what I wanted' face......

I must be so sad. I was thrilled with the deep fat fryer that my mum got me for my b'day and the slow cooker another time. They are things I did want so that's different.

We tend not to buy for each other, but get something we need after Christmas and count that as our present, then get a small gift from the children. If we needed a new Hoover it would come under the 'something WE need' category, so could technically be our Christmas present. Dh did comment the other day he might get me a new iron for Christmas, I quickly assured him that would not be appreciated, I hate ironing so would not want one as a Christmas present. If he got me super doper cake mixer, now that I would love!

I realise that Calamitouslywrong but we are skint, so presents tend to be practical things we could do without, but make life much more pleasant, and like I say, I do love household things, I'm a total home body and enjoy things like that. DH would get practical things too, it's not just me. I think when you don't have much money things like a new hoover or a dishwasher are a really luxurious buy as it makes everyday life that much more pleasant but is not a necessary item. Perfume would not enhance my life at all.

We had to buy a new tumble dryer yesterday...it better not have a bow stuck to it in a couple of days...

Sorry, realise you made a good point about books and other nice things, I agree but for me I would prefer the hoover lol. I did get my coffee maker and love the luxury of delicious coffee every day, so it is a treat. Maybe because I'm a SAHM it is the luxury of time and ease I am getting as well as the item.

If it makes you happier to say that they're presents for either of you, then go ahead. We'd just say 'we're getting a dishwasher' and not bother with presents for each other in a skint situation. Or we'd buy each other a small chocolate bar or similarly cheap present and get the household thing we both wanted.

Thing is, he's saying its your job so you will get some kind of happiness from the gift, as its making your 'job' easier. I'd be livid, frankly. Its a household appliance.

I don't see why you should be practising your 'happy' face. He'll think you're delighted at being able to do more housework and assume that next year he can buy you an ironing board.

DP bought me a coffee machine but that's what I wanted - I do love a kitchen gadget! I broached the subject of an ice blue Kitchenaid a couple of nights ago and was met with comedy eye-widening when he saw the price and a flat, "no!"

If he bought me a hoover I'd brain him with it though!

I got a Kitchenaid two years ago. It's brilliant!

It was something I wanted though (and never thought I'd get!).

Yeah, that's what we do Calamitous. If we need something rather than just one of us wanting an upgrade to an ultra strong dyson with pet brush attachment then that would not be a present. It would still take up the xmas money as we are skint sob but would just be a household expense. If I want a dishwasher, which we don't actually need that would be my present.

I do apologise that I am making little sense I am very a tad hung over.

I would make it quite obvious beforehand that a Hoover is not a present!

I'd rather get nothing

O know for a fact I am getting a kettle and cooling rack for christmas from various people. I am well excited, I'd much rather those that loads of smellies that would take me forever to use!

Household stuff are not presents. Presents are things that are for the recipients use only, or shared if the recipient wants... Household stuff is for everyone.
My ex partner once bought me something for the house as a present. An iron. A fucking iron. He thought it was fine. Afterall I would get lots of use out of it. Didn't help that I never iron.
His birthday was a few days later. Bought him washing up liquid, sponge, cloths, mop and bucket and a few cleaning products.. He wasn't at all happy, but it really homed in that household stuff are not gifts.

I once got a lot of grief from my first wife on her birthday because I HADN'T bought her a hoover. I ended up buying one in the afternoon as she was so clearly upset.

I wish dh would buy me a new hoover. Ours only sucks properly when it's totally empty and you've thoroughly cleaned all the filters. It's a proper Hoover too advertised as "no loss of suction".

Failing that, if he has brought you a new hoover, Can I have your Henry? We had one when we rented and it was lovely. PPpppllllleeeaaasssseeeee?

When I was with my ex-h, I asked for a handheld hoover for Christmas or birthday (just after Xmas) because I found it hard dragging our big hoover up to do the stairs (and he never did any housework, even though we both worked full time). He didn't get me one because 'it'll be cheaper in the sales so you can buy one yourself). No presents was even more shit than a rubbish present. :( I have a lovely dh now! :D

^ That said, a hoover is a rubbish present. I think you should tell your dh now 'if you've got me a hoover as a present, please go out now and buy me a nice necklace (or whatever you want) as well'. Then he knows, and your xmas won't be ruined! xx

Buy him a nice mop and bucket. Oh and some yellow dusters and Pledge.

My xmil once gave me a dustpan & brush for christmas. I think she might have been trying to tell me something!

YANBU. I would probably cry too whilst hitting him over the head with the nozzle

It doesn't work both ways, does it? DH would be delighted (think tears of joy) if I bought him something practical. DH knows (having been informed casually on more than one occasion) that I would be less than pleased with anything remotely practical - the one exception was a laptop, which was partly bought to stop me borrowing his all the time!

MIL and both BILs got DH Halfords vouchers last year - he had that slightly silly happy surprised face on all day, it was quite sweet. Better even than cash. He's not even that fond of Halfords but he was ever so pleased when he bought oil to service the car with a voucher only mentioned it about six times We are polar opposites when it comes to presents... luckily I think he knows this!

I once had a Dyson for Christmas. I have no problem with household appliances as present providing they are of a brand and model I like.

You hinted about a hoover. If he has one then he probably thinks he has done well getting what you wanted. Is it really worth causing an awkward atmosphere over Christmas because of it?

Or perhaps I am just an oddball.

One year, my father bought my mother some kitchen scales, because she did not have any. She never used kitchen scales, but had needed some to weigh out the fruit for his home brew wine earlier in the year .

That was nearly the worst Christmas ever.

• he had needed some!!!!

I had a good set of kitchen scales once too.

I still use them.

My Dad once bought my mum a fire extinguisher. That was odd, but all laughed.