Telephone ettiquette.. saying your name as caller

[SparkleZilla]

hi

my OH thinks that you have to say your name as caller (, or you are very rude. My DM calls, they've known each other for 20 years, and yet everytime "Who is it please?"

Really? does he really think this is a grown up way to act? He ends up being really rude to her sometimes, and i'm fed up with it

Do you always announce yourself? I try and tailor to who i am calling (although i dont make many calls)

He should try having my MIL who simply says "is 'e there?" when I answer rather than DH.

I know a few people called "me". It's a suprisingly common name.
I usually declare who I am as all the females in my family have the same voice. I got caught by suprise with my answerphone settings, and left a greeting in a panic as that wasn't the function I was expecting to change. On several occasions my brother has rung off and tried again thinking he'd rung someone else as I sound more like her than myself on it.

It's better to clarify who you are to someone who knows, than leave someone in an embarrassing limbo of "who the heck am I talking to".

Family calls - 'hi it's me'

My mums version 'hi it's me but you knew it was me didn't you' (still can't quite get to grips with caller display )

Friends - 'hi it's Jennifersrabbit'

Formal/work calls 'please can I speak to X?' Then give name at that point either if transpires I am speaking to x or in order to be put through. Usually assume 'it's Jennifer'srabbit' won't mean much to anyone initially.

Agree with all pp, the appropriate thing if DH not sure would be 'oh, hello is that sparkle mum?'

It depends on context, in this situation DH is definitely being a bit much...

If I'm phoning in a work capacity, or about someone doing work on the house, or phoning someone I don't know then definitely "Good morning / Afternoon, this is TheBooMonster from company / address /department etc I'm calling with regards to / in response to 'context'"

If I'm phoning someone I know I either barrel straight in with what I'm saying (on a mobile) or say "It's me" and then barrel on with what I'm saying if I'm phoning a landline don't ask how it's me is supposed to clear up who I am, it's a strange habit that I must have picked up from someone though i'm buggered if I know who. It always confuses me when someone I know calls my mobile and tells me who it is and I then have to make a proper effort to not sarcastically say "well I'm glad you said I thought it was xyz calling from your mobile..."

pulps your MiL sounds like my sister!! She'll come out with something utterly bizarre and it will turn out she's had a conversation from three weeks ago running round in her head and has something new to add to it, she will do this both on the phone and in person, sometimes midway through another conversation and she gets quite frustrated when she has to catch you up!

I always say, "Hi X it's Y" - even to my partner and my Mum - it's just habit. People who don't just annoy me - especially if the line isn't clear or it is noisy.

On business or admin calls - always.

Isn't it amazing how many people are called "Hi, it's me"?
And who expect you to immediately be able to differentiate between them and the 20 or 30 others called exactly the same thing?

Yes, DP should be able to recognise your DMs voice. Equally, after the first couple of times he said "sorry, who's calling?" she should have got the hint and said "Hi John, it's Mary here."

they are both being stubborn and daft. Stay well out of it. It's been going on for 20 years and it's unlikely either one of them are going to change after all that time. Just leave them to it.

Maybe we should introduce them Boo. They'd never finish a conversation! Just start lots.

It bothers him. It's nothing for her to ID herself. She's being rude by not realising that after 20 years.