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AIBU?

To think this was a bit bloody cheeky?

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clairewitchproject · 21/12/2014 17:43

In terms of mil sins this is extremely minor but I struggled to contain my jaw drop when mil mentioned this.
Mil babysat the other evening and stayed over. All fine. The next day she mentioned that she had fancied a choccy while babysitting so she had opened a Christmas hamper that Dh's dad had sent us (divorced many years) found a box of chocolates in it, opened the pack and eaten 3. We were saving it for Christmas! Aibu to think this was kind of cheeky?! She had access to fridge, cupboards, pal. P plenty of bread a d etc

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LittleDonkeyLeftie · 21/12/2014 18:19

YANBU I would be really shocked at this. It would make me wonder if she was going through other stuff too.

My friend caugt her MIL going through her knicker drawer

Azquilith · 21/12/2014 18:19

If my MIL, or even my DM, ever babysat, I'd let her kill the fatted calf if she so chose. Perhaps you could take the cost of the chocolates out of her fee?

CatsClaus · 21/12/2014 18:21

here, at this time of the year everyone asks "can I eat this or is it For Christmas?" and that's just stuff in the cupboards

She was very forward to rummage through a parcel....cheeky mare!

Fanfeckintastic · 21/12/2014 18:27

I know I'm in the minority but it wouldn't bother me at all! I'd be so grateful she was doing me such a favour, it's only 3 chocs. I presume the hamper was in clear wrapping, so she could see it was only food/chocs and nothing personal.

MinceSpy · 21/12/2014 18:30

MIL deliberately went look looking and opened the present her EX sent you. DH needs to deal with his mother's lack of boundaries.

wheeltrims · 21/12/2014 18:31

My MIL did something similar the other week. Told me how lovely the handcream was on the kitchen worktop. Oh, you mean that brand new unopened handcream I had just bought as a gift for my own mother! She had to break the foil seal on it and everything! Made my blood boil but I just false smiled and told her she may as well keep it. Which she did happily as it goes.

OP I feel your pain

scratchandsniff · 21/12/2014 18:31

I'm in the 'wouldn't be that bothered' camp. If it was a babysitter rather than MIL I might be a bit more

To be fair when the chocolate craving takes hold it's hard to hold back!

Wasn't a rare truffle was it.

FindoGask · 21/12/2014 18:32

Bit cheeky, yes.

Do you leave food out for her, though? If people are babysitting for us, I usually have some nice cake or biscuits out on the kitchen counter, as a way of saying thank you. It's something I learned from the lady I used to babysit for, who always used to make Welsh cakes specially for me because she knew I loved them. (and she paid me too, obvs)

FindoGask · 21/12/2014 18:35

"She had to break the foil seal on it and everything! Made my blood boil but I just false smiled and told her she may as well keep it."

You see, stuff like this... basically you told her that what she did was fine, so really you have no right to complain. I'm the world's biggest pushover but in that situation I think even I would have managed to say that it was meant to be a present for someone, even if in the very next breath I said "but it's really OK don't worry about it honestly it's fine"

Tinks42 · 21/12/2014 18:37

YANBU, of course it was cheeky. I laughed at it though.

StackladysMorphicResonator · 21/12/2014 18:39

That's overly bold, but I'd let it go (although would definitely moan about it to my friends!).

MollyHoHoHoHooper · 21/12/2014 18:46

I don't think this would bother me, to be honest.

No real harm done.

MrTumblesBavarianFanbase · 21/12/2014 18:49

OP isn't aiming to make a scene but of course it was cheeky - it would be to open the as yet totally unopened gift belonging to your spouse or young child, and rummage around and open another box inside the present and eat something from it, let alone for another family member to do it.

Those saying it's not cheeky are those who feel MILs are a persecuted group and automatically defend the MIL in any post, absolutely regardless of what the post is about.

Of course it's kind to babysit, but MILhad aaccess to all non Christmas present food. Of course in context it is inappropriate to make a fuss or "demand" anything - but of course, of course it is a very odd, cheeky and "over the line" thing to do, despite being to minor to make a fuss about.

A "did she really do that?" Double take moment, for all it is of no lasting consequence.

Viviennemary · 21/12/2014 18:54

I'm shocked. That is just so totally out of order, cheeky and rude.

MollyHoHoHoHooper · 21/12/2014 18:54

Those saying it's not cheeky are those who feel MILs are a persecuted group and automatically defend the MIL in any post, absolutely regardless of what the post is about.

That's a bit of a stretch, maybe some people simply don't find it that cheeky?

MIL and I don't always get along, but her rooting around and taking some chocolate whilst baby sitting wouldn't piss me off.

waitingforgodot · 21/12/2014 19:28

My MIL would do this but she's a cheeky cow

Fanfeckintastic · 21/12/2014 19:32

Those saying it's not cheeky are those who feel MILs are a persecuted group and automatically defend the MIL in any post, absolutely regardless of what the post is about

Nope

Katinkka · 21/12/2014 19:32

It's bizarre but I wouldn't fall out over it.. or even mention it.

clairewitchproject · 21/12/2014 19:33

I wasn't pissed off, just agape as I would never do this! I suppose 'shocked admiration at the sheer brass neck' is nearest to describing my feelings. I don't think there is an ex husband sabotage agenda, btw. They have been divorced nearly 40 years and are quite friendly.

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anothernumberone · 21/12/2014 19:35

Those saying it's not cheeky are those who feel MILs are a persecuted group and automatically defend the MIL in any post, absolutely regardless of what the post is about

Not really. I think a hamper is visible and so is everything in it. I think if mil or dm was babysitting they would be welcome to whatever was around. If I has hidden it in my knicker drawer I would feel differently but in this case it would not bother me.

Purplehonesty · 21/12/2014 19:43

Wouldn't bother me if my mil or my dm did that.
If they were doing me the favour of babysitting then they can help themselves to whatever they want!

MammaTJ · 21/12/2014 21:28

I'm amazed at the self control that allows her to open a box of chocs and only eat 3!

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Discopanda · 21/12/2014 21:32

Helping yourself to something in the fridge or cupboards whilst babysitting is fair game but actually going into a hamper that is obviously a present is out of order.

Marmiteandjamislush · 21/12/2014 21:34

Maybe she took them as alimony? I think you are being a weeny bit unreasonable. Maybe leave her some chocolate to eat next time.

EustaciaBenson · 21/12/2014 21:40

Do you think maybe as it was from her exh she got a bit nosy decided to see what was in there, realised she'd crossed a line and ate the chocolates so she coukd use it as an excuse "I was really craving chocolate" rather than "I got a bit carried away being nosy"?

Or is she still of an age to have pms? In which case its completely reasonable and forgivable!

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