Excuse me *please*

[Lurkingintheshadows]

AIBU to find it rude when people just say "excuse me" without adding a "please" on the end? I am hearing it so much now, and I just find it rude.

Depends, everyday I get off the bus as the same people stand in my way. It's hard to be polite when they don't want to move. I have a buggy with a very nearly 1 year old in and I'm 8 months pregnant so I do actually need them to move rather than shuffle over a bit. By the end of the week I forget to be so polite.

It's better than them just shoving past you and saying nothing.

YABU.

"Excuse me" is a polite request in itself.

I must be rude then. I generally say excuse me and then thank you afterwards. I do think excuse me is enough and certainly isn't rude!

I think in MN world you're probably then expected to follow it up with a thank you note - hand written, not typed.

I thought "excuse me" was polite in itself? A polite way of saying "move" or "get out of my way".

Why should I plead with idiots to get out my way. 'Excuse me' is polite enough x

Excuse me is polite. Better than Oi, or move, or get out of my fucking way.

YABU

Agree with PPs - "excuse me" is perfectly polite.

Excuse me please sounds wrong

I tend to go for an "excuse me please" and then "EXCUSE ME" really loud if people don't shift. I think usually it's only the second they hear. I don't see it as rude

excuse me is polite enough, I usually follow with thank you when they have moved

Nancy

I always thought it was polite in itself. I think it's more about the tone of voice. A gentle friendly "excuse me" is much better than a clipped abrupt how dare you be in my way "excuse me please".

Last summer I said a very polite gentle "excuse me" to a couple standing like a pair of lemons in the middle of a tiny cafe in edinburgh, and the woman gave me a death stare and said "please!" I thought that was shockingly rude.

Nancy66
Just had a lol at your comment

I always think "excuse me" means "so sorry for inconveniencing you but I need to get past." and "excuse me please" means "how fucking dare you be in my way - but I am determined to be polite about it."

I guess I must somehow think that if you feel you need to add the please on the end of what is quite a meek request anyway you are being really PA.

My mum has always insisted that "Excuse me" is the polite request, there's no need to add "please"

I remember getting this, was early pregnant and suffering godawful sickness.
One morning I had to jump off the bus urgently as I was about to throw up. Gasped 'excuse me' through gritted teeth most people moved except for one woman who said 'excuse me PLEASE', by that point I had to absolutely throw up and managed to mercifully get off the bus.

Ever since I think people who want to add a 'please' after excuse me are idiots.

If you ask for something, one should say, "Please" as well. Your "Excuse me" is a request - you are asking - for someone to move (in this particular scenario) so should be followed by a 'please' and a naice 'thank you' when you have received it.

Maybe it isn't rude. I don't want to think people are being rude, but I can't help mentally putting a 'please' on the end. Just rounds it off nicely I guess.

I say "sorry, excuse me"

To add please would be a bit much.

I would sound like I was taking the piss.

excuse me is polite enough, I usually follow with thank you when they have moved

^^ followed by a sincere "thank you" once they have made way.

What I bloody hate Is when someone just stands very closely and/or makes little quiet grunty inconvenienced noises under their breath. This will elicit my advising educating them that "a simple polite "excuse me" works like magic"

as balloon says, adding a please at the end turns it into "fucking get out of the way" rather than "could you move over a tad".

YABU, its fine.

Trying to move through a crowd, I emit an ongoing ''scuse me, sorry, thanks, oops, sorry, scuse me' - typically English!