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False allegations

55 replies

IneedtocallSaul · 19/12/2014 17:08

Have name changed but may get outed on this one because I have to include in it some personal information which will correlate with my main name account.

A family member has my property which was given to her without consent by my abusive mum who has since died. I want the stuff back so sent her a polite request for my stuff. Anyway I have now been hit with a formal cease and desist letter in which it claims I regularly check her social media for information about her children. All I stated was I occasionally check Twitter to see pictures of my nephew and niece because I am not allowed to see them in person.

I have been down the police station this afternoon as the letter implies a complaint has been made with the police. They have not made a complaint so far, but a few years back they tried to misuse their position as doctors to get me put under a section 136 of the MHA. I spoke to the police sergeant at the time who said he was not sectioning me as it was down to the police, not my sister to make that judgement call and his judgement was I was stable.

I am very upset by this. Police today said her behaviour was ludicrous and just go straight ahead to small claims. I am seeing a solicitor for advice but cannot do this until January 8th as they are all booked up now.

What has upset me the most is when my mum died my sister blocked me from knowing she was dying and blocked me from the funeral. Mum was not mentally competent to make decisions for herself in the last decade of her life and it breaks my heart that in the end she died all alone. She died just before midnight and sister had left her and gone to bed.

I am not a career criminal, in fact I have a clean record and am upset that I am being treated this way.

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IneedtocallSaul · 20/12/2014 16:50

Responded to cease and desist letter by saying I had been down the police station and the coppers thought the whole thing was ludicrous and nothing I have done constitutes harassment. Says on the official cease and desist letter that if I respond the police will be called immediately.
Following my email back we heard the copper chopper hovering around (we live in a rough area so it often buzzes around overhead) and DH was joking that they were coming for me, but as of yet no police.

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emotionsecho · 20/12/2014 17:01

OP, I think you need to think very carefully about pursuing legal action against your family for the return of the possessions you have listed. Legal cases are tough, and those involving family members are emotionally draining due to them being so personal.

I would certainly look into the possibility of legal action in respect of your mother and father defrauding you out of the money from your house and car, and this may well fall under criminal rather than civil law.

You will need to be very strong to do either and it may well be in your own, and your dh, and children's best interests to do nothing and have absolutely no further contact with your father and siblings.

Bulbasaur · 20/12/2014 17:09

Put your emotions aside.

Will the stuff you recover be worth more than the legal fees you will pay? Is you name on the house deed and your sister living there as defacto owner?

If the answer is no to both these, I'd drop it. It won't be worth the heartache and financial hit to go forward with it.

Don't contact her again. If you are doing legal proceedings it's best to keep the other person in the dark while you prepare so she doesn't have a chance to cover her tracks or hide assets. If you aren't doing legal proceedings, it's just best to cut her from your life completely and move on.

Call the police on your dad if you want to get your cash. He's here now, take advantage of it. Then you can stick it to him when you see him in court saying "I'm so glad we decided to meet".

For now, just cut them out completely and talk to a solicitor about best course of action.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 20/12/2014 17:09

Why did you respond to the letter? It's almost as if it's a big game.I'm not sure why you done that or even took the letter to the police station tbh

Quitethewoodsman · 20/12/2014 17:12

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