to ask... Would you break up with a man that....

[IloveOreossx]

-Makes you feel like shit.
-Makes you feel terrible for asking him to pass you a drink because he has a bad back and youre "Lazy"
-Always throws your past up at you, although his is alot more damning.
-Always says how much he does for you, yet disregards 99% Of what you do for him.
-drops hints that he will break up with you, then retracts it within a day.
-Calls you lazy if you refuse to do anything (ie, a PJ day or something) yet NEVER lifts a finger.
-Ignores you in favour of his PS4.
-Has lied to you 3 times in your relationship (14yrs)
-Never wants to spend time with you.
-Says he will spend time with you, then goes out for 9hrs with his brother.
theres more but I cant think of any atm... I'm really F**king hurting right now. I'm driving myself insane.

bloody hell. don't think i could cope another 20months least of all 20yrs.
I KNOW its the right thing to do. my head knows. time to let my heart catch up.

I've heard from MN that counselling is not a good idea when one party is an abusive twat. I'm sure you haven't been a stoic about your feelings, have you oreos?

He sounds a lot like my exh - note the 'ex'.

5 years down the line and have never been happier.

Do you have dc op? Walk away from the thread, have a cup of tea and a biscuit, watch a soap (or whatever you do to chill out) then come back and reread your op. Imagine it has been written by your daughter/sister/mother/best friend. Think about the things you've gone through and how you would feel if someone precious to you was going through the same - and was putting up with it because things used to be nice. Sometimes seeing things from a more outside point of view helps to crystalise things a little.

It's natural to want something to work or to want the good times back but there comes a point where it has to be accepted that that person/time has gone.