Kissing (almost) adult children

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My partner always kissing his DCs on the lips (ages 16-22, male and female). I find this very uncomfortable - he sees them 50/50, at least 3 times a week so it's not like he doesn't see them often, when they come in he sits there with his lips puckered and they all kiss him on the lips, a couple (there are 4) look uncomfortable.

AIBU to think you don't do this once they are practically or are adults? I hug and kiss my 18yo son (on the cheek) but this lip kissing makes mE uncomfortable, especially as the kids get older.

We are a kissy family. Its normally cheek but occasionally lips. I kiss my mum and dad on lips every now and then.... I'm 34.

No big deal.

Yeah it varies in families. I don't kiss my own parents on the lips (I'm 26 now) I think I stopped when I was a teenager. For us a hug and big kiss on the cheek is fine. My FIL still kisses DP on the lips and he doesn't like it but he doesn't want to say anything to him.

I've got an issue with kissing on lips anyway NOBODY kisses my kids on the mouth always been us kiss them on head cheeks then they kiss back got adult son and 9 yr old .
I was always brought up the same way Very loving family.

I find it weird enough that my in-laws kiss me and DH on the cheek. DH always bans it if they have a coldsore though and will text me to warn me if I'm not with him. My parents will just give a quick hug or shake hands.

Lips -urgh!

Not weird here.

I actually don't kiss my kids on the lips, but DM always did.

Some families do, some families don't. No biggie.

My dad was like this and at about 15 I started dodging and kissing his cheek. I didn't like it at all and mostly because of the puckering.

I'm with you op but then I find physical contact awkward

I still kiss my mum and dad on the lips and I'm 44! It's never occurred to me not to. I also kiss my DDs (10 & 8) on the lips and can't see that stopping. Why should it? Am very surprised at how many people seem to think this is strange

Oh God I kiss everyone on the lips. My kids, my parents, grandparents, in-laws it's just affectionate to me. It's not like big full on snogs.

We have always kissed on the lips, a few of my friends do as well and with my Dcs, just seems very normal to me.

I do find it odd that people feel so strongly about it, some families do some don't, I really can't see the major issue TBH.

If the children are uncomfortable, which you say two are, then he shouldnt do it to them.

My children kiss me on the lips. They are preschoolers. I dont even remember my own parents ever hugging me. Or even putting an arm around me. Or once asking how im feeling after my husband left one year ago. Maybe that why i was such a tart when younger as i was starved of affection ??????

My 80 year old dad kisses me and my sister on the lips but I don't kiss my 20 year old on the lips. I can see your point.

"I find it weird enough that my in-laws kiss me and DH on the cheek."

Bloody hell- don't ever go to Italy on holiday!

I kiss my 20 and almost 18 yo sons on the lips. If they had a problem with it they'd soon say something.

FIL tries to kiss me on the lips, but he can fuck right off!

There were crying woth laughter smilies there too! Tone has changed without them lol.

YANBU my mum did this to us as kids/ adults. I hated it. If I turned to my cheek she would get all offended and upset. She ALWAYS had wet lips too. It was like a dog kissing my face. Eugh! She didnt care that it made all 3 of us VERY uncomfortable.

My 4 are all 6 and under and never kiss them on the lips, cheek or forehead

Not weird in my family... We always kiss hello & goodbye, and lots of hugs in between.
Have a friend who has never kissed her mum.... I can't wrap my head around it! But every family is different....

Lip kissing isn't very convenient though, is it? Noses get in the way. It works for a snog, but I can't see how the practicalities work for a quick, affectionate, family peck.
I wouldn't like it, and I don't do it to DD (she has a few issues with spit, though, and doesn't really like a kiss on skin at all - although she is getting over it). If it works for you, though, and nobody is uncomfortable, I don't see why it's a problem.

I don't think it's weird at all, it's just a personal preference

I do think the whole 'my lips are only for my sexual partner' thing just slightly weird, as if body parts can only be used for one thing? It reminds me of the breastfeeding/breasts as sexual objects thing. All areas used for sexual reasons are multi purpose

My mum does it to me, I don't like it.

I'm a puckerer kiss mum dad and sister on lips, and would others too if they didn't mind it

Melmo Where do you kiss them if not on the lips, cheek or forehead?

TBH if my DCs did not want to kiss on the lips I would be fine with that, woould hate them to feel uncomfortable.

The thought of it gives me the boke so maybe I'm unreasonable too! I don't like anyone touching me though and I'm not a hugger, but I would be really uncomfortable with that.

Meh. I'm 37 and still kiss my mum and dad on the lips. I don't see them that often as we live at opposite ends of the country but when I/they arrive or leave then we have a lip kiss. There's nothing weird or sexual about it and I'm not in the least uncomfortable with it. I would find it odd if anyone was uncomfortable witnessing it - think it says more about them than us.

Golly, I kiss lots of people on the lips. I don't have children but hsband obviously yes, parents (I am 38), friends (male and female, close or not). Not my brother, I'm lucky if I get a handshake there. I respect family/friends' childrens' preferences on it, but if they go for a smacker, I'm happy to oblige (less so when they are snotty).