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Charlullaby · 14/12/2014 23:09

Been for a weekend away with the family. We got home late and we had cheese and biscuits as a kind of supper. I wasn't very hungry so I just had a couple of grapes.

My bil then said - Charl thats the healthiest thing I've ever seen you eat.

He didn't say it in a jokey way either.

I'm around a size 12 and I don't eat bad, I always eat fruit and veg every day.

Am I too sensitive? I just wouldn't dream of commenting on what people eat or their habits. Especially when everyone is sat around the table together.

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SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 14/12/2014 23:10

Yes, you are being too sensitive Confused.

JustMuddlingBobBobBobbingAlong · 14/12/2014 23:11

Perhaps you were stressed after spending time away with extended family. But I think you're being over sensitive. Sorry.

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Charlullaby · 14/12/2014 23:15

I suppose I just didn't like the fact he seemed to be implying that I eat really bad food all the time.

I've known him 8 years, and he acts shocked when I eat a grape.

Just make me feel quite shit Sad

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PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 14/12/2014 23:15

Way to sensitive.

I eat heathy at home, but out I let it slip.

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Charlullaby · 14/12/2014 23:17

It wouldn't have bothered me if he meant just the weekend.

But he meant ever, as in the full 8 years we've known each other.

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JassyRadlett · 14/12/2014 23:18

Actually, OP, it's a fucking weird thing for someone to say. I wouldn't have known how to take it.

Eminado · 14/12/2014 23:19

It doesn't matter. You know what you eat. Just ignore.

notenoughwine · 14/12/2014 23:20

I'd say it really depends on his personality and your relationship with him. Is he someone who tries to pick on others or say things to try and being them down? And is he a bit mean or cold with you?

I probably wouldn't read too much into it but maybe you're not being over sensitive.

Discopanda · 14/12/2014 23:20

If you feel self-conscious already those little 'harmless' comments can really hurt! Does he often make comments about your eating habits, appearance, etc?

Fuckmath · 14/12/2014 23:21

YANBU

I would have been Hmm

honeysucklejasmine · 14/12/2014 23:22

I'd be upset. Unnecessary of him to make any sort of comment at all really.

CheeseBuster · 14/12/2014 23:24

I think you sound a bit sensitive. Was it the end of a long weekend?

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Charlullaby · 14/12/2014 23:24

Its not the type of comment he would say to my parents or his wife (my sister)

I'm sensitive about my weight and just thought that comment was not necessary.

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Charlullaby · 14/12/2014 23:27

I suppose I just don't watch what other people eat. I don't care ... they are adults that can decide for themselves what to eat and when to stop.

I wish I was someone who would have forgot that comment but I felt very Confused when and after he said it.

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ThatWasThat · 14/12/2014 23:29

Could he have just thought he was being witty?

sykadelic · 15/12/2014 02:59

Nope not too sensitive. It's never appropriate to discuss someone elses eating habits, weight, appearance or anything else negative unless expressly invited to do so "does this look okay?" (or they're about to walk out of the bathroom with loo paper hanging out).

Very rude.

PotteringAlong · 15/12/2014 03:37

I think you're over thinking this onw

Mrsstarlord · 15/12/2014 03:52

Too sensitive, you've just said as much yourself.
Let it go - to be sung whilst thinking 'fuck him, I love me'

Yarp · 15/12/2014 04:54

I think he was rude

MrsMaker83 · 15/12/2014 05:29

He sounds like an idiot. Why was he taking note of everything you ate?!

Chottie · 15/12/2014 05:36

I just wondered why he had to comment?!?

Seriouslyffs · 15/12/2014 05:36

Definitely rude.

NoelleHawthorne · 15/12/2014 06:02

Oh god move on

velourvoyageur · 15/12/2014 06:09

I think you're too sensitive, sorry OP.
It's not a crime to be fat (not that you are), it's fine, and it's not a crime to not eat healthily either (not that you don't).
You need to let silly judgyness like that roll off your back.

Can definitely see the situation and it's just a casual remark. Taken out of context it's slightly weird I suppose but when everyone's around the table, joking, maybe a bit tired....doubt he meant it pointedly at all!

velourvoyageur · 15/12/2014 06:12

I'm imagining myself taking offence to being told this when I'm having dinner with my family- they would think I was very very strange, I'm cringing thinking about it actually! Because that's just what they do, exaggerate to tease and get a laugh. My point is just that everyone has different levels of resistance caused by who knows what ....was he brought up differently to you?